Introductions to new kitty!!

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We got a new kitty yesterday afternoon, her name is Grace. Shes a GORGEOUS petite black kitty (very black & shiny coat). She's 1 year old and spayed. We got her from this FABULOUS shelter called N.O.A.H it's a non-profit place, very successful and very awesome.

Grace is very mellow.. super sweet & friendly. She is not afraid of anything at all. Shes ALWAYS purring and wanting to be touched/held. We have a minature jack russel dog and another 7 year old male cat. Grace's old home consisted of MANY dogs/cats so figured she would adjust with our other dog/cat.

We set up our bedroom as the "sanctuary room" for Grace.. with her own litter box, food, water, bed.. etc. It was the only room we really could do this in. We were a little concerned because our other cat, Tommy, tends to sleep in there at night. We werent sure how he would handle being locked out. So I slept out on the couch with him last night.. he was a happy boy all snuggled up in the hook of my arm, lol... but I cant do this every night for weeks.

Well 1st day went good for the most part.. Grace was a very happy cat and loves her room. She didn't tremble and go into hiding. It was as if she's always been there. She explored with full enthuasism. We visited her many many times throughout the day to give her love & attention. The shelter told us, when she's ready to meet the tohers or see the rest of the house she'll let you know... and she's already been trying to escape out of the room and wanting out.

We allowed our dog & grace to meet... our dog is very friendly and loves every animal on the planet so we weren't too concerned. Their meeting went pretty well.. they got along & played. We will continue to give them time to play and get to know eachother before letting them roam unsupervised together. Our other cat, tommy, is another story. He is highly territorial and the alpha. He always have dominated other cats in our homes in the past (lost 2 kittys to cancer in the last 6 months). But he never attacked or was mean to them. They just co-existed pretty well and got along.

Tommy is comfortable sitting/laying on the other side of the door of where grace is staying. His behavior is fine.. He is still being the loving sweet cat he is. He isnt bothered by the new kitty smell on me. he lets me pet/hold/love him. HOWEVER, when they see eachother.. through a door crack or what not.. He growls & hisses at her.

My question is... How do I know when is a good time to let them meet face to face for the first time (without the door crack)?? Do I wait until he no longer growls/hisses at her through the door cracks anymore? Grace does not seem afraid of him at all.. She is very curious and wants to run to him and say Hi. I, of course, had to stop her before she could push her way through the door crack.
 

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I recently added a kitten to my one cat household. Dusty is 6 and our new kitten is 4 mos. Because Dusty is so much older, she is annoyed at Squeak's playfulness, and will still hiss and swipe at her if she feels her space is being invaded. Other than that they have learned to co-exist. Dusty may never be loving toward Squeak, but they can be alone together.

Your Tommy may be alpha cat to Grace and put her in her place, but I think they are ready to meet face to face. It will take a couple of weeks before he doesn't hiss everytime he sees her, but he will adjust.

You might try the washcloth scent swap until they are both used to each other, but I doubt that you will have serious problems.
 

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Originally Posted by eyemadreamer

We got a new kitty yesterday afternoon, her name is Grace. Shes a GORGEOUS petite black kitty (very black & shiny coat). She's 1 year old and spayed. We got her from this FABULOUS shelter called N.O.A.H it's a non-profit place, very successful and very awesome.

Grace is very mellow.. super sweet & friendly. She is not afraid of anything at all. Shes ALWAYS purring and wanting to be touched/held. We have a minature jack russel dog and another 7 year old male cat. Grace's old home consisted of MANY dogs/cats so figured she would adjust with our other dog/cat.

We set up our bedroom as the "sanctuary room" for Grace.. with her own litter box, food, water, bed.. etc. It was the only room we really could do this in. We were a little concerned because our other cat, Tommy, tends to sleep in there at night. We werent sure how he would handle being locked out. So I slept out on the couch with him last night.. he was a happy boy all snuggled up in the hook of my arm, lol... but I cant do this every night for weeks.

Well 1st day went good for the most part.. Grace was a very happy cat and loves her room. She didn't tremble and go into hiding. It was as if she's always been there. She explored with full enthuasism. We visited her many many times throughout the day to give her love & attention. The shelter told us, when she's ready to meet the tohers or see the rest of the house she'll let you know... and she's already been trying to escape out of the room and wanting out.

We allowed our dog & grace to meet... our dog is very friendly and loves every animal on the planet so we weren't too concerned. Their meeting went pretty well.. they got along & played. We will continue to give them time to play and get to know eachother before letting them roam unsupervised together. Our other cat, tommy, is another story. He is highly territorial and the alpha. He always have dominated other cats in our homes in the past (lost 2 kittys to cancer in the last 6 months). But he never attacked or was mean to them. They just co-existed pretty well and got along.

Tommy is comfortable sitting/laying on the other side of the door of where grace is staying. His behavior is fine.. He is still being the loving sweet cat he is. He isnt bothered by the new kitty smell on me. he lets me pet/hold/love him. HOWEVER, when they see eachother.. through a door crack or what not.. He growls & hisses at her.

My question is... How do I know when is a good time to let them meet face to face for the first time (without the door crack)?? Do I wait until he no longer growls/hisses at her through the door cracks anymore? Grace does not seem afraid of him at all.. She is very curious and wants to run to him and say Hi. I, of course, had to stop her before she could push her way through the door crack.
I applaud everything you have done and are doing to introduce her into your home! You are doing everything right! Grace being inquisitive and open, wanting to explore means she is comfortable, non threatened and willing. However, this doesn't mean Tommy is willing to except her in the home yet, his domain..... It's not a good sign for him to hiss at her shadow under the door, or hiss at all through the door. It is completely different introducing 2 adult cats versus adult and kitten, in your/their situation you are doing everything correctly which not only avoids scuffle, but negative behavior such as urinating outside litter.
Honestly I say trust your instincts, don't push the intro if there are signs of aggression or fear. Another method is to place one in a carrier and allow the other to approach, but this only works if they can be relaxed in the carrier, otherwise it's trapping them, they feel cornered.
I have to tell you how refreshing it is to read a thread about someone who obviously wants the best for their pets and family! When you mentioned you slept on the couch to keep your Tommy happy, and set up the bedroom for Grace, I would do the same, without a thought!
 
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Thank you both for great input & ideas!!


Here is an update:
Tonight I decided it was time to let them out together under supervision. It went as expected.. Tommy hissed/growled at Grace if she came too close. But other than that, tommy watched her and laid on the carpet... He was semi-relaxed.. let me pet & comfort him. Grace is being a smart kitty and keeping her distant though I can tell she is majorly curious!! If Grace goes out of sight, tommy moves so that he can watch her. He hasn't made any effort in attacking Grace although he does swipe at Bella (dog) if she gets too close to him. I figure this is probably just because of a scent confusion.

Edit: More to update.... they still have not approached one another. but tommy does seem a little more tolerant of grace. he stalks her a little bit just to see where she is and what she is doing.. i think they both are highly curious of one another but still too nervous to approach eachother.
 
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