Care to share your divorce stories?

I am going through a very emotionally hard divorce at the moment, and I was just wondering if any of you would care to share your divorce stories, good or bad with me, or should I say us?

omg, honey that was the funniest little series of emoticons.

I can tell you my parents got divorced in '03, and have both very happily moved on with new partners. They are still *friends* and talk quite regularily when it comes to the kids & what not.

I think it was the best thing for them both, they are MUCH MUCH happier now. It wasn't always easy, there was allot of hard-feelings, allot of crying but now that's all over.

I know my husband's family can't believe how well my parents still get along but it was a pretty easy divorce (my mom moved on in a same-sex partnership) so as I tell everyone it was a pretty black/white situation - no mixed feelings for sure! Once those papers were signed there was NO going back.

Aw, Susie I am so sorry to hear that.

I don't have any stories to share, just wanted to extend some lovin vibes!

My divorce was actually done while we were living 3,000 miles away from each other. We were legally separated while living in CA, a year later I returned home to NJ since what is where my family is. My X and I decided that whoever wanted a divorce would pay for it and that was fine.

A year or so later he wanted to re-marry so he sent me divorce papers which I signed and sent back to his lawyer, the only thing I asked was that I get my maiden name back and I did. The divorce was an easy one, we had always remained friends.

The legal separation was where we divided everything up and he bought me out of the house, everything worked out fine. Everything worked out so well, people wondered why we were getting divorced My answer to that was you can fall out of love as well as falling into it.

Sorry you're having a hard time with your divorce but this too shall pass. There is nothing worse than being in an unhappy marriage. Sending good vibes your way

LR reminded me there was a FANTASTIC documentary on CBC last year about colaberative divorces, it was very interesting!

I'm sorry I was so charmed by the smilies I forgot your:

for finding a happy future .

I have no stories but I do hope things go well for you! It probably seems hard now, but I'm sure it'll get easier. I do know my grandparents divorced two years ago and my grandma was in tears, but now she's a lot happier! Maybe you'll be too!

No stories of my own here. But want to add my I'm sorry to be hearing this sad news.

But I know you are strong and you have your kitties to help you thru this.

Be careful and make sure you have a good lawyer.

I got landed with $30,000 (no typo) in debt...back taxes, and credit cards. It took me 11 years to pay it off. I just payed the last of it this past February.

None of the debt was mine. I had no debt when we married. He was, unbeknown to me, opening credit cards in my name, and had his own business, put in my name and ss #, and never filed any taxes for the business for a couple years. So to protect my own credit rating, I paid it all. I did indeed protect my credit, I have a 840 score.

yeah, I got screwed. And I had a lousy lawyer. But it was an abuse situation and I was so beaten into the ground all I wanted was for it to be over. It is, now, finally.

Originally Posted by kittylover4ever

I am going through a very emotionally hard divorce at the moment, and I was just wondering if any of you would care to share your divorce stories, good or bad with me, or should I say us?

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HUGS!!! I'm sorry to hear this. I will share my story,when I get more time

Originally Posted by otto

Be careful and make sure you have a good lawyer.

I got landed with $30,000 (no typo) in debt...back taxes, and credit cards. It took me 11 years to pay it off. I just payed the last of it this past February.

None of the debt was mine. I had no debt when we married. He was, unbeknown to me, opening credit cards in my name, and had his own business, put in my name and ss #, and never filed any taxes for the business for a couple years. So to protect my own credit rating, I paid it all. I did indeed protect my credit, I have a 840 score.

yeah, I got screwed. And I had a lousy lawyer. But it was an abuse situation and I was so beaten into the ground all I wanted was for it to be over. It is, now, finally.

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Oh my goodness! I know it for sure now, I will never, ever get married.
So sorry you had to go through that.

oh no susie!!!

My ex sat on our jointly owned house before I had to take him to court to sell it so that I could have some money of my own to buy another. In the process, he burned me on tax returns so as a parting gesture, I filed amended returns for the 2 years he burned me which got the IRS to audit him for the next 5 years. And his birthday was April 15th. Happy birthday!

My poor niece is going thru a nasty divorce right now. Her marriage is about 5 years old and he came home about a few months ago and announced that he was tired of her and was moving in with another woman. He hadn't worked for more than a few months at a time on and off throughout their marriage and my poor niece paid all the bills, and took care of their daughter. So the fool actually asked her to give him the house and the brand new car so that he could move in there with his new girl friend (who by the way is still married herself). My niece has filed for bankruptcy and her soon to be ex told her that she should take a 3rd job to keep the house so he can have it. He took my niece to court this past Monday because she is trying to move back home to her mothers (in another state) and he doesn't want her to leave. He was nearly laughed out of court when his side of the story was told. And through all of this, the girlfriend has asked my niece to be her friend. And to top it off, the girlfriend's 3 kids were taken away from her and are in protective custody.

When I think things are bad, I just think of my poor niece.

On our tenth wedding anniversary, I woke up to see my my husband glaring at me. He declared, he didn't want to play house any longer. Then her proceeded to follow through with our celebration plans His best friend and fiancee were treating us to a day at a well-known amusement park. To say i was shell-shocked is putting it mildly. I rode every roller coaster there hoping the support would give way and I would plunge to my death. I am scared of roller coasters.

The next day, I came home from work early to find him in a compromising position with his best friends fiancee- I threw them both out. He vanished the next few days but not before leaving me with only the waterbed frame and a non-working television. He cleaned me out when I was at work. I changed the locks, so then he proceeded to clean out our joint bank account.

Took me two years to locate him and serve him divorce papers. The divorce was quick and painless as we had no children and he had sold everything that was of value-

Yes he was a snake, but he was also chemically dependent which made him unstable. He has since been through rehab and we have mended fences and are now friends. He did marry the best friend's girl but it only lasted 6 months. He is unmarried and recently moved to Oregon but thankfully he is miles away from us.

My ex "left" me for kiddie porn. He spent the last 5 or 6 years either on the computer talking about children or trading pictures. He got caught and is in federal prison. Needless to say that particular crime was unforgivable. I divorced him quietly and have recently remarried and am very happy. There is love again, even after the messiest marriage and divorce.

I don't have any stories, but I wanted to say "SORRY HONEY!!!"

My mom's been divorced twice. The first one I was too young to remember much, but I was 14 for the second one and it was really hard on me. I got so depressed that summer. I never really forgave my mom for that. It was better for my step dad in the end, he's very happy now.

Nothing for me as I've never been married but my boyfriend's brother's situation is a little interesting. His brother was off serving his second tour in Iraq, his sister-in-law cheated on him during his tour sometime in '08 (this was the second time she did this). They file divorce papers in spring as his sister in law basically left the house. In May/June sister-in-law discovers she got pregnant by one of her flings (def. not the brothers since he's fixed and he was already dating someone else). Their cooling period/waiting period is over with next month. She is not getting anything out of this settlement. He is renting the house out (hopefully before it gets foreclosed on), they have joint custody of the kids and she will get $700/mo in child support. Somehow she thinks she can live off this or find a job as a bartender now...hahaha. Her only skill is to keep bar patrons happy, serve draft beer & mix cocktails.

Oh, Susie, I'm so sorry, hon. I'm a child of divorce, and it can be really rough, but my parents stayed friends, and I love them all the more for it.

If you want to vent, I'll be happy to be an ear/shoulder for you.

My heart goes out to you and everyone in your household. My parents divorced after they both turned 60 years old (imagine?)

They sold the house under "distress sale" status. The buyer was thrilled to buy at a superb price (Being at the right place at the right time, he easily saved at least $220,000. Never remind my brother of this fact. He gets upset just thinking about it)

Have a hug. From me to you.

Oh Susie, I don't have any stories, but just want to add my "I'm so sorry to hear this" to the thread ((((hugs)))) my friend. And you know where to find me if you need to talk...anytime!