Originally Posted by calico2222
You know what really bothers me about this thread? We are supposed to be a community, not only of cat lovers, but of friends. I am really disturbed how many people posted that she was wrong. She already KNOWS she did wrong. It takes a lot of courage to admit to someone, in fact a group of people (even over the internet) that she made wrong choices. I honestly admire her for that. Sometimes it's easier to share things first with people that you don't know personally.
It just makes me sad that people are putting her down for what she did in the past. All the people that just condemned her....do YOU have a personality disorder, or even know what that entails?
I agree, she needs help and maybe medication. But what happened, has happened and it's in the past. Now, I think she needs the support the get on with the future and love and care for the kitties that she has. And, if this is a "hoax" person just looking for attention, then I'm a sucker, but I don't think she is. I think she is actually someone that is looking for support and guidance.
I'm sorry if I made anyone mad with this post, but it really makes me think twice about sharing things here.
Sometimes coddling and "forgiving" someone isn't the right course of action. Yes some are condemning, and I can understand that. What's occurred to those cats is awful. It is. People have a right to have feelings about that.
I disagree about having the courage to admit it here. That doesn't take that much courage. Nobody here is in her "real life". If she didn't get the response she was seeking, she'll leave...no harm done. Nobody even knows her name. Real courage would be to make moves to change the behavior, and to admit them to people who are actually in her life.
Encouraging her to seek treatment for her disorder is the right course of action. To not address that, and to just "forgive" her, and hope she does better is merely enabling the behavior. It solves nothing.
Originally Posted by meminikitty
People just need to cool off a bit. She only admitted this yesterday. People are ranting a bit right now, but pretty soon they'll forgive her.
Because everyone is so good on this forum.
Again, it's not for us to "forgive". She needs help, and I'll keep saying so until my fingers fall off from typing. Not everything in life, and on these forums is cute kittens, and everyone just loving each other. Life is messy, and some people have problems. You want to make up a story about what happened to the cats she abandoned on a doorstep. That's sweet, but that's not reality. The reality is that one of the cats came back, but the other two didn't. The reality is that it's very possible that they are no longer alive. The only way her current cats don't befall the same fate is if she gets help. So no, I won't back off. I will not enable her behavior.
I cannot sit on my hands when the lives of so many animals are at stake.
Encouraging her to get help is the right course of action. It's the one thing that can actually help her and the cats...the only thing.