Originally Posted by ut0pia
and we just do it for the same reason we'd use a stress ball, not causing any harm to the guy.
Stress ball may be a good idea!
I think I just need to go back to playing hockey, gets all the aggression out.
The difference between an abusive relationship and a loving one is when I ask
hubby, which shirt should I wear? He gives me an honest & loving answer "the blue one makes you look chubby, but the pink one looks really hot". I love my man
but I'm not just bragging, victims frequently try to normalize their abusers behaviour. If what he's doing or saying doesn't make you feel good, that a really bad sign. You can't be happy ALL the time in a relationship, life has it's ups & downs; but you should never be miserable or feel bad about yourself!
If hubby asks me about what I'm doing on the computer it's because he's curious not because he's insanely jealous I might be talking to other men. I told him yesterday I opened up my old google messenger (which I haven't used in 3 - 4 years) and his old messenger name was on there from when we FIRST met. He did ask "Oh I bet you had a bunch of old boyfriends on there too" I said "yes" he asked, "well did you talk to them?" I said "Of course not, I deleted them all right away, I have no interest in talking to any of them". So he's a little jealous, but it's not like he checked or went into some sort of insane rage that I might still have some sort of way of communicating with old boyfriends.
He just thinks I'm really strange for posting on a cat-forum, but understands I'm home all day with the little man & occasionally need some human contact
I feel comfortable enough with my man I let him on my facebook (since he doesn't use his
) to talk to his friends. If he gets hit-on at the grocery store (it happens often, he's pretty cute
) he'll come running home to me to tell me about it & we have a good laugh. Last week he went to a hockey game with a single buddy and helped his friends pick up some girls
. He's a friendly & outgoing person but I don't have to worry he's going to leave me for a 19 year old because we love each other. Plus his friend is REALLY shy and needs someone to break the ice for him!
That's what a relationship should be like. We still fight like cats & dogs some days but there is always love & support, no matter what. We never hold things in, if he does something that annoys me, he's going to hear about it! I never have to worry that me screaming at him about leaving dirty underwear in the bathroom instead of the hamper means I'm going to be hit. It just means me might actually pick it up for a change (if I'm lucky
AJ- that's really funny because our dogs step in when we play-fight but our cats couldn't care less! Shelly (the pup we're sitting) got REALLY upset when I pretended to beat Hubby up last night over something he said, but she was HIS dog long before he met me
. Kayla & Madison (our dogs) are always on my side though.