He has no job and no car those are huge
red flags to me. Does he still live with his parents too?
Not to offend you or anything dear, but I agree with everyone saying that you need to run as fast as you can in the other direction because this is a one way ticket to a very very unhealthy relationship.
It is not worth your time or effort to try to change this man, especially when he's already deemed himself untrustworthy. Not putting a condom on...seriously? Screw the fact that he might get you knocked up and start thinking about how he might give you a nasty disease.
You have your whole life ahead of you to find a good man, but the longer you try to make this relationship work, the less time you'll be able to spend looking for a man with a car and a job and the means and motivation to take care of you like a woman should be cared for and not the other way around!
To be honest, you'll probably end up feeling more like a mother to this guy than a woman in an intimate relationship.
But don't feel bad for getting into this relationship or making the choice to have sex. It takes a different amount of time for everyone to get to that point. For me, I slept with my fiance on our first date
. And two years later with a ring on my finger we proved that you don't need to wait and "date" for a long period of time before engaging in a sexual relationship. And if you happened to be lonely or need the comfort of another person, big deal! =) Happens every day, the key is to know what is bad for you
and what is good for you
. And ultimately what happens here can only be your decision and shouldn't be influenced by anyone else or what we think.
And about the pill. I take it and it works well for me, but for women who don't like the idea of birth control, I always like to say that there are more options than condoms. Have you considered NON hormonal birth control?
Paraguard is excellent for women who are afraid of the side effects that hormonal birth control can bring.
Personally, I think the pro's outweigh the con's, especially if you are a person with low finances or someone who is pro-life.