How to meet new people?

One really good place is at a small private college. A religious one, if that's your cup of tea. I know a guy who had a BA already, but went back to college for a year or two to find a wife. He was successful, and they are still happily married 35 years later.

This is especially true at a small college that has dorms. This limits the outside interaction, and the dorm students do seem pretty successful at finding mates. I and both my college roommates met our wives in college. And the good news is that to a large extent, you CAN determine a person's character fairly well in a situation like that.

Going to the University of Texas at Austin would probably not be anywhere near as successful for this purpose.

Originally Posted by mrblanche

One really good place is at a small private college. A religious one, if that's your cup of tea. I know a guy who had a BA already, but went back to college for a year or two to find a wife. He was successful, and they are still happily married 35 years later.

This is especially true at a small college that has dorms. This limits the outside interaction, and the dorm students do seem pretty successful at finding mates. I and both my college roommates met our wives in college. And the good news is that to a large extent, you CAN determine a person's character fairly well in a situation like that.

Going to the University of Texas at Austin would probably not be anywhere near as successful for this purpose.

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I'm done with school for now and have a career. I do go to the gym 2-3 times a week, am active in audubon, am constantly out running errands, and started going to B&N to just hang out to read and watch people. I do go out with a friend of mine for a drink every now and then also.

It's tough to meet people of the appropriate age once you're out of school. And dating people at work is generally a very bad idea. I don't envy you.

And, as I said, the friend I mentioned did already have a career when he went back to school.

Originally Posted by Snake_Lady

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Good luck with meeting someone

Remember tho, it usually happens when you aren't deliberately "looking".

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I second that! It was true for me.

I just signed up for match.com. I made a profile, but didn't pay. I guess I will find out.

I think the internet is a great tool to meet new people.

I met Cody online, on World of Warcraft actually.


But I've met many nice and good long term friends all over on the internet. I find it easier to meet people online because it gives them a chance to know me before they judge me based on appearances, which is what makes it hard for me to approach people and converse with them.

People can sometimes be so shallow and judgemental. I hate to say it, but I doubt my Fiance would have even looked twice at me had he just passed me on the street or been able to see me before what was inside.

It's pretty much all been said - get out and meet people. If it suits, hit a cat or dog or general pet show, find a group activity that interests you - books, knitting, whatever, do coffee rounds with office acquaintences that you can tolerate. A word of caution, though, don't get stuck in a rut - I did/am and have a horrible time relating to men that do not race harness horses or farm, and am alone with my cats and retired race horses. If you find men have trouble with cats/dogs/fish, try horses - that is a whole nother ball game!!!LOL

TigerOnTheProwl is right about bars, at least where we live - it just doesnt work. Not even in a little town like I am in and worse actually in a small town, you see the same faces you went to school with, just older and saggier!

I tried match.com in the past, but, beware that people will lie and post pictures that don't resemble them currently at all.

A male friend found success in a horse forum because he raises horses and just happened to meet a very nice girl on there and they met and got married rather quickly. Very happy couple.

I think the best way is to have friends introduce you, meet doing something you really love to do like swimming, hiking, even restaurant clubs. Meetup.com is good for searching for special interests and joining in.

I loved internet dating when i was single. I am not very shy, but i dont like to go out very often. I had very few friends to go out with anyway. I didnt find anyone long term via a internet dating site, but i had a ton of fun.

Wanna hear geeky? Out of my last four boyfriends, three i met on World of Warcraft LOL. The other one was my boss....ekkkk, ya that was bad news.

I never had a problem with fake pics on the internet. Everyone of course used their best pic so it wasnt toally accurate. I never had a guy say he was 6 foot and was really only 4. Or a guy that said he was 30 yrs old, but was 50 or anything like that. My experience was pretty honest.

I can tell you that if i was single now i would be able to meet a lot of men either at the grocery store, Chapters (book store), or dog park.

Over the last few years, I have tried to follow the same bit of sage-like wisdom, when faced with pangs of longing for a human-based relationship:

To hell with people. Get another cat.

Sure, there's a downside. You become socially retarded and unable to relate to people on any level. Buuuut...you'll have lots of cats.

Originally Posted by Keycube

Over the last few years, I have tried to follow the same bit of sage-like wisdom, when faced with pangs of longing for a human-based relationship:

To hell with people. Get another cat.

Sure, there's a downside. You become socially retarded and unable to relate to people on any level. Buuuut...you'll have lots of cats.

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And then you begin to meow spontaneously. Hey, I am not kidding. I used to meow to my self after 10yrs of just me and the cats. I found it comforting. When I met Hubby, I lost that weird habit. I now only meow if there is a cat in the room. Goofy.