Hi Im new here and hope to get some answers if u could, as I am very sad to the new behavior I am seeing from my baby 'Toonces" ( and yes he looks just like Toonces the Driving Cat from SNL..lol )
Ok Toonces is or at least was THE MOST AFFECTIONATE LOVING CAT THERE WAS!! I have had my share of many cats thruout the years .. but this boy was special
.. he was the kind of cat that would cuddles with me nose to nose lay his head on my pillow at night and headbutt me with nuuuuuuuuumerous kisses .. sometimes to the point when I have to say .. 'ok.. Toonce thats enough'..lol and then kiss his lil head and hope he stops kissing me .. Ooooooonly to then have him proceed to lick and clean my hand , face.. and then I laugh and we go to bed.. as he used to love to sleep with me!!.. But I have noticed that most recently he has stopped doing that .. and is not as affectionate at all.. I hardly hear him purring when I scratch and pet him.. as he used to purr soooooooo loud and often.. now mind u he is a baby only 3 yrs old so he isnt old enough to just stop.. I did read about that .. as that is sad! But something is wrong here.. he has a brother.. (not blood) but he loves very much and used to headbutt him too with kisses and rub up all on him often .. only to see he is not only acting distant to me.. but to his brother as well.
Now the only thing that has changed over the past few months was that my longdistance boyfriend of 4 years has actually moved closer and is now staying over on the weekends.. But let me tell u .. this man is very affectionate to the boys and the boys show affection and luv to him as well.. but it is understood when he is here they both sleep on the bed with us.. just Toonce wont sleep on my pillow alllll the time.. which is ok.. But when said boyfriend is gone for the mon-thurs .. I would think we would go back to the nose to nose thingie and all would be good.. However he hasnt been really wanting to do that with me... and it makes me sad .. very sad cuz I miss his affectionate side alot .. and seems like he is acting out like a teenager would or something.. I dunno!
But he is happy and excited around dinner time
.. that is when him and his bro go outside in the backyard and play with the other 2 stray cats that have been their buddies for years (I had them both spayed and their shots)as it is the cutest thing .. Its like .. 'hey ma, I wanna go play with my friends..'' lol so I let them out for a few hours they play.. sometimes I take the laser light out and mess with them...they all have fun.. then they come in..though I have noticed that lately it is harder getting Toonces to come in for the night..so ugggg!! again.. rebelious teenager .. doesnt come when I call him.. and yes he did use to .. he knows some 'fetching' tricks and all too.. my cats I have trained to do things that well I am sure not most cats can do ..and well he isnt really down for those types of things either now , he just looks at me like.. "pfft whatever" and I just dont know why.. Also another thing.. he used to look me in the eyes before he headbutted me with love and kisses and all.. and I mean like 20 a day ~to nothing ..or maybe one or 2 at that.. so I am really confused and would like to know what u think??
oooh and one more thing~ the boyfriend is moving in come September and I really hope things go back to normal.. or else I dread it may get worse.. Is he jealous maybe .. even though we both go out of our way to show him love?? I just dont get it!
Thanks so much
Miss my baby Toonces
Ok Toonces is or at least was THE MOST AFFECTIONATE LOVING CAT THERE WAS!! I have had my share of many cats thruout the years .. but this boy was special
Now the only thing that has changed over the past few months was that my longdistance boyfriend of 4 years has actually moved closer and is now staying over on the weekends.. But let me tell u .. this man is very affectionate to the boys and the boys show affection and luv to him as well.. but it is understood when he is here they both sleep on the bed with us.. just Toonce wont sleep on my pillow alllll the time.. which is ok.. But when said boyfriend is gone for the mon-thurs .. I would think we would go back to the nose to nose thingie and all would be good.. However he hasnt been really wanting to do that with me... and it makes me sad .. very sad cuz I miss his affectionate side alot .. and seems like he is acting out like a teenager would or something.. I dunno!
But he is happy and excited around dinner time
oooh and one more thing~ the boyfriend is moving in come September and I really hope things go back to normal.. or else I dread it may get worse.. Is he jealous maybe .. even though we both go out of our way to show him love?? I just dont get it!
Thanks so much
Miss my baby Toonces