You're a better woman than I am. I would never have given him the credit card and would probably have asked the bank to not allow any debit transactions on his debit card if he had one. If his mother is so adamant that he go with her, let her pay his expenses.
His actions show a total lack of respect, love or appreciation of you or your daughter. Getting angry doesn't hurt anyone but you. He's still on vacation and blowing money so isn't particularly worried about you being upset IMO.
I certainly don't advocate leaving him, but I would rethink what kind of future and old age we would have together and honestly, at the age of 62, I don't want or need that kind of stress in my life and I would be on my own.
Anyway, be strong, and stick to your beliefs.