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post #1 of 24
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Ok, so I have six cats, five brothers, one is a kitty I found in the middle of the road with a vulture standing over him. They're all boys. And I have two dogs (one male one female). So I work in a vet clinic and today I had a groom; a lion cut on a cat that was matted so bad and so tight that her hair came off in one giant mat. Horrible! She was SO sweet though I just wanted to take her home with me. She was grey and looked just like my first cat only with longer hair. I had to have her put to sleep a few years ago. She was gray with orange eyes. So what do I do? I start thinking about adopting a cat, a grey senior or special needs, one that might have a hard time being placed. I found a cat at one of the humane societies that has a heart murmer, she's older and declawed and a long haired calico. That's all it says about her so she might not get along with cats or dogs and heck, with the adoption applications that rescues have I probably wouldnt fit the criteria anyways, they'd probably think I have too many animals already.
But I have a big house and I can afford to take care of them all! But anyhow, someone needs to talk some sense into me! What am I thinking thinking about another cat! I have six! I keep going back and forth between thinking I'll call and find out how long she's been there and anything else I can about her tomorrow and thinking I've lost my mind.
post #2 of 24
You're asking the wrong group of people to "talk some sense" into you!
post #3 of 24
I doubt anyone will tell you different.

If you can afford to, I'm sure that long-haired beauty would love to come home with you
post #4 of 24
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Originally Posted by Going Nova View Post
You're asking the wrong group of people to "talk some sense" into you!

Put me with a big house and $$$........ I don't think the number would be six .
Hey, you can afford it, you have the space, you work in a vet clinic, and you are a cat lover...... I don't think anyone will have some "sense" to put into you!!! You are not a hoarder! You silly girl! I'd saaaaaaayyy...... go get that ex-fluffy love bug!!
post #5 of 24
i have a small house and 9 cats
post #6 of 24
Do you own the house? Are you likely to get kicked out of it for any reason? Could you still afford to look after all of your current animals if this older girl develops health issues?

What if this new kitty doesn't get on with your current crew?
post #7 of 24
Thread Starter 
Do you own the house? Are you likely to get kicked out of it for any reason?

I do own so that doesn't present any problems

Could you still afford to look after all of your current animals if this older girl develops health issues?

Since I work at a vet clinic I get everything at cost so I don't think that would be a problem.

What if this new kitty doesn't get on with your current crew?

I've been thinking about that too. She'd have to go back if it didn't work out but they did accept Munchkin and they all get along great with him, even though he's not one of the brothers.
post #8 of 24
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I doubt anyone will tell you different.

If you can afford to, I'm sure that long-haired beauty would love to come home with you

I agree!

My rental agency doesn't allow pets, but they turn a blind eye to the factt hat I have 2 cats. I've been wanting to get a third; a companion for Abby because she so loves to cuddle. But Chynna is 17 and set in her ways and didn't take to having Abby brought in 11 years ago. She still doesn't really like Abby and simply only tolerates her, so I have no reason to believe that she would be any different with another cat. Chynna is queen of the house and often terrorizes Abby for no other reason other than "because she can", and I feel she would do the same to another cat.

If I owned a house I would have the maximum limit of cats that I could.
post #9 of 24
When I first adopted Snowii & Kaien, I already had 8 cats, and Snowii & Kaien were 9 months and 1 year when I adopted them from the Vets office, the Vet knew how many cats I had because obviously they were on her books & she was happy with the care they were getting, and then a few months later I fell in love with a 2 year old tabby that I named Jaszper whom I adopted from the same office.

I then went on to adopt Shayla & Jaxon as young cats, but even then, they knew how many I already had. So, as long as you are able to take care of them, I think they will be ok as long as you can give her a good home.

My brood has grown considerably since then, and I won't be taking any more myself until I start up my rescue, rehabilitation & rehoming system when I buy bigger land, but I know how it feels to want to rescue and give a good home to older kitties who need it and if you can do it and want her, then my opinion is take her.
post #10 of 24
I have way more than six right now, so how about we trade?

Anyway, if you are a cat hoarder, your home would be full of cats. They would be in poor health with long claws and messy fur. You would be turning down homes for kittens right and left and collecting more. When older cats got sick, instead of vetting them, you let them die and then carefully stack their corpse behind your couch. Your home would smell worse than a sewer. Your skin would be pale and your hair would be oily. You would not allow anyone in the house and there would be pathways of junk piled up all over your floor leaving you only one trail throughout the house.

Your bathtub would be full of kitty litter and you would never scoop it out no matter what. Floors and ceilings would be rotted through and food would be moldy left out for the strays that come in through a hole cut into a window screen above the kitchen sink.

Sound like fantasy? It perfectly described my mother-in-law's house before she was carted off to a home.

I believe that you are not a hoarder, you are a softie. You want to save them all, but sister, you really can't. Bringing in a new cat upsets the resident cats and then you deal with behavior issues like spraying and fighting even when the cats are neutered.

Where there is one cat to be rescued, there are a dozen more, so you have to just sit down and list the pros and cons of adding another cat to your home. You have to be sure you have all the monies needed to care for the cat and that you won't get tired of having hairballs in your slippers, dirty litter pans when you are working overtime at work, and that you have enough time to pay enough attention to all the cats so they get the TLC they need. You also have to remember that stress is the number one reason behind many cat illnesses, so your resident cats need to be accepting of the newcomer and a gradual introduction works so much better than just putting the cats together from the get go
post #11 of 24
Thread Starter 
Well I didn't call today. I figure I'll (try to) give it a few weeks and if she's still there maybe I'll pursue it. I don't want my boys to be unhappy and we all know how cats are so even though they accepted Munchkin so well there's a good chance they wouldn't accept another.
post #12 of 24
As long as your cats are all properly spoiled, hoard away! :P
post #13 of 24
I've noticed that you have all male cats at the moment? and you are considering a female? Ya know, it might just be ok if your males are neutered, they might happily accept an older female cat. I've noticed, that the cats that don't readily accept other cats are female cats raised on their own for 1-2 years or intact adult males & you bring in another male.

The only cat I've ever had a problem with accepting newbies was my eldest Keylah and thats because she is a spoilt brat and females go a bit strange when they are neutered as they age, not really readily accepting newbies into the home.

Though if you want her, I would be careful with putting it off too long because you don't know yet whether she'll be euthanised after a set period of time if she isn't adopted and if you really want her, then you need to decide before they do anything like that to her.
post #14 of 24
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Autumnblueangel View Post

Though if you want her, I would be careful with putting it off too long because you don't know yet whether she'll be euthanised after a set period of time if she isn't adopted and if you really want her, then you need to decide before they do anything like that to her.
Ok so I'm going to totally blame you if I end up with her
I think I will call, to find out how long she's been there and if she can go to a place with other animals.

My boys are all neutered and she is a female, actually probably pretty close to their age (they're about 7.5 now except for Munckin) When I brought Munchkin home he was an unneutered male and they're all totally fine together. It's been so long that I cant remember any knock down drag out fights but I guess there could have been.
post #15 of 24
Thread Starter 
Well I called! They said she's been there for five or six months and is really unhappy. She is out with other cats now so I just have to worry about mine being bullies. They said she's eating other food and her heart murmer seems to be doing fine. She's very shy and hisses at men and she gets looked over a lot. I think I'm going to plan on going down tomorrow to see her!
post #16 of 24
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Originally Posted by MonaxLisa View Post
Well I called! They said she's been there for five or six months and is really unhappy. She is out with other cats now so I just have to worry about mine being bullies. They said she's eating other food and her heart murmer seems to be doing fine. She's very shy and hisses at men and she gets looked over a lot. I think I'm going to plan on going down tomorrow to see her!
I hope everything goes well, that she will be a good fit with the rest of your crew, and you have a new furbaby to show off to us all!
You are NOT a cat hoarder, you are a compasionate person with the means to take care of animals, a good thing, not bad!!
post #17 of 24
Thread Starter 
Well I picked her up. It was a 2.5 hour drive and when I got there they told me she's not good with other cats and that she's been there for about 7 weeks (not five or six months) but I decided to take her and give it a try. I'm going through buyers remorse right now because she hissed at my boys (they were really good though) and got pretty fussy with me when I trimmed her back claws. She's in a bedroom alone right now so we'll see. She's all matted so I'm hoping she'll calm down and let me groom her. I'll give it a week and if she's not happy by sunday/monday she'll go back. She's pretty though, one yellow eye and one blue!
post #18 of 24
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Originally Posted by MonaxLisa View Post
Well I picked her up. It was a 2.5 hour drive and when I got there they told me she's not good with other cats and that she's been there for about 7 weeks (not five or six months) but I decided to take her and give it a try. I'm going through buyers remorse right now because she hissed at my boys (they were really good though) and got pretty fussy with me when I trimmed her back claws. She's in a bedroom alone right now so we'll see. She's all matted so I'm hoping she'll calm down and let me groom her. I'll give it a week and if she's not happy by sunday/monday she'll go back. She's pretty though, one yellow eye and one blue!
I'm surprised they let you adopt her knowing that she isn't good with other cats. The shelter I volunteer for won't adopt animals into homes that are a bad match (for example, a dog known to be bad with young kids wouldn't be allowed to go to a home where they've listed that kids live on the intake questionnaire), because they want the best match for the animal. Then again, shelters don't exactly have the luxury of space...

Since you work in a vet's office, I'm sure you are probably aware of proper cat-to-cat introductions and how they should be very slow. The new kitty should have her own room for at least a few days and shouldn't even have to interact with the other cats. Hissing is normal! There is a Rescue-Remedy-type product (made by Spirit Essences) designed for introductions of cats and multi-cat households, you might look into it.

I'd really just try to give her her own space and keep her in the bedroom. Give it a few months though...a week is too short. When I introduced my first 2 cats, the younger one drove the older one nuts. After a year, there was a noticeable improvement. Our 3rd cat now terrorizes the 2nd, so the 3rd cat stays in his own bedroom all day when people aren't around to watch them.
post #19 of 24
i'm sure if you give her time she'll settle down, i'm also sure your boys will show her, her place lol they are big boys, they can stand up for themselves and she is a big girl, she can find her own space... give her time, she's in a new enviroment.
post #20 of 24
Thread Starter 
I will give her more time, initially I was just totally stressed out that she was a psycho after her chomping, hissing, swatting thing. But she's really sweet and right now she's laying against my leg on my computer stool with me just hanging out. The poor think was pulling at her matts last night when I was sitting with her so I know they're bothering her, if she'd just let me get them out!
post #21 of 24
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I'd really just try to give her her own space and keep her in the bedroom. Give it a few months though...a week is too short. When I introduced my first 2 cats, the younger one drove the older one nuts. After a year, there was a noticeable improvement. Our 3rd cat now terrorizes the 2nd, so the 3rd cat stays in his own bedroom all day when people aren't around to watch them.
I agree = a few months is a better picture of how she will be - she scared too, and it will take some time for her to trust you. I care for ferals, and the mommy feral is just now not bolting when I go outside - and it's been about a year. Her kittens have seen me all their lives - so they aren't as untrusting of me - finally!

Good for you, and, good for her - after she settles in - she'll be worth the time it takes for her to feel like she's finally got someone to love her.

BTW - the male cats, that we have, seem to be a lot easier going - my female (Phoebe-inside cat) is a little stinker and still has a tough time cuddling. She's a calico and I've heard that they have a little different disposition - she's made a believer out of me.

Hope this all works out for you and her!
post #22 of 24
I can't say anything I've got 7 indoor cats and 2 outdoor cats
post #23 of 24
are healthy and well cared for, then you are not a hoarder. I just happened to catch a radio program about cat hoarding. There are many mental health issues that hoarders share. I am familiar with one in my neighborhood. The other poster was spot on regarding the definition of a hoarder. It fits this person to a T. I have 11. But 7 of them are senior and I will not be taking any more in. They are all fixed, vaccinated and fat and sassy. You would not know there are cats here by any smell. The improvements in litter through the years has eliminated odor as long as boxes are clean, which mine are. So take comfort in the fact you are a softie as the poster says. I look at it this way. Some people have 4 large dogs. No one would accuse them of being a hoarder. Yet 4 large dogs IMO equal 6 cats as far as care goes. Dogs IMO have a natural smell that is amplified when wet. Cats do not smell. Their litter does, but not them. Control the litter smell and you have an odor free home. Hope this makes you feel a bit better. I have times like you also, but I look at my animals and my home and compare it to the one in our neighborhood. I am Ok. So are you.
post #24 of 24
I don't think you're a hoarder; I think you care an awful lot about animals. Reading your post reminded me of myself, so let me tell you what I did that made me feel better about all the homeless, unadoptable kitties.

I started volunteering at a no kill shelter. If you're consistent, the cats get to know you as the "Cuddler and Bringer of the Treats". They'll befriend you, rely on you and treat you exactly the way your own cats do. They snuggle and cuddle, hiss and meow and you'll get to know all of their little quirks. It's so rewarding to spend time with "unadoptables". We have one at the shelter, a beautiful long haired tabby, who is absolutely opposed to being petted, but is so intrigued at by people. So, for months, I sat in the floor, playing with the other cats, paying her attention as she demanded it. She started letting me touch her, but would let me know when enough was enough by biting me. Then the bites got softer, and softer still.

Now she comes right to me, rubs my legs, rubs my hands and, if I sit still long enough, she cuddles right up to my side and lays down.

I'm getting teary-eyed just telling that story. She's been there so long no one remembers her story; Lord knows where she came from. We get a lot of people dumping animals out there and maybe that was the case, or maybe she was abused. Whatever happened, she has regained her ability to trust people, even if it is only me. Eventually, she'll get better and better and who knows, maybe someone will take her home a couple of years from now.

I hope you'll consider volunteering. I really think it would do you a lot of good.
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