Originally Posted by Natalie_ca
On one hand you have to supervise your daughter while she's in the pool, so really, what does it matter if there is one more child?
While it is true that she has to already supervise her own daughter, if the boy was there and anything happened to him, she could be sued by the neighbour. Not only that, how would you feel if a child got hurt or drowned while at your place?
I definitely would set rules and not allow the children to just come over whenever they feel like it and one of the rules would be that the parent comes to supervise the child.
I personally wouldn't allow them to invade my privacy like that and it does sound as though the mom is using you as her own private, free babysitter.
Our neighbour has a pool and has told us we are welcome to come over and even if they aren't home we could use it. We have never done so - we feel it would be an imposition.
At our last home, we did tend the neighbour's pool while they were away for 2 weeks' vacation every year and we did use their pool at those times.