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How To Avoid Being A Victim

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Thread Starter 
There seem to be a lot of ladies who belong to this site. This isn't about cats but it's something that could save your life.
Be Safe, Marsha

Read this. It may save your life someday. A friend
sent it to me, and I thought it very worthwhile to send.
Also men, print this out and let your wife and daughters read it.
Last night I attended a personal safety workshop, and
it jolted me. It was given by an amazing man, Pat Malone,
who has been a bodyguard for famous figureslike Farrah
Fawcett and Sylvester Stallone. He works for the FBI, and teaches police
officers and Navy SEALS hand-to-hand combat.
This man has seen it all, and knows a lot.
He focused his teachings to us on:

The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If
you are close enough to use it, do!

If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick
out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole
and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you,
but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

He gave us some statistics about how much the
occurrences of random violence have escalated over
the recent years, and it's terrible. Something like 99%
of us will be exposed to, or become a victim of a violent
crime. Here are some of the most important points that I
got out of his presentation:

1] The three reasons women are easy targets for
random acts of violence are:

Lack of Awareness.
You MUST know where you are & what's going on around you.
Body Language!
Keep your head up, swing your arms,
stand straight up.
Wrong Place, Wrong Time.
DON'T walk alone in an alley, or drive in a bad neighborhood
or dark isolated roads at night.

2] Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating,
working, etc, and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list,etc).
The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect
opportunity for him to get in the passenger side, put a gun
to your head, and tell you where to go.
A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot,
or parking garage:
Be aware, OBSERVE YOUR SURROUNDINGS: look around you,
look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. Check
under the car as you are approaching as well. If you are parked next to a
big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack
their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting
to get into their cars. Look at the car parked on the drivers' side of your
vehicle,and the passenger side.
If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to
walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back
out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (Better paranoid than dead.)

3] ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs.
(Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot). Do
not get on an elevator if there is a weirdo already out here. (Of course bad
men don't always look bad).
Do not stand back in the corners of the elevator, be near the front, by the
doors, ready to get off or on. If you get on the
elevator on the 25th floor, and the Boogie Man gets on the 22nd, get off
when he gets on.

If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control,

4] Police only make 4 of 10 shots when in range of 3' to 9'. Usually due to
stress. The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 out of 100
times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital
organ. RUN!

5] As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic:
STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed.
a. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good looking,well-educated man, who
ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a
cane, or a limp, and often asked for help & got it. His victims got; into
his vehicle or helped with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his
b. Pat Malone told us the story of his daughter, who came out of the mall
and was walking to her car when she noticed 2 older ladies in front of her.
Then she saw a police car come towards her with cops who said hello. She
also noticed that all 8 handicap spots in the area were empty. As she neared
her car he saw a man a few rows over calling to her for help. He wanted her
to close his passenger side door. He was sitting in the driver's side, and
said he was handicapped. He continued calling, until she turned and headed
back to the mall, and then he began cursing at her. In the meantime, she
wondered why he didn't ask the 2 older ladies, or the policemen for help,and
why he was not parked in any of the empty handicap spots.
As she got back to the mall, two male friends of hers were exiting, and as
she told them the story, and turned to point at the car, the man was getting
out of the back seat into the front, and the car sped away. DON'T GET CAUGHT

6]Tips to saving your life, if you have gotten into a violent situation:
REACT IMMEDIATELY! If he abducts you in a parking lot, and is taking you to
an abandoned area,
If you are driving, react immediately in the situation, and crash your car
while still going 5 mph. If he's driving, find the right time, and stick
your fingers in his eyes. He must watch the road, so choose an unsuspecting
time, and gouge him. It is your ONLY defense. While he is in shock, GET OUT.
(This sounds gross, but the alternative is your fault if you do not act.)
RESIST! Don't go along with him: run, if you are able: DON'T EVER GIVE UP!
You DO NOT want to get to a crime scene.

7] Always keep your distance when walking past strangers or in dark areas.
Respect 'your space' and the stranger's space.

8] GET A CELL PHONE. There are packages for $19.95/month that allow you to
program only 911 on the dialing out program. (This is an alternative for
parents who say it is too expensive for their kids to have a cell phone.)

9] BREAK DOWNS: Make every effort to avoid this by ALWAYS keeping your car
in good working order. If your car breaks down: LOCK YOUR DOORS. Use cell
phone to call for help. If you don't have a cell phone: (shame on you) keep
a blanket, warm clothes, a pair of boots, and a flash light in your car
always, for emergencies. If it's noon on a business day, put your hazards on
and walk to safety. If it's 2 am, put on your warm clothes, and walk to a
lighted area. You are a perfect target if you are sitting in your car broken
down. Predators search the highways for easy targets like you. If you're on
a desolate road: walk away from the car (in your warm clothes) and go to
some bushes, or some area AWAY from your vehicles.
It will be cold, and uncomfortable, but you DO NOT want to stay in your car.
And No, there are no psycho bogeymen waiting in the bushes who knew you were
going to break down there and then.

10] Physical defenses that we can use against the violent predator: The EYES
are the most vulnerable part of the body. Poke him there. HARD. It may be
your only window of opportunity. The neck is also
a vulnerable spot, but you MUST know where to grip, AND HAVE THE STRENGTH to
cut off his breath. The last place is the KNEES. Everyone's knees are very
vulnerable; a swift kick here will take anyone down. [-- A cautionary note:
If you do not do these things
right the first time, you can be in trouble, because it will anger the
individual, and that anger can be TAKEN OUT ON YOU. I'm not saying don't
attempt them (it may be your only hope), but be
forceful when you do.]

11] If you are walking alone in the dark (which you shouldn't be) and you
find him following/chasing you: Scream & say FIRE! and not help. People
don't want to get involved when people yell "help", but ";fire"
draws attention because people are nosy. RUN! Find an obstacle, such as a
parked car, and run around it, 'like Ring Around the Rosie'. This may sound
silly, but over the years, 5 women have told Pat Malone that this SAVED
THEIR LIVES. Your last hope is getting under the car. Once you are under
there, there are tons of things to hold onto, and he will not be able to get
you out and will not come under for
you (most likely). Usually they give up by this point. The catch here is
have a plan (he will have one); know if you will be going on your back,
front, from the side or back of the car. It must be practiced.

12] Never let yourself or anyone that you know be any "closer" in any type
of business (bar, store, restaurant, gas station). Pat knew Danielle, who
was a girl that just died from being shot point-blank by
some kids while she was closing at the local gas station. He talked with her
the night before she died, and asked whether it ever scared her to close
alone. She said yes, but said "I'll be all right, Pat. I'll be alright." She
wasn't. Our world is not as safe as we pretend that it is, and living in our
fantasy worlds WILL get us in trouble, sooner or later. Pat Malone said
again and again that the women who die EVERY MINUTE from violent crimes
expected to go to bed tonight, and get up tomorrow. No one expects it, but
we must be prepared and aware so that we HAVE A PLAN. BE PREPARED TO ACT!

I would encourage you to pass this on to all women, not just your friends
and family, but everybody. We all need to hear it.
God Bless, Marsha

post #2 of 9
Thank you for the excellent report! I've noticed, many times, how some people tend to sit in parked motor vehicles rather than promptly drive away. They're probably the same people who can't seem to promptly exit service windows at post offices, et cetera.

The overall impression I get from such slow people is that they're totally unaware of their surroundings. It's as if they can only think of one thing at a time, that one thing being whatever is right in front of them at the moment.

Your article contains great advice for everybody, not just women; so I'm glad you posted it here!

post #3 of 9
Thank you so much for those tips! I have copied them and printed it up!
post #4 of 9
Dear Marsha,

Thanks for the wonderful report! I am a former auxiliary state trooper and we learned alot of things like that. Especially to ALWAYS be aware of your surroundings. Another good point of impact is a knee to the groin. That will certainly take him by surprise and enable you to at least get away.

When walking down the street, don't let your purse dangle. Hang it on your shoulder and hold onto it with your hand. If you don't it makes purse-snatching very easy. And always get a purse that zips up and ZIP IT UP!! Whenever I go anywhere where there are crowds (say NYC) I always leave my purse at home and wear a fanny pack. I keep my money in my jeans pocket.

One more thing, if you think or suspect someone is following you while you are in your car, drive to the nearest police station. If you think someone is following you on foot, go to the nearest place with ALOT of people around you. Another common trap is getting rear-ended on purpose. If someone suspicious does this, again drive to the nearest police station or dial 911 on your cellphone and lock all your doors. Carjackers have been known to pull this trick in an effort to steal your car, kidnap or rob you or worse. NEVER put your purse on the front seat of the car. It's very easy to smash the window at a red light and grab it. Put your purse on the floor in the back.

Again, thanks for the great advice. Pat Malone is a smart man and certainly knows what he's talking about. Precaution and prevention are the key to avoid becoming a victim.
post #5 of 9
Thread Starter 
:goodbad: Thanks Donna for the added advice. We can all use it. You don't have to live in a big city to worry about things like this. It's a shame, the way of the world, when women have to be so carefuljust going to the "Mall"!
post #6 of 9
Thank you so much for the advice, and the tips....I have taken it to heart, and committed it to memory, and I hope I never have to use it, but if I do....I have you to thank for helping me!!!!!!
post #7 of 9
It's so sad to me that we have to be so careful just walking down the street or parking our car. I lived downtown Chicago for 5 years and learned to use the safety measure you talked about. I was able to go without incident.

My younger sister, 3 weeks ago was getting our of her car at the mall. This is a very affluent chicago suburb at 5 pm in the afternoon--sun shining bright! She was approached by a man and woman who asked her for direction to a particular store. They were polite and looked like they "belonged" there. She told them what they wanted to know and then put their hands to shake her hand in thanking her. the man grabbed her hand and put her in a choke hold and dragged her to the ground, asking for her key. She obliged and they eventually left her along but not before choking her badly, bruising her neck, popping capillaries in her face, and scaring the living daylights out of her. They took her car--she was lucky.

She did nothing wrong under the circumstances. It's horrible that these things happen, this wasn't even a surprise attack!

Please be careful. Even consider talking to strangers!! Haven't we been told that before?
post #8 of 9

I'm sorry for what happened to your sister. She sounds like a good person who was only trying to help out. Alot of people are like that and unfortunately are easy targets. Thank God she is okay and that the only thing they took was her car. Cars can be replaced. It could've turned out alot worse.

It's really sad that these days you just can't trust anyone because you never know who you're talking to. But that's what is has come down to. I always try to remember the "personal space" theory. Whenever I talk to someone that I do not know well (other than friends and family), I let no one enter my personal space (that's at least 3 feet all the way around). It's all part of the self-defense training I had at the academy.

I'm glad your sister is okay.
post #9 of 9
The only thing I would add is that most guys know about the knee bit and would be expecting it. Easy to block and results in getting hit..hard. A better strategy might be a straightarm palm stroke to the nose,just like in the martial arts films. Break his nose and run.
If he has your hands,stomp down hard on his shin and the instep of his foot,then follow up with the knee or palm. A hard slap to the adam's apple can be effective too.

Like the man says,keep fighting and creating a racket. These creeps generally will not carry on once attention is being drawn their way.
Go nuts on him..be crazier than he is. Be Safe!!!!
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