I'm in a desperate need of advices and suggestions to have both of my kittens to get along. My first kitty is 5 months old and she's a rescue Ragdoll (maybe a mix) with torbie points. Leto is a very big 8 lbs kitten and she's 3x the size of the new kitty. She's already been spayed. I had her for a month and then I just rescued a deaf 9 weeks old male kitten with white fur and blue eyes named Exodus. I let Leto take a sniff while he's still in the pet carrier for half hour and she was growling with dilated pupils. When she calmed down, I released him and he was sniffing around. Leto was very angry and growled like crazy! Exodus is completely deaf and he can't hear her sounds of threat like growling and hissing so he got attacked all the time! She would get on top of him and bite his neck/face really hard. She stalked, lunged and chased him nonstop. Oddly enough, Exodus isn't afraid of her and always ignores her unless she's threatening him he would flatten his ears and hiss or lay on floor hissing.
I purchased a $50 Feliway diffuser hoping it would help Leto to calm down. She was being calmed down a little and sleeps alot but when Exodus is around she will still stalk and take him down aggressively until he cries loudly with flattened ears. She's really hurting him and luckily she's the only one who is wearing Softpaws claw covers so that prevented him of being scratched. It's been a week and nothing changed. I kept them in different room and let them interact with eachother for half hour unsuccessfully! I think I introduced them in the wrong way and I feel so guilty for getting one more cat. How can I fix this terrible problem? I tried advices on websites and they don't have the same situation as mine because one of the cats is deaf.
Edit- Thank you for these wonderful advices! I will defintely try these methods. I already have a 70" tall cat tree and Leto sat on the highest part for the first time ever. She's defintely displaying her alpha status. I'm moving to a new apt in a few days so my plan is to take Exodus there to settle down for a few days and then come back with Leto and confine her in my room. Maybe this will make her to think it's Exodus' territory so the dispute can be reduced? Is pet behavorist costy because maybe I will consider getting one in a few months if Leto is still tense and bolts out of door to attack other cat.
I purchased a $50 Feliway diffuser hoping it would help Leto to calm down. She was being calmed down a little and sleeps alot but when Exodus is around she will still stalk and take him down aggressively until he cries loudly with flattened ears. She's really hurting him and luckily she's the only one who is wearing Softpaws claw covers so that prevented him of being scratched. It's been a week and nothing changed. I kept them in different room and let them interact with eachother for half hour unsuccessfully! I think I introduced them in the wrong way and I feel so guilty for getting one more cat. How can I fix this terrible problem? I tried advices on websites and they don't have the same situation as mine because one of the cats is deaf.
Edit- Thank you for these wonderful advices! I will defintely try these methods. I already have a 70" tall cat tree and Leto sat on the highest part for the first time ever. She's defintely displaying her alpha status. I'm moving to a new apt in a few days so my plan is to take Exodus there to settle down for a few days and then come back with Leto and confine her in my room. Maybe this will make her to think it's Exodus' territory so the dispute can be reduced? Is pet behavorist costy because maybe I will consider getting one in a few months if Leto is still tense and bolts out of door to attack other cat.