Ah I see, supposedly I judged someone here? (not sure how?) And am being asked not to by those who are now judging
me based on a misunderstanding. Very nice from people who are trying to say be supportive and understanding...
If you honestly believe that every single person is capable of being a victim by that same view one must also judge everyone as potentially being a abuser - which yes, makes absolutely no sense. Point being that everyone has different physiological make up.
Think of all the people who get robbed at gunpoint and fight back, even when they do not have a weapon. Not everyone is capable of being a victim.
Didn't go through it? I was slammed into walls, hit with items like broomsticks, frequently cut open when my mother slapped me (from rings and nails), had a shoulder dislocated, etc - plus a lot of verbal abuse that took much longer to deal with. I didn't speak up as a child because I knew there wasn't family who would take me and I did not want to go into any sort of foster care. I've shared this is some past threads, some probably weren't here so are making judgments about me based on incomplete information
As for poo-pooing all over the idea of Trillcat seeking local
help, especially since none of us know if her ex could still retaliate against her in some way - is that a wise suggestion?
For those who have been through it - do you consider it wrong to now give back to your community and help others who may not be able to help themselves?
These groups are a great resource to be used for those who need them and aided. It's a shame that anyone would dismiss them so easily and probably a sign why so many abusers get away with hurting others..