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Have you ever had to give up one of your kitties?
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I hear you Nekochan, it's really hard to give up a bottle kitten. Especially the first time. I've been a foster home for 3 bottle kittens from the time they were 2 weeks old to the moment they were 17 weeks old. It's been a year and I still think about them all the time. I'm glad I got to choose their new family and I am sure they are happy where they are now.
Marilou
Marilou
We gave up our beloved 4 soon after our daughter was born because we didn't want to stress the cats out or neglect them from the attention and care they deserved. We also didn't want to stress the newborn baby.
I have, once, but not because I wanted to. I was 13, almost 14, and my grandmother refused to keep my cat (that I had for nearly 4 years) because the cat did NOT like her. It was the most heart breaking thing. I've had cats run away (2) and 1 that had to be PTS, but I'd never give up one if I could help it.
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Never ever. I would euthanize before I would "rehome" any of my cats. There is no one who would provide them with the level of specialized care they get with me. Tolly and Mazy would starve to death within a week without me. I have no doubt about it.
As for advertising a beloved pet on craigslist...people are just too stupid for words. That's where the sickos go, to find cats to torture and do unspeakable things to. They look for cats advertised to "free to good home".
I could never live with myself if I took my home away from one of my cats, spending the rest of my life wondering if they were being well treated and feeling sick that they wondered what happened to their mother. I've seen the way they grieve when they lose a cat companion, I can't even imagine what they would go through to lose their home, me and other cat companions all at once.
The only way, the ONLY way to guarantee that they will not end up on the streets, abused or moldering in a shelter is to keep them with me. And when I die, they will be coming with me. It's already arranged.
<edit> rescue/foster care is a different thing altogether. I am not cut out for that kind of work, but I honor those of you who do it.
As for advertising a beloved pet on craigslist...people are just too stupid for words. That's where the sickos go, to find cats to torture and do unspeakable things to. They look for cats advertised to "free to good home".
I could never live with myself if I took my home away from one of my cats, spending the rest of my life wondering if they were being well treated and feeling sick that they wondered what happened to their mother. I've seen the way they grieve when they lose a cat companion, I can't even imagine what they would go through to lose their home, me and other cat companions all at once.
The only way, the ONLY way to guarantee that they will not end up on the streets, abused or moldering in a shelter is to keep them with me. And when I die, they will be coming with me. It's already arranged.
<edit> rescue/foster care is a different thing altogether. I am not cut out for that kind of work, but I honor those of you who do it.
I never have and I'd like to say that I never would. My kitties are a huge part of my family and I love them more than I love most people.
That said, I've never faced homelessness or life threatening illness and I could see cases where I'd have to rehome temporarily, though they would go to family and no one else.
I stopped going to Craigslist because it is too sad and frustrating.
That said, I've never faced homelessness or life threatening illness and I could see cases where I'd have to rehome temporarily, though they would go to family and no one else.
I stopped going to Craigslist because it is too sad and frustrating.
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Yes, Craigslist has become to sad for me too look at, at least the Pets section....
Since I started this post, I have split with my husband and had to find a place that would take me and my 4 babies....leaving one or any behind was never an option...it took some doing, but I found a place and we are all living together in our new place....no one says it will be easy, but it can be done....
I just can't imagine any reason that would ever part me from these furbabies.
Since I started this post, I have split with my husband and had to find a place that would take me and my 4 babies....leaving one or any behind was never an option...it took some doing, but I found a place and we are all living together in our new place....no one says it will be easy, but it can be done....
I just can't imagine any reason that would ever part me from these furbabies.
I would never rehome Annie. I've only had her for a good two weeks now, but I've worked at a shelter for the past 2 years and know that I would never be able to give one of my animals up. When we took her, we promised her a home for life.
Luckily, right now she is my only cat, however I do have to plan ahead for her brother. My parents are older and I know that my father gets sick or something happens at my parents' house, Mosby will become mine. I have to be planning as though I have one more cat than I actually have, because I have to save Mosby a place with me.
Luckily, right now she is my only cat, however I do have to plan ahead for her brother. My parents are older and I know that my father gets sick or something happens at my parents' house, Mosby will become mine. I have to be planning as though I have one more cat than I actually have, because I have to save Mosby a place with me.
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Thank you, but I think most of us cat lovers on here would do the same thing.....as I said, leaving one of my kids behind was never an option....I would live in a cardboard box and work 10 part time jobs if I had to, but I would make it work.Originally Posted by marycatherine
You're a great person to keep all four after something like that!
After reading all the responses from 2009, I would say finding homes for rescues (which many TCS'ers do - Bless you all!
) is a much different thing than rehoming. Thankfully I've never had to rehome. I've only had 2 cats and they're in my signature. My dad tried to surrender Ashlie (r.b. family cat from the 1980s
) to a shelter years ago but it didn't happen. (The reason being a doctor told my mom I was allergic to cats.) In our extended family history going back to the 1970s, 3 cats total (out of approx. 25, it's hard to keep track) needed to be rehomed. Ashlie wasn't 1 of the 3.
There are very valid reasons for re-homing animals. I live in a military community so pets do have to be re-homed due to deployments, relocating(overseas), and other issues.
There are also allergies, if Bobby my 7 year old had a bad cat allergy I'd be re-homing mine. Notice I said severe, it would mainly depend on what he reaction was. Not everyone can deal with cat allergies, especially when it is their child that is allergic. Also financial, if can afford food but not vet care(and I'm talking period, not temporarily being short on cash, I've been there) then the cat needs a new home. There are also health issues when the owner is just too sick to take care of their pets or changes in family situation where you won't be able to take care of them properly.
There are bs reasons, my orange tabby doesn't match my new furniture(OK then why did you buy the furniture considering you KNEW you had an orange cat.)
I do have issues with people re-homing pets because they are pregnant, I know there are situations when it requires it, but most of the time there isn't. I have severe issues when it is a planned baby and there is no attempt to work it out the second the stick turns blue they get rid of their pets. I know I would try to make it work but I know some animals don't do babies(and they can be other issues) and there is nothing that could be done. That's how I got my Old English sheep dog Abby, they had 5 kids under 5 and the wife ended up pregnant again so the 4 month old dog had to go, they didn't even try. Even though she was better off with us than she was with them anyways.
I can't say never but I know I'd try hard to not have it happen. There are some times when it is required, in the best interest of the animal or issues that can't be helped. You can't always judge people badly for having to re-home an animal, some people have very valid reasons, some just have BS reasons.
I would re-home over them being PTS but only because I would make sure I found them the best home possible or placed them with a very reputable rescue. I would have to find special homes or rescues for mine anyways due to the leukemia. Mine I know would be ok, but there are some that it just wouldn't work for. I know Maude(
) wouldn't have been able to be re-homed and Paul's dog Molly(
) wouldn't have either.
Taryn
There are also allergies, if Bobby my 7 year old had a bad cat allergy I'd be re-homing mine. Notice I said severe, it would mainly depend on what he reaction was. Not everyone can deal with cat allergies, especially when it is their child that is allergic. Also financial, if can afford food but not vet care(and I'm talking period, not temporarily being short on cash, I've been there) then the cat needs a new home. There are also health issues when the owner is just too sick to take care of their pets or changes in family situation where you won't be able to take care of them properly.
There are bs reasons, my orange tabby doesn't match my new furniture(OK then why did you buy the furniture considering you KNEW you had an orange cat.)
I do have issues with people re-homing pets because they are pregnant, I know there are situations when it requires it, but most of the time there isn't. I have severe issues when it is a planned baby and there is no attempt to work it out the second the stick turns blue they get rid of their pets. I know I would try to make it work but I know some animals don't do babies(and they can be other issues) and there is nothing that could be done. That's how I got my Old English sheep dog Abby, they had 5 kids under 5 and the wife ended up pregnant again so the 4 month old dog had to go, they didn't even try. Even though she was better off with us than she was with them anyways.
I can't say never but I know I'd try hard to not have it happen. There are some times when it is required, in the best interest of the animal or issues that can't be helped. You can't always judge people badly for having to re-home an animal, some people have very valid reasons, some just have BS reasons.
I would re-home over them being PTS but only because I would make sure I found them the best home possible or placed them with a very reputable rescue. I would have to find special homes or rescues for mine anyways due to the leukemia. Mine I know would be ok, but there are some that it just wouldn't work for. I know Maude(
Taryn
I rehomed a cat once. I was young, just married to my first husband and he gave me an ultimatum to get rid of one of the cats. I had 2 cats that didn't get along at all (after 3 years of living together) and I rehomed one of them to my brother. My brother rehomed the cat again without telling me.
The marriage didn't last. The ultimatum should have been my warning about that marriage. If anyone wonders why I strongly oppose anyone rehoming a cat because of a relationship, you now know why.
When I met my current husband, I told him that if he wanted a relationship with me, he had to accept me and my cats. He didn't like cats but was willing to adjust. He's gone as far as staying up all night long nursing orphaned kittens. We just had our 20 year anniversary.
The marriage didn't last. The ultimatum should have been my warning about that marriage. If anyone wonders why I strongly oppose anyone rehoming a cat because of a relationship, you now know why.
When I met my current husband, I told him that if he wanted a relationship with me, he had to accept me and my cats. He didn't like cats but was willing to adjust. He's gone as far as staying up all night long nursing orphaned kittens. We just had our 20 year anniversary.
I don't want to judge people who have good sound reasons for giving up their cats. I have never done it because I am too hard headed. Many years ago I was faced with serious money problems. I had three cats to feed and began selling plasma to feed them. It never crossed my mind to give them up. It wasn't their fault. I finally got a job. Knowing I had to care for them first was a great motivator for me to get on my feet again.
Growing up I had to get rid of every pet I had. Except a rabbit I had gotten around 8 or 9 years old. She lived a long and happy life with my mom. Also, I had a cockatiel that accidently got outside and flew away. But, my mom made me get rid of every other pet I had as a child. So, I made a promise to myself that any animal that I get as an adult will never leave my care unless I couldn't afford to care for them the way they need to be cared for.
I was going to rehome Precious. That is because I took her in since it was so cold and she had followed me home. When I brought her into my house I had every intention of finding her owners, and if not, finding her a great forever home. However, I got attached to her the night I found her, and shortly after she captured my boyfriend's heart as well. Precious and I are very bonded to each other. She wants to be with me EVERY second. Whenever I am up in my room she sticks to me like glue, she sleeps with me, if I am not upstairs she will usually sit at the top of the stairs (or at the bottom) and meow at the top of her lungs non-stop until I go up there to be with her. I couldn't bear the thought of how devistated she would be if I gave her to someone (not to mention how devistated I would be). She wouldn't understand why her Meowmy that she loves so much don't want her, and I wouldn't be able to handle the thought of her with someone else, no matter how good of a home it would be. Same thing with my other two, but I feel like Precious is bonded to me more than Mittens and Monster are. I would never get rid of them willingly, but if the situation arose where I had no choice, I don't think they (Mittens and Monster) would take it as bad as Precious would.
I was going to rehome Precious. That is because I took her in since it was so cold and she had followed me home. When I brought her into my house I had every intention of finding her owners, and if not, finding her a great forever home. However, I got attached to her the night I found her, and shortly after she captured my boyfriend's heart as well. Precious and I are very bonded to each other. She wants to be with me EVERY second. Whenever I am up in my room she sticks to me like glue, she sleeps with me, if I am not upstairs she will usually sit at the top of the stairs (or at the bottom) and meow at the top of her lungs non-stop until I go up there to be with her. I couldn't bear the thought of how devistated she would be if I gave her to someone (not to mention how devistated I would be). She wouldn't understand why her Meowmy that she loves so much don't want her, and I wouldn't be able to handle the thought of her with someone else, no matter how good of a home it would be. Same thing with my other two, but I feel like Precious is bonded to me more than Mittens and Monster are. I would never get rid of them willingly, but if the situation arose where I had no choice, I don't think they (Mittens and Monster) would take it as bad as Precious would.
I haven't had to rehome any pets I bought/adopted, but I have had friends who had to rehome the pets and I tried to help them find homes. Even though they weren't my own pets I still miss them!
I have had pets that I fostered, either for a rescue group or strays that I rescued in order to find homes for, that I wish I could have adopted myself...
After I lost my two senior dogs I was trying to find a dog to adopt and I fostered a few dogs with rescues. What they do is if they have a dog that matches what you tell them you're looking for, they have you foster a dog for a while to see if they might be a match. The dogs I fostered ended up not being a good match for me though so I did not end up adopting.
I have had pets that I fostered, either for a rescue group or strays that I rescued in order to find homes for, that I wish I could have adopted myself...
After I lost my two senior dogs I was trying to find a dog to adopt and I fostered a few dogs with rescues. What they do is if they have a dog that matches what you tell them you're looking for, they have you foster a dog for a while to see if they might be a match. The dogs I fostered ended up not being a good match for me though so I did not end up adopting.
I forgot to say if I ever re-homed Attitude and Nuts I would demand that they be kept together and not separated.
I know I am prolly going to face this eventually unless I find a job. They live with Paul and when he goes(he's going to be 67 next month) I'm not going to be able to keep them unless I live on my own. My dad is deathly allergic to cats so I can't have them with me as long as I live with my parents(I'm 31 so I'm not a child, just very unemployed.)
Taryn
I know I am prolly going to face this eventually unless I find a job. They live with Paul and when he goes(he's going to be 67 next month) I'm not going to be able to keep them unless I live on my own. My dad is deathly allergic to cats so I can't have them with me as long as I live with my parents(I'm 31 so I'm not a child, just very unemployed.)
Taryn
I could never rehome any of mine. I'd do everything I could to keep them. If they had to go, I'm going with them.
yeah i've had to give up two of mine =[ one was Izzy, due to the fact that 2 of my girls were outdoor/indoor and she wasn't so it wasn't fair.
I had to rehome a kitty two years ago. We adopted him shortly after I moved to Fl (from NY) and he was a sweetheart. All black, and a little fluff ball. We named him Loki. Sadly, our roommate then decided that if he scratched things at all, he had to go. (leather furniture, bah!) Well, I tried soft paws, and they just would not stayed on. I surrounded him with scratching posts of various types. He still climbed the back of the couch, and the roommate said declaw or he has to go. I REFUSE to declaw, it is horrendous, so he went to live with my fiances mom. Sadly, he snuck out the door one day and hasn't been seen. I'm hoping a neighbor took him in, he was a sweetheart. I refuse to ever have to do anything like that again. My current kittens stay locked in my room most of the time, and when I have a house of my own, I don't want furniture that isn't kitty safe.
