I am so stressed out

Lets see where to start...

Jaiden went to the doctor yesterday for his 4 month check up and immunizations. We have a healthy boy 18lbs 3oz 26 1/2in long. We go back next month because the Dr said his head is not growing at the rate it should be and his soft spot is closing up to fast. So the brain does not have the proper room to grow. So he wants up back next month to make sure he will not have to have surgery. Witch would be opening up the skull and pulling the prises apart so the brain can grow properly. We also have had problems with his.... "member" so to speak. His circuimcisiam was botched. We have been back and forward with a urologist about this as well. The immunization site from his shots has swollen and is red. I called the Dr and he said to call back if it is still red tomorrow, because he is not running a fervor he should be ok. How am I so post to sleep knowing that he couold be in danger of a server reaction??

Eric has an infection in his tooth and gets a root canal Friday. We have fought every day this week and it is getting harder and harder not to want to just leave. I love him, but I can only take so much. The hardest part is I do not have a way out of the apt. We can not afford to get my car redigestered or insurance for me. Well we COULD, but with the arivel of the kittens the money that would go tords that is now going to be spent on them. (I wouold rather spend money on them anyway)

The pets.... I can't stop blaming myself for the kitten we lost. Maybe if I was more experienced I could have prevented it? I just found a flea on Comet tonight so I am sure their are more around. We keep frontline on the pets all the time but still here we are again! I don't have a clue how to keep them off the kittens and I don't know what to do. I have no friends here in Seattle and the nearest family is in Cali. I don't know what to do any more.

It seams like every time I try to make things better they end up 10x worse. I just don't know what to do any more. I am in a battle with my insurance company because they are dening Jaiden's hospital bills and rather then sending me a bill the hospital just sent it over to collections. I am getting the bill resbmited, but this still gets to bring down my credit score while this is all figured out.

I can't stop crying I don't know what else to do. Sorry their are so many spelling errors in this.

I think you need a hug.

I am not much a person for giving advice, like I am not very good at it, but also I am going through a horrible time, too. I am really stressed out and my husband is like a stranger to me (and I never know if he is planning on leaving me or staying...) and I can't find a job and...

So, really what I want to say is, except for the stress about Jaiden, I understand a lot about what you are going through, and I wish I were there to be your friend and give you the real hug you need. I'm sorry you are going through so much.

Both of you above me.....

Write out 3 positive things in your life... small, big, whatever..... try it... Try not to focus on the negatives, and let them drop you down. YOU can do this.

You both are going through some difficulties right now, but remember, it can and will pass.

Emy4Cats, I'm sorry, I don't know your first name.

The issues with Jaiden are very scary. Waiting for the appointment next month is nervewracking....(while not the same issue, I did have a similiar situation in utero....I was told something "might" be wrong with my daughter's kidneys and they had to do a followup U/S in a month... The waiting was horrible, but I listened to a wise person who told me.... don't focus on the negative, its not going to change the results of the U/S no matter how much you worry about it) I would like to tell you the same thing. I am so sorry about the botched circ. Many that it is cleared up.

Eric: it sounds like you guys need some time apart...really.... it might do you both some good. Adjusting to a new baby is enough to stress even the best of marriages out.

The kitty: I am sorry you lost her, but you need to quit blaming yourself for it. Continously feeling guilty and blaming yourself will NOT change what happened.


You WILL get through this..... pull on the positives to give you the strength you need.

Many

[Dr Phil mode on] Everyone wants to run from a bad thing, it's built into us, fight or flight. Just like animals, we are hardwired that way. Do NOT let youself get into the thinking you are bad because of this!
Let yourself cry, it is OK! Don't let anyone tell you diferent! It is how we deal with emotional stress.
Sometimes it does seem like what we do makes things worse, but try to take a step back from yourself, and see the bigger picture in this. [Dr Phil mode off]
You have a place to talk, here, and you can PM any of us at any time if things seem so bad you cannot discuss on open board.

It is a lot to deal with all at once. things settle down for you.

Originally Posted by Snake_Lady

Both of you above me.....

Write out 3 positive things in your life...

small, big, whatever..... try it... Try not to focus on the negatives, and let them drop you down. YOU can do this.

You both are going through some difficulties right now, but remember, it can and will pass.

Emy4Cats, I'm sorry, I don't know your first name.

The issues with Jaiden are very scary. Waiting for the appointment next month is nervewracking....(while not the same issue, I did have a similiar situation in utero....I was told something "might" be wrong with my daughter's kidneys and they had to do a followup U/S in a month... The waiting was horrible, but I listened to a wise person who told me.... don't focus on the negative, its not going to change the results of the U/S no matter how much you worry about it) I would like to tell you the same thing.

I am so sorry about the botched circ. Many that it is cleared up.

Eric: it sounds like you guys need some time apart...really.... it might do you both some good. Adjusting to a new baby is enough to stress even the best of marriages out.

The kitty: I am sorry you lost her, but you need to quit blaming yourself for it. Continously feeling guilty and blaming yourself will NOT change what happened.


You WILL get through this..... pull on the positives to give you the strength you need.

Many

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My first name is Emily, and thank you I am doing much better today sill stressed out, but I am trying not to let it get to me as much.

I just wish I had someone to help me for one day so I can tear the apt apart and vacuum like crazy to hope get rid of all the fleas. I know where one is there are many more. I feel like I do everything around here and no matter what I say or do nothing changes. I wish I had a friend here that would be willing to help me out.

I would love to get some time apart from Eric, but neither of us have a place we can go. We can't afford for one of us to stay in a hotel for a weekend either. I need to find a pet friendly, people friendly, and inexpensive way to kill these fleas before the problem gets out of control.

I just wish Eric was willing to help.

Jaiden's leg is still very swollen, but the redness has calmed down.