Getting more and more depressed....

We went to a good friend's wedding this past weekend and it was beautiful! Lyndsey was the most BEAUTIFUL bride I have ever seen in my life and they are the most beautiful couple ever.....

We were supposed to be getting married this year(in 1 month and 1 day July 11) but due to MANY family issues-my family-and issues that I won't get into here(it's just too much to type)we have decided to push it back another year. We have been engaged for 2 years and together 6 years and we just really wanted it to happen this year. I have my dress and everything and with my family, we just need to time to let things blow over. I am absolutely heartbroken as is Travis. I was sobbing at the wedding. I was happy for them but so sad. I was supposed to marry my best friend in a month and it's not happening. We have 2 more weddings to "suffer" through this year, including Trav's sister and another friend. Both friends getting married are close friends AND co-workers so I have to hear all about the weddings and their honeymoons and I am just not emotionally stable for this.

Last weekend, I put my dress and veil back in the bag. Before I did, I put my dress on one more time and just sat on the bed and cried. I know it's still going to happen and I will get to wear it but I thought I would be wearing it iin a month.


Sorry to vent. It's just hard to be happy and sad at the same time. Trav knows I am upset but does not know I cry A LOT about this.

Ok, first of all i would take your countdown siggy down seeing as you've both agreed to postpone it. You'll still remember the date when you were supposed to be getting married, but seeing that up is only going to make it worse

If theres a lot of stress and strain over family etc.. would it not be better to go and get married on a beach somewhere, because your the only ones that count really?.

EDIT: You've took it down, well done

Originally Posted by Rosiemac

Ok, first of all i would take your countdown siggy down seeing as you've both agreed to postpone it. You'll still remember the date when you were supposed to be getting married, but seeing that up is only going to make it worse

If theres a lot of stress and strain over family etc.. would it not be better to go and get married on a beach somewhere, because your the only ones that count really?.

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I took the siggy down right after I posted this and sawa it was still up

Well the whole situation stemmed from inviting my parents to come to Myrtle Beach to be with us to get married and have a party when we got back with our friends and the rest of our families. They did not have the money and couldn't do it. We were still going to so it anyways but apparently my mom, dad and BIL were not ever going to speak to me again and my mom wrote me the nastiest email I have ever read in my life. If it wasn't for my dad and his health problems, we would have still done it. It's just a lot more in depth than this. My problem is that I am not a selfish person by any means so making my wedding day all about me and Travis is VERY difficult for me. And I used to be close to my family but since this whole incident, it has really hurt us. My sister was the only one standing by us the whole time.

I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how hard this is for you and how tough it is to attend another couple weddings. I know this isn't the best advice but please be brave, your day will come and it'll be the happiest day of your life!!
Lots of

Weddings can bring out the worst in people Either way someone will be upset, but they have to remember that this is not their day it's yours and Travis's.

My niece had to cancel her church wedding because her dad (my brother) was dying of cancer. She decided because he wouldn't be there to walk her down the aisle she just wanted her and Julian to go to Cuba to get married then have a big party when they got back. Everyone, including her mum understood, and she wore her dress again for the party and had pictures blown up of their wedding on the beach pinned up around the hall and it was perfect!.

Were half way through this year already, so next year will be here before you know it

Courtney I know how you feel, I really do!

We were supposed to be getting married the weekend after you (July 18th) but because of our little situation , we have to push ours back until next year also. Its hard, even though we have something very special to look forward to right now, but I have three friends getting married within three weeks, and seeing their countdowns & hearing about their excitement is hard for me too, even though I KNOW its going to happen for us! But having everything done - like you, the dress, ect., its really hard, I really want to be wearing that dress in a month! We don't even have a date set for next year yet

Things happen for a reason, I know this & you are a very strong woman! Let me know if you need to talk, I understand your feelings!

I'm sorry you are going through this... I don't have any words that will take away your hurt..... My DH and I were married 2yrs ago, after being engaged over 2yrs and together in total now for 9yrs (on and off for 13). I know how hard it is to wait.

My biggest kicker was going to his brothers wedding. They had only been together about a yr, married a yr later....before us. I had some severe issues with that one. Happy for them, sad and angry for me.

Next year will come sooner than it seems, and you'll be a Mrs.

I think you need to allow yourself to mourn your disappointment and the damage done by your family. But at some point, you need to focus on the positives of your life and remind yourself of them. Because at the end of the day, you have Travis by your side and that is something to be very thankful for.

Awwww, that would be hard Hang in there

Just think of it as saving the best for last. Just imagine the feeling you'll have when you finally get to walk down the aisle to the love of your life.

Originally Posted by Snake_Lady

I'm sorry you are going through this... I don't have any words that will take away your hurt..... My DH and I were married 2yrs ago, after being engaged over 2yrs and together in total now for 9yrs (on and off for 13). I know how hard it is to wait.

My biggest kicker was going to his brothers wedding. They had only been together about a yr, married a yr later....before us. I had some severe issues with that one. Happy for them, sad and angry for me.

Next year will come sooner than it seems, and you'll be a Mrs.

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Same here. Travis's sister has only been dating her fiance for a little over a year. She has talked nothing but bad things of him and she is a very bossy person, like her mother. They originally picked the weekend right before us and that was another issue in itself. They have since picked July 25th and are now getting married before us. A wedding we don't really support at all is going to be really hard to get through especially after all Travis and I have been through the last 6 and a half years.

Kenz, we don't have a date either. I have a lot of things to figure out in a year. Starting over again just sucks too

Originally Posted by Oscarsmommy

Kenz, we don't have a date either. I have a lot of things to figure out in a year. Starting over again just sucks too

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I know But just think, next year we'll be the ones all excited over our weddings And, since we have the extra time, it will be extra special

Your wedding is about you and your partner, no one else.

Why wait? Each get a close friend together, and go to a Justice of the Peace, or to a small church and pledge your vows to one another. There is no need to spend 10's of thousands of dollars, and push off something you want so badly, just for the sake of putting on a show/party for others.

Instead of being unhappy and depressed, do what your heart wants you to do: go and marry the man of your dreams

Originally Posted by babyharley

I know

But just think, next year we'll be the ones all excited over our weddings

And, since we have the extra time, it will be extra special

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Oh, Kenz....why can't you live closer

Originally Posted by Oscarsmommy

Oh, Kenz....why can't you live closer

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I wish I did! Everyone has said to us "why don't you just go to the courthouse with your fiance?" To me, I want ALL of my family there, its not about the big party, but I need my family there to share in that special moment in our lives. I don't care if its just my family & us and not all those extra friends, but having our family & very close friends there means so much to me. So, waiting a little bit longer to have that very special moment in my life is worth it. PLUS, I have that dress that I just need to wear, sometime!

I've come to deal with the fact that we're not getting married this year, and you will too Our situations are a little different, but still so much the same. You and Travis love eachother so much & right now thats all that should matter Keep your chin up sweetheart!

Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

Your wedding is about you and your partner, no one else.

Why wait? Each get a close friend together, and go to a Justice of the Peace, or to a small church and pledge your vows to one another. There is no need to spend 10's of thousands of dollars, and push off something you want so badly, just for the sake of putting on a show/party for others.

Instead of being unhappy and depressed, do what your heart wants you to do: go and marry the man of your dreams

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I cannot tell you how many times I have heard that...It's just really hard for me to think about ME and not everyone else. I have been like that since I can remember.

We aren't planning a big wedding at all. Maybe $2000 TOPS.


I really want to thank you guys for your words of wisdom. You may be hearing a lot from me as we get closer to July 11

Originally Posted by babyharley

I know

But just think, next year we'll be the ones all excited over our weddings

And, since we have the extra time, it will be extra special

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a perfect way to look at things. Your day will come

I'm going to second the "Why wait?"

My husband and I had a small civil ceremony in April of 2001, and in July of 2002 had a larger wedding. We had family issues as well, and this was the best case scenario.

It's about being married over the wedding, and maybe this way you will have some comfort and know you can take it easy planning a wedding. More time the merrier!

You know - then you could be one of those couples who gets "married" every year on their anniversary! lol

I have to admit, I long for depression such as yours. Someone that you love who is as anxious as you are to spend your future together (which you're in the midst of, by the way); friends and co-workers that care enough about you to want to share the excitement of their special day with you. I dunno, I see lots of smiles in there. And I'm not even a happy person!

You long for the destination, but thus far, your journey looks pretty sweet. Sounds like your own wedding isn't a matter of 'if', but 'when'; but we don't always get to pull the trigger on those things at our leisure. In the meantime...just enjoy the treasures you do have.

aw Courtney I'm so sorry your family is giving you such a rough time When I was planning my wedding my Mom actually asked me if I didn't want to just go to Vegas

just remember that marriage is just putting on paper what you and Travis have in your hearts