You know, people tend to do this - stay in contact with family because they feel obligated to have these connections. But I think you have to ask yourself honestly, "what's better for me?" It sounds to me like both you and your sister would be better off without your mother in your lives, and those children could do without such a negative force for a grandmother. She sounds like a very destructive person who only causes problems for the people she's supposed to care about.
I have to agree with this perspective. I can understand why people want to maintain a relationship for the sake of the family etc etc. But sometimes it isn't worth the hassles, and frustration involved. And as for the grandkids, it most likely would do more harm having such a influence as this type of grandma in their lives then not having contact with here.
I agree with both of you. I don't think there is anything wrong with cutting an unhealthy relationship out of your life. It's hard sometimes, but necessary. I haven't spoken to my mother in two years on May 22. It's hard sometimes, really hard, but I've been a lot happier.
That is the only reason I was still having anything to do with her-- my little brother. Her husband and her must have been telling him stuff about me though because he was VERY reserved when I spoke to him. I am just going to have to completely sever ties now. Hate to do that to my brother but obviously, that's what my mom is trying to force here. I told my sister pretty much what you guys have said here when all of this happened years ago, but she wanted to stay in contact with her. IDK why anyone would want to though!
