New male or female cat? Opinions

prettyone

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We have a 2 year old female callico. She is very moody. One minute she is in your lap, the next minute you are wondering if you even have a cat. We want to add a one more cat, a kitten to the mix. Should we add a male or female? So far most people are telling us a male would be better. What is your opinion? Thanks
 

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ohhh thats a tough choice, while I do agree that personality is something you would definitely want to consider, some cats wont care about such things all together, the female could feel that another of her gender is in on her territory while a male might just try and pounce her thus causing a feud between the two. Unfortunately I can't give you a straight answer as such things like this are delicate for the the happiness of the house pets..or something along those lines. Hope I've helped! ^_^
 

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My vote would be for a boy. I'm basing this on my own personal experience with girls not usually getting along...they seem to be a bit more - I dunno - bitchy (if i can say that!) with each other. I have only ever had one boy who was a real problem with other cats, usually other males, but I honestly think he may have had a kitty mental disorder. But, I have had many different girls with different personalities who just did not get along with other girls. Don't animals tend to be more competitive/territorial with peers of the same sex?? That's always been my experience with dogs and cats anyway...good luck!
 

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My newest cat came into my home as an adult.
My resident cats were both female, one a senior, the newest is also female, I have no conflicting personalities here.

I've kept cats of both genders for many, many years and I've noticed no differences between the two in regards to getting along, they either do or they don't, it all depends on the cats individually.
 

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I agree with going by personality, I've had both genders and not noticed a difference.
 

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I've found that if the resident cat is a female, its easier to bring in a neutered male then to add a rival female. Females tend to be more territorial and take longer to accept newcomers in the house.

Ling was the only cat till we got Charlie. She hated him for 6 months. When Jack came in she surprisingly was quicker to accept (about a month). But I know I could not bring in a female with her. She is very demanding and doesn't like change. I'm sure she would fight more with another female.

This is based on long time experience in dealing with males, females (altered or breeding). Every female (except one) hated when I brought in a new cat - especially if it was another female.

I had two rex females (one spayed, one not) - they never got along - even after the breeding one was spayed. In fact she got to the point of beating up the other female and had to be kept separate. This female loved the males in the house.
 

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I've never had a male cat. Mine have all been females. I do know that for some reason Ashley never liked Little Bit. Yet she accepted Cassie with ease. I tend to think that because Little Bit is a Persian and looks a little like a Pekingese (she's got the cutest little face), that Ashley might have thought she was a dog instead of a cat. I don't really know if that was it or not. Ashley was never ever violent to her, she just hissed at her when she got too close.

Another cat I had was named Missy who crossed over about a year ago
. She never liked males because she was really traumatized by one before we brought her indoors. As a result, I've always had female cats.
 

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based on my personal experience - a boy. they're easy going, less 'preoccupied' as girls are. boys are also very loving, much more than girls.
 

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Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45

I've found that if the resident cat is a female, its easier to bring in a neutered male then to add a rival female. Females tend to be more territorial and take longer to accept newcomers in the house.

This is based on long time experience in dealing with males, females (altered or breeding). Every female (except one) hated when I brought in a new cat - especially if it was another female.
That is my experience also. Torties can have really strong attitudes, and it always seemed that this occurred more often when the resident was a tortie.

But you will find people where this has never occurred. It comes down to the personalities of the cats, which you won't know until you adopt another.
 

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I'm going to say a Male. Males in my opinion are much more easy-going, laid back. My female cat gets along MUCH better with males.
 

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My second cat is a male - much more easy going than my little girl. All things being equal, I'd lean toward bringing the opposite, neutered sex in the situation...but in real life, I suspect there's some little kitty out there waiting to adopt you, no matter what you think your specifications are.
 

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I would go with a male. I myself had two females and 1 male and they seemed to get along fine. I also find males to be very affectionate. My male is one of the easiest going cats you will ever meet.
 
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