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hello fellow cat lovers,
we have a heartbreaking dilemma. very recently we have had the opportunity to start living our dream and move from the city to the countryside. we are going to be moving soon- in the next couple of months. so that's the happy bit!!
the sad bit is that we don't know whether we should take our beloved cat, willow with us. first, some details of willow:
he is a lovely friendly rescue cat we think about 4 years old. we got him when he was still in kittenhood. although he is pretty independent, he has his quirks and is very much a 'scaredy cat'- he often runs outside or upstairs when the doorbell goes and has an annoying habit of waking us up at 5 am to accompany him downstairs so he can eat the biscuits that are already in his bowl!!! he is very scared of all but the smallest breeds of dog- even if they are softies who like cats- willow doesn't give them a chance. he really doesn't like it if we move furniture around or change anything in the house. he is just starting to get used to our daughter who is 7 months old but he was quite jealous/ scared of her to begin with. he sleeps on our bed every night. he was our original furry baby. we know that he thinks of us as his family.
so the first option- which is the one which would be best for us- is to keep him and take him with us to wales. but this involves a car journey of 200 miles, to a house and area he doesn't know. but the main problem is that we are moving in as lodgers and the guy who owns the house already has a big male cat who is lovely to people but very much a bully to other cats (the owner, olly, recently had to give his female cat away as they were fighting so much) and he has a medium sized dog who apparently is a softy and doesn't mind being lower on the pecking order to cats! but would willow give him a chance? the house is big and there is LOADS of outside space with neighbours living about a mile or so away so there should be enough territory for all of them. i'm just worried that even if we do everything we can to help willow settle in, he'll just get lost or run away or be stressed out (we already are having to order feliway for him cos he gets stressed easily and scratches and sprays in the house).
option two is to have him move in with our next door neighbour. she absolutely adores willow and always feeds him when we go away. he spends time in her house so presumably gets on well enough with her other 3 cats (well, maybe not so well with the 2 females but they are semi outdoors cats anyway. her male cat is about 15 and is confident enough in himself not to give willow any bother!) she used to have a tiny old dog who i assume willow was fine with if he chose to hang out in her house. she has a new tiny dog now and i think willow tolerates it too. maybe he doesn't see them as dogs! she hardly EVER goes away herself. so he would be loved and looked after, in a place that he is used to. but i think he would miss us. and we would miss him greatly.
so i'd like your opinions on what would be the best thing for him, because at the end of the day, that is the most important consideration.
thank you in advance for your time and thoughts
regards,
katy x
we have a heartbreaking dilemma. very recently we have had the opportunity to start living our dream and move from the city to the countryside. we are going to be moving soon- in the next couple of months. so that's the happy bit!!
the sad bit is that we don't know whether we should take our beloved cat, willow with us. first, some details of willow:
he is a lovely friendly rescue cat we think about 4 years old. we got him when he was still in kittenhood. although he is pretty independent, he has his quirks and is very much a 'scaredy cat'- he often runs outside or upstairs when the doorbell goes and has an annoying habit of waking us up at 5 am to accompany him downstairs so he can eat the biscuits that are already in his bowl!!! he is very scared of all but the smallest breeds of dog- even if they are softies who like cats- willow doesn't give them a chance. he really doesn't like it if we move furniture around or change anything in the house. he is just starting to get used to our daughter who is 7 months old but he was quite jealous/ scared of her to begin with. he sleeps on our bed every night. he was our original furry baby. we know that he thinks of us as his family.
so the first option- which is the one which would be best for us- is to keep him and take him with us to wales. but this involves a car journey of 200 miles, to a house and area he doesn't know. but the main problem is that we are moving in as lodgers and the guy who owns the house already has a big male cat who is lovely to people but very much a bully to other cats (the owner, olly, recently had to give his female cat away as they were fighting so much) and he has a medium sized dog who apparently is a softy and doesn't mind being lower on the pecking order to cats! but would willow give him a chance? the house is big and there is LOADS of outside space with neighbours living about a mile or so away so there should be enough territory for all of them. i'm just worried that even if we do everything we can to help willow settle in, he'll just get lost or run away or be stressed out (we already are having to order feliway for him cos he gets stressed easily and scratches and sprays in the house).
option two is to have him move in with our next door neighbour. she absolutely adores willow and always feeds him when we go away. he spends time in her house so presumably gets on well enough with her other 3 cats (well, maybe not so well with the 2 females but they are semi outdoors cats anyway. her male cat is about 15 and is confident enough in himself not to give willow any bother!) she used to have a tiny old dog who i assume willow was fine with if he chose to hang out in her house. she has a new tiny dog now and i think willow tolerates it too. maybe he doesn't see them as dogs! she hardly EVER goes away herself. so he would be loved and looked after, in a place that he is used to. but i think he would miss us. and we would miss him greatly.
so i'd like your opinions on what would be the best thing for him, because at the end of the day, that is the most important consideration.
thank you in advance for your time and thoughts
regards,
katy x