<<Others also said that people around them were uncomfortable when they were all made-up, dressed in sexy clothes, etc.. Kind of like, "How could you, after what you went through?" >>
Years ago, I read an explanation why people in general and women (!!) in particular, react in such a way.
I don't remember the article word for word, but basically it said that it is some sort of psychological defense mechanism.
If you can convince yourself that the rape victim is (partly) to blame for what happened, and you yourself do not behave in such a way, then you are safe from getting raped yourself.
Realising that rape is something that can happen to anyone, anytime, anyplace without an immediate cause, is just too scary a thought to accept.
Apparently, it is a mechanism we use all the time.
Your wallet was lifted? Oh, but you shouldn't have kept it in your back pocket.
Your horse threw you off? Maybe you weren't concentrated enough, or maybe you were leaning forward instead of backward.
And behind the persons back: She's always pulling the reigns too much, this was bound to happen.
I am not a psychologist, but the article made a lot of sense to me.
And .. I had to admit to having similar reactions