If you don't feel comfortable with her attitude (even if she has good cats) then there are other Aby breeders with excellent cats/pedigrees. Shop around. Don't have to go to the first one you see.
When we were looking for our first Oci, we contacted several breeders. There were some that I would not touch if they gave me a kitten (and this was before I even did more research). We wound up going back to the breeder we first met at the show.
For our 2nd one, I knew even more on what to look for in a show cat, and choose a different breeder (1st one didn't deal in the color I wanted). After getting on her waiting list, I kept in touch with a few other good friends/breeders of Oci's and they highly recommended the one I chose!
If in doubt, go to a breed yahoo group (Aby) and post questions for recommendations (privately) - good or bad. Believe me, you quickly get a good or bad rep from other breeders!