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Weird question, re: waxing (ladies)
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To wear a bikini... Well, if she does have unwanted hair on her bikini area, and it can be seen by others, I am all for taking care of it by shaving or waxing. A 13 yr girl is a teenager, not a little kid by any means... She probably has breast too, and of course will not go out topless like a little kid would
Some people has more hair than others - the age can be very relative on these matters... at 14 for example, I was already a D-cup... Not very kid-like
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I was not allowed to shave either and it only made me extremely embarassed and self conscious. I remember not wanting to wear shorts in PE class in middle school b/c of it. So yea that's why girls not only can start shaving/waxing but should be taught by their mothers in order to avoid those situations when their friends can even make fun of them and ruin their self esteem.
IMHO a 13 year old shouldn't be wearing a bikini. Maybe I'm a prude, or overly protective of children, but I think they should be wearing one pieces or conservative 2 pieces, not revealing bikinis.
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Yup, she started shaving prior to her 12th bday last year.... Legs and armpits.
I'm definately going to look into the sugaring, thanks.
LMAO.... Bye.Originally Posted by Möbius
I knew I shouldn't have clicked on this thread!
'scuse me, I'm going back to the games section
Simple answer because she has pubic hair that are viewable when wearing a bathing suit.... to be more direct, out the sides by her legs. When wearing a bikini, she doesn't wear one low enough to show any up top, but doesn't matter what she's wearing and the sides show.
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Some people get hair earlier than others. Heck, most girls get breasts and a period before they are 12. Kids today, are definately not like kids 20yrs ago.
They develop sooner physically, and there's nothing we can do about it.
For the record, I do NOT force my daughter to shave anything. She came to me last year and asked me to teach her to shave her armpits and legs. In no way did I "force" her to shave. She asked me. Would you rather I said no and turned away my daughter? Forced her to go to gym class with hairy legs and have the kids laugh at her? Because that is what it was coming down to
Luckily my daughter is a blondy brown...light colouring, she's has a substantial amount of leg hair when she was 10 but unless you were really close, you couldn't see it because it was light.... just prior to the summer when she was turning 12, it started to darken and other kids had noticed. So she asked. By the end of the summer, she was starting to show some pubic hair on the sides...and we've left that till this year.
Honestly, yes, I full well agree that children are growing up too fast, but I don't think there's anything we (parents) can do to stop them and I'd much rather my daughter come to me and ask me to teach her to shave for several reasons: it shows she will come to me about almost anything, she is confident with her body and not ashamed (I feel bad for those who are ashamed of their body) and we bond.... Mom and daughter, legs hanging over the tub, shaving our legs. It was the closest bonding we've done in a little while
I would caution anyone about using baby powder (talc) around the genital region. There have been some studies linking the use of powder on the perineal region to ovarian cancer. There are also risks to the lungs if the powder is inhaled.
Not to be a Debbie downer...but ovarian cancer is mean business...not worth the risk with using powder!
Not to be a Debbie downer...but ovarian cancer is mean business...not worth the risk with using powder!
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Now that I did not know.... thank you for posting that
I have personally tried the lotion and powder, as that is what they use on eyebrows in the salon I have gone to. It doesn't do squat for my bikini area, I've tried many different things to avoid the razor bumps and no matter what, I still get them
I hear ya, Snake Lady....I've resorted to wearing skirted swimsuits so I don't have to be "picture perfect" because that just isn't happening anymore. However, now that I've discovered sugaring.....hmmmmmmmmm. LOL
My "hair" is my least favorite thing about my body. I come from German ancestry...'nuf said! My dh is Asian so I'm hoping my daughter inherited the relative hairlessness from him. So far it's looking pretty good.
C
My "hair" is my least favorite thing about my body. I come from German ancestry...'nuf said! My dh is Asian so I'm hoping my daughter inherited the relative hairlessness from him. So far it's looking pretty good.
C
I am not a wimp, but for some reason I've never been able to handle waxing! I only recently started getting regular eyebrow waxing (I'm 37 now) and that was a big step! I can't even imagine waxing my bikini area!!!
I've always used Veet etc with good results.
I've always used Veet etc with good results.
This is your opinion, but that is not what the OP asked for. She did not ask for opinions on how to raise her children, and this is not an IMO thread "to wax or not to wax". This is a mother, concerned about the well being of her child. If YOU don't want your daughter to shave (if you have a daughter), fine, but please let's think twice before judging someone's parenting here - this can be hurtful. This is HER daughter we are talking about, not some kid we heard of on the news. I am not a mod, but I guess I can ask... please let's keep this on topic
I realize that. And I wasn't telling her how to raise her child. I was simply stating that I think kids are growing up way too fast these days. In no way was I putting blame on the mother.
I do realize it is the sign of the times and that Hollywood and peer pressure are the root cause. But to me that doesn't make it right. Children need time to be children. Bikinis, shaving, waxing pubic areas etc, are grown up things. I'm sad that kids aren't getting the chance they need to be actual kids without feeling the need to bow to peer pressure or be made fun of. That was all.
It is so much more gentle. Also, if it's applied wrong, it can be wiped off with a warm wet cloth. It also goes on warm, not hot so there is little chance to burn yourself unless you over heat the sugar liquid. In addition to that, if you apply wax and make a mistake there is nothing you can do except rip it off and live with the mistake until the hair grows back. With sugar if you apply it wrong you can wipe it off with a warm cloth, dry the area and reapply it again. So mistakes can be undone.
It's also good for all areas of the body including pubic area, arm pits, facial hair, legs, arms etc.
In the summer I sugar my arms.
The only type of hair that the sugar doesn't remove is the really thick coarse hair that is on the face that comes with men's beards and in women with hormone changes. For those types of hair on my face (and alas I do have some on my chin), I use a home wax kit. But for brows and everywhere else I use the body sugar.
I started with Alexandria Body Sugaring. I tried NADS but didn't like it at all. It's too stiff and sticky and really messy to use. The Alexandria Body Sugar is more like liquid honey.
One thing that I've found that helps with the razor bumps is using cheap hair conditioner instead of soap or shaving lotion. It does clog your razor so you may go through them faster, but it does help to elimate the bumps and razor burns. I usually just get a cheap bottle at the dollar store and it will last me a long time.
I tried a home waxing one time...has anyone gotten the email about the woman that tried to wax her bikini area? I didn't get QUITE that far, but it was bad!
I tried a home waxing one time...has anyone gotten the email about the woman that tried to wax her bikini area? I didn't get QUITE that far, but it was bad!
I don't like to shave my bikini area because I get a rash that takes a few days to go away and it is very irritating. I have also tried to wax once and it didn't go well and left my skin super irritated.
I use my hubby's beard and mustache trimmer. It is very good and I can trim to any length I want and use the close blade to trim the visible stuff.
I use my hubby's beard and mustache trimmer. It is very good and I can trim to any length I want and use the close blade to trim the visible stuff.
I wouldn't have thought of that, Thanks...I'll try hair conditioner!
even if her daughter does wear a one piece, her pubes will still he hanging out the sides!
My mother was one of those that didn't let me shave for a long time because it makes the hair grow back thicker, and she did not believe in waxing, epilating or laser treatment!
I started growing breasts when I was 6, i ran down the stairs and said to mum "look look they are getting bigger!" by the time i was 11 I was already wearing a bra and was a B cup. I got my period when I was 10.
Through primary school kids teased me because of my hairy legs, in high school i finally started doing it but mum was angry at me, by the time i was 14 mum had bought me an epilator!
I think it is great that you are bonding with your daughter like this.
If she doesn't want all of her hair removed she can just get the sides waxed and just trim down the hairs.
What works for me instead of shaving use a special electric rasor made by Braun, (this rasor thing is designed that it cannot cut your skin as it does not touch it) it is like a pencil stick, i first wash my self and then sit on the toilet as i find it much easier to manuever to get the hairs all gone! Plus there is no mess to clean up
When ever i shave "down there" i usually cut my self if im in the shower!
So what I am saying is good on you!
My mother was one of those that didn't let me shave for a long time because it makes the hair grow back thicker, and she did not believe in waxing, epilating or laser treatment!
I started growing breasts when I was 6, i ran down the stairs and said to mum "look look they are getting bigger!" by the time i was 11 I was already wearing a bra and was a B cup. I got my period when I was 10.
Through primary school kids teased me because of my hairy legs, in high school i finally started doing it but mum was angry at me, by the time i was 14 mum had bought me an epilator!
I think it is great that you are bonding with your daughter like this.
If she doesn't want all of her hair removed she can just get the sides waxed and just trim down the hairs.
What works for me instead of shaving use a special electric rasor made by Braun, (this rasor thing is designed that it cannot cut your skin as it does not touch it) it is like a pencil stick, i first wash my self and then sit on the toilet as i find it much easier to manuever to get the hairs all gone! Plus there is no mess to clean up
When ever i shave "down there" i usually cut my self if im in the shower!
So what I am saying is good on you!
