1. Were you spanked? Yes
Has it influenced your choice to spank or not spank your child? Yes it has. I will not be hitting or threatening to touch my child with physical violence by any of its names, spank, slap, hit, swat, etc.
2. Do you or have you spanked your child? If you don't have children, do you think you would or would not spank? Will not hit children
3. What warrants a spanking? A parent looking for the easy way out to "punish" a young child, using their hands instead of using their words, so for me nothing warrants a spanking
4. Do you think spanking is physical abuse? How can hitting NOT be physical abuse?
5. Do you think a child who has been spanked will grow up to think hitting is ok? Yes, but let me explain, they grow up learning it is only ok for their parents to hit them, not for them to hit. The cycle usually repeats itself and they will hit their own children at random times.
, and be more physically aggressive? For some maybe, for some maybe not. By in large American society is already VERY aggressive and dangerous. Our prisons and court systems are full, murders happen every day, fights break out all the time, we are a very macho society and hitting, slapping, spanking, etc. as an acceptable form fits right in.
Overall, what are your thoughts on spanking as a form of discipline?
I never got why parents would threaten a child with physical harm. Same parents will tell their children and teach them not to hit others, but the rules change and it is fine if they decided to hit their own children at any point in time. Seems contradictory to me.
The children are expected to just sit there and not fight back. Just accept the negative physical contact as something they deserve and right and just. Sounds like a hostage situation. The parents are all they have, reminds of me of an abused wife...thinking the abuse is somehow her fault, that she somehow someway brought it on herself as certain behaviors triggers hits every now and then.
It just doesn't sit well with me, hitting children. Knowing mom or dad will make you physically hurt in some way (belt, their hand, etc.) if you don't fall into line what they deem acceptable at certain points in time is not a great mental feeling for a small person, it fosters fear and teaches more lessons than one, not good ones. And also, just because something is acceptable in society, doesn't make it moral. Owning slaves was at one time viewed as acceptable in society. As was women not voting. And on and on.
Parents only use physical violence such as hitting against (seen as weaker obviously) younger children because they can, you never see this happening in grown adult children. How would we feel if this was a husband "punishing" his wife or vice versa? Not so good.
At what point is hitting a child okay and in some way "justified"? By their parents? By their teachers? By family members? By strangers that are adults? By other children? By other older children? Why is it justified? For what reasons, for taking an extra cookie from the cookie jar, for not brushing their teeth, for crying because they don't want go visit grandma this time, etc. etc. And what type of hitting, on the butt, on the arm, on the face, on the stomach? And how many hits?
My answer to all those questions are simple. I don't believe in hitting animals or children. There are other ways to get attention, teach, and direct.