Warning ... rant!
I posted back last fall when my 22 yr old SD (who is now 23) moved back in with us. She had broken up with her b/f, maxed out her credit cards, yada yada, basically had crashed and burned with her independent life and so she appeared on our doorstep. One month later her two cats Izzy and Bella arrived too. So that was the end of us using our own guest room. And of course she let her cats wander all over the house and made no attempt to manage the dog/cat introductions.
This is someone who considers herself a cat lover, well by my standards she isn't. Never mind that with all the cash she has for junk like cell phones and Victoria's Secret, she somehow never found the money to pay for these two little ladies to get fixed (she thought it might be cute to let them have kittens)
, or that she never trained them to stay off of countertops (I don't need the poo-poo paws on my dining room tablecloth, thank you)
:, her idea of taking care of them is to dump a bag of cat food into their feeder once a week and scoop the litter box once every other month (but only if her father reminds her).
Of course since she free feeds her cats, MY cat Brady found his way downstairs and has taken to emptying out their feeder, so he has put on way too much weight, and she refuses to keep the door to "her" room closed like I asked.
Well now she has moved out as of a few weeks ago - sort of - after almost five months of being in Parents Hotel. Someone she works for part time has a spare room so she is paying them $200 / month rent. Also she has a new b/f that she has sleepovers with at his place.
Her junk is still in the room, and her cats are still here. Supposedly she is going to come get them when her new landlord "gets a door for her room."
One of her kitties has gone into heat and I was amazed to see a strange cat show up on our deck (keep in mind I have a dog who takes his yard patrol duties very seriously) and we live out in the boonies way up a dirt road. I guess the smell of a cat in estrus must be pretty powerful! We haven't seen or heard from her in 10 days and she can't be bothered to answer her phone. Hubby has started feeding her cats and as usual I'm the one doing litter box duty.
I am getting the feeling thet she has either abandoned them or thinks that by now we won't mind adopting them so she can continue having a good time. This is about the same thing her older sister did a few years ago when we threw her out at 22, she abandoned the psycho cat she had picked up a few years before when she was a teenager and thought it would make a nice pet. With two dogs and one cat that my husband and I already have, we are at the limit of what we can reasonably afford as far as feeding, vet care, and time commitment.
I am seriously wondering where this is headed. They are perfectly nice cats so I don't like the idea of having them PTS. If I take them to a shelter, I end up being the bad guy since I will have voluntarily given up an animal. Has anyone else been through this? Dealing with abandoned pets from kids with a limited sense of responsiblity?
I posted back last fall when my 22 yr old SD (who is now 23) moved back in with us. She had broken up with her b/f, maxed out her credit cards, yada yada, basically had crashed and burned with her independent life and so she appeared on our doorstep. One month later her two cats Izzy and Bella arrived too. So that was the end of us using our own guest room. And of course she let her cats wander all over the house and made no attempt to manage the dog/cat introductions.
This is someone who considers herself a cat lover, well by my standards she isn't. Never mind that with all the cash she has for junk like cell phones and Victoria's Secret, she somehow never found the money to pay for these two little ladies to get fixed (she thought it might be cute to let them have kittens)
Well now she has moved out as of a few weeks ago - sort of - after almost five months of being in Parents Hotel. Someone she works for part time has a spare room so she is paying them $200 / month rent. Also she has a new b/f that she has sleepovers with at his place.
I am getting the feeling thet she has either abandoned them or thinks that by now we won't mind adopting them so she can continue having a good time. This is about the same thing her older sister did a few years ago when we threw her out at 22, she abandoned the psycho cat she had picked up a few years before when she was a teenager and thought it would make a nice pet. With two dogs and one cat that my husband and I already have, we are at the limit of what we can reasonably afford as far as feeding, vet care, and time commitment.