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post #1 of 21
Thread Starter 
Do you think that schools should provide condoms to students. The follwing was taken from cp24.com.

Some parents and teachers might look at the idea of condoms in schools with trepidation, worried they'll trigger pupils to have sex. But it looks like the opposite might be true.

American researchers say that students at schools where condoms were available weren’t as apt to have intercourse. “Condom availability was not associated with greater sexual activity among adolescents but was associated with greater condom use among those who were already sexually active, a highly positive result,†said Susan Blake, of the Department of Prevention and Community Health at George Washington University.

“When condoms are available in schools and are successfully used by sexually active adolescents, they may be an effective means of preventing potentially harmful outcomes such as HIV, STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) and pregnancy.â€

Approximately half of the kids in grades nine through 12 said they’d had sex, and almost 60 per cent of those said they’d used a condom the last time.

Blake and other researchers looked at info from the 1995 Massachusetts Youth Risk Behavior Study of over 4,000 students.
post #2 of 21
Teenagers are going to have raging hormones. I wish it were not necessary to provide them with condoms and information about sex, but the harsh reality is, we have to. All of us would like to think that our teens are going to be the responsible ones, but things can happen in the blink of an eye that they never planned to do. If they have to stop to take the time to use a condom, maybe it will give them that few seconds to think about what they are doing. I think providing condoms could be a good thing.
post #3 of 21
I agree, I dont think theres really any choice, because we cannot tell a teenager not to have sex - they are going to be curious and also will be likely to do it again....so there is a need for condoms, whether we like it or not.
post #4 of 21
i agree that use of condoms and other contraceptives should be taught in schools, i just wish it weren't such a taboo these days to teach abstinence. a teacher actually got reprimanded at one of the local schools for teaching that as a form of birth control.

as for handing out condoms... they did it at the university i attended and i whole-heartedly agreed with it there. i am not sure how to feel about it in high school. i guess as long as the kids know how to use them understand that they are not 100% effective.
post #5 of 21
Its a far cry from my high school days - I went to a all girl's catholic school and they were not allowed to talk about condoms How are we supposed to learn about safe sex?

I think its important, and its also important to talk about abstinence.
post #6 of 21
Thread Starter 
I was a tv show yesterday that was discussing sex with teens and they are saying that many kids have sex for the 1st time between the ages of 13 to 17. To me 13 is still just a baby. But I would rather they be safe, then have babies having babies!
post #7 of 21
Several of my friends in High School were pregnant at 15. I think if there had been condoms available there may have had a different outcome. I agree they should be available. (I have 2 teen boys and condoms available to them) Better safe than sorry.
post #8 of 21
What scares me is that they are handing out condoms and saying this will stop you from getting pregnant or STD's. Research has proven that this is not the case. Condoms can get old, defected or pierced and are then useless. I think it is dangerous. Also Dr. Drew mentioned in his book that young girls who are sexually active too early can have many health problems. They don't tell them the whole truth.
post #9 of 21
Here's an idea... take the condoms out of the schools and put up a kiosk at the mall! I feel sorry for the poor teachers and officials who are berated again and again for this, as if they were actually providing mood music and hourly rooms for the kids. I was WAY too young when I lost my virginity, and so were most of my peers. No, I don't want my kids having sex before they can drive a car, or better yet, vote. However, a LOT of the kids who are having sex are going to no matter how educated and supported they are. Hormones, don'tcha know been there, done that... I'd rather find out my children were having safe sex than to have a teenage couple in my living room telling me that I'm going to be a grandma.
post #10 of 21
My Dad cornered me in a car in the middle of nowhere in Kansas with this question. I think I gave the right answer though "I think it's a good idea because lots of teens have sex, but I wouldn't have had to ever use one."

Actually--I don't think condoms increase teens having sex, but it may increase the number of teens having sex to a greater number of them having safe sex. If we had had condoms available in my high school, it wouldn't have made any difference to those of us who didn't have sex.
post #11 of 21
They're available at my school. It's pretty sad though, how immature people are about it. Boys on my bus think it is hilarious to take a couple handfuls and blow them up like balloons and give them to preschoolers . I think they should be available, but there should be pamphlets and stuff around them. That's what some of these girls need to be reading... pamphlets about the real world and the real risks. I feel so sorry for the girls (some in ninth grade) that I've heard say "But if I don't do it, he says he'll leave me." There needs to be a good selection of reading material, hotline numbers, website addresses, and other anonymous ways that these girls can get help or somebody to talk to. The school puts out a bunch of condoms and assumes it will be okay, when it's really not.
post #12 of 21
[quote]Originally posted by Kiwideus
[b]Its a far cry from my high school days - I went to a all girl's catholic school and they were not allowed to talk about condoms How are we supposed to learn about safe sex?

Now, Kellye - nice Catholic girls aren't SUPPOSED to have sex, safe or otherwise.

I taught my sons about sex and being responsible. They were going to get in more trouble, for not being careful, than for the act itself. They were also taught that sex is not something to do "just because". I told them that it wasn't worth their lives and, if they were too embarrassed to buy condoms - I'm not! Of course, the thought of their mom buying condoms for them, may have deterred them somewhat.
post #13 of 21
One of my former students, currently in the 7th grade, just became a father in December....Pass the condoms, please!
post #14 of 21
I was fourteen, my first time. I did have condoms available, but didn't use them often. But I DID get on the pill as soon as I could without parental permission (fifteen). I was 17 when I found out that my mother knew I was on the pill, but didn't say anything because I was being careful. She also had met all my boyfriends, and approved of them. We never really talked about sex, she knew I was doing it, but she also knew that I had taken precautions not to get pregnant. I've always felt that the pill was safer and less hassle than condoms, as far as pregnancy goes. As for STD's, getting tested and making sure your partner gets tested is the best way, I think. Do I ask every boyfriend to go get tested? No. But I get tested every 6 months.
post #15 of 21
It only takes once to get infected. During the attack my ex raped me and infected me with Herpes (which he did not have before). I infected my husband before we knew I was infected even. The worst part about it is that I may not be able to have a vaginal birth because of it. It's also life long and can be extremely painful for women because it comes out during each menstrual cycle.
post #16 of 21
I work in a pharmacy and we do sell condoms.

Funnily, most of our sales are made by teenagers. And they buy them from me since I'm the youngest one and I suppose more comfortable for them. They could go to the supermarket to buy them but they keep them behind the counter at the cigarette counter which deters kids from buying them. The excuse is that they get stolen. However
I personally think they don't want to be seen as if they were promoting teen sex.

Frankly, they should wake up and realise teenagers do have sex. And if they do, a condom would prevent teen pregnancies, teen mothers, the need for the morning after pill, abortions and other adult decisions that teenagers aren't able to make without some guidance. Condoms aren't going to increase the number of kids having sex. And for those having sex, buying a condom in the relative privacy of a school toilet may allow them to get used to handling them when they do have to use them.
post #17 of 21
I think that condoms should be made available to teenagers. But, I also think that teenagers should have a comprehensive sex education-which for me includes information about sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy and also abstinence as an acceptable option.

I guess I was lucky-my mother and I had many discussions about sex. And when I was dating my high school sweetheart, she told me that sex was a wonderful thing, as long as I thought I was ready for it and I was in a committed relationship. When I became sexually active, my mother helped to make sure I was prepared to deal with the consequences by making sure I had condoms and other forms of birth control.

I think that the idea that not discussing sex and sexuality will make teens less likely to do it is wrong. A good friend of mine went to a school run by her church, a very conservative Born-Again denomination. Four of the five girls in her graduating class were pregnant by the time they were 18. If teens have all the information, they will be able to make educated choices.
post #18 of 21
Originally posted by Myste
Do I ask every boyfriend to go get tested? No. But I get tested every 6 months.
How is that taking a proactive stance? You could still potentially be exposed to something and not find out until after the fact.
post #19 of 21
I guess I'm the only dissenter here. Is it wise to leave out a gun and tell your kids not to touch it? It's like leaving a plate of cookies on the table and saying not to eat one. You might as well hand them the gun or the cookies. We all know that.

I answered my children's questions also, and when I didn't think they were asking enough questions, I told them what they needed to know. But I also taught them abstinence until marriage. They learned their moral standards at home and Sunday School and church. Young people need to know about birth control. Condoms are available in public restrooms and stores everywhere, but putting them in the schools is like putting our sanction on premarital sex. Peer pressure is hard enough to stand up against. I know that I am often standing alone in discussions concerning morality, and it's tough enough for an adult, but harder yet for an impressionable young teen.

In a few years it will be your little 13 year old girl being coaxed,
"Come on, do it! Everyone else does. They even sell condoms in the school bathrooms."
post #20 of 21

You are not alone. I agree with you 100%. Thank you for posting. Too often we allow other influences to teach our children right from wrong. Becomming sexually active in a young girls early teenage years, I believe, can be damaging to them. You are not capable of being in a committed relationship at the age of 14. As I posted before, condoms are not "safe sex". It may be safer than using nothing, but they way the hand them out it's like "this is 100% going to protect you from getting pregnant or SDT's". I know too many women who have gotten pregnant, even though their partner was using a condom, for this to be true.
post #21 of 21
Originally posted by Nora
It may be safer than using nothing, but they way the hand them out it's like "this is 100% going to protect you from getting pregnant or SDT's". I know too many women who have gotten pregnant, even though their partner was using a condom, for this to be true.
It's true that no form of birth control (besides not having sex) gives 100% protection. But, if used properly both condoms and birth control pills approach that level. The problem is in how people USE them. "User error" is the leading cause of contraception failure. Maybe we need education for all people, teens and adults, on how to properly use these methods.
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