So, it happened. I could not resist all those little faces on the rescue lists any more, and we got ourselves 4th cat on two weeks ago. He is about 2 y old, white & black DSH (shelter mugshot on my cat list) affectionate boy who I suspect has little oriental blood in him too. He was named named Stubby for his missing tail but we quickly renamed him Pyry. Pyry is neutered just like our three other boys who are all between 4-5 years of age.
We are just going through the Introductions Phase, and even though I think everything is going pretty well, I have couple of questions for youse there who have more experience. Mainly the questions I am wondering about are a) how much should I intervene at this point and b) should I still limit him to foster better relationships with his brothers.
Of course I would prefer the boys to sort it out on their own – but I also do not wish the new boy taking the house over. Especially, when I have one particularly nerdy boy who has blossomed under our care and come to be more confident and happy cat. He is the one who ends up being chased around the house at the moment – though most of it seems to be half-fun/half-freaky kind of play-chase.
I had observed Pyry at the rescue on two visits, and he surprised me a little with his twang towards dominance. He was quite scared of all the new space when he first came, safe room seemed big and he was very scared to explore into the house. Now that he has gotten used to the house, he thinks he is ready to take over.
One of the things he is now doing is being very territorial of his room and it’s spreading a bit to all upstairs. He will charge (like a dog) when someone approaches his room and chase his brothers from there. (His room is right on top of stairs too, so his brothers sit on the stairs confused/fearful about passing). This same behavior started spreading for sitting on couch with me or kitty beds. If he is first in, he will order that nobody else will come and share.
Now I do not like this, so right or wrong I have intervened. I am supporting the healthy hierarchy of the resident cats but I am open to suggestions how to do this more smart. It is fairly easy for me on the couch as I am right there. I will intentionally lift the other brothers to snuggle with me, pet them and ignore Pyry (or even lift him down if he is rude). I am more so trying to pet everyone to show Pyry that there is enough to go for everyone and he does not need to be so possessive, and only giving him the cold shoulder if he is making his brothers nervous and leave.
I am not so sure what to do with his room issue. At this point Pyry is not yet out when I am not in, and he spends nights in his room. I work from home, so he is out most of the day. I don’t like spray bottles what is what my vet suggested (they scare my other cats, they had been sprayed too much in their previous home). Yesterday, I intentionally took one of his brothers into the room when Pyry was there too (you know, usually intro visits have been exchanges), to “show him” that he does not own the room. I felt a bit ambivalent about that but obviously he already feels very safe in the house. His brother was very uncomfortable but I warded off Pyry’s approaches and showed all the affection for Ossi, kept him high up, and even let him eat treats there. Is this screwing up with poor Pyry’s mind? He still tried to charge a bit when we left but he was way more subdued.
Another question about ‘pushing it’ I have is relating to eating together. We just started doing it two days ago. Everyone will come together and take their cup (I set them about foot apart from each other). Two of the brothers have pretty much accepted Pyry, one (Teppo) still growls at him most of the time when he passes. I put Pyry and Teppo in the opposite ends. Pyry will eat with no concern and try to go to everyone’s cups which ruins other’s appetite - so they will leave after couple of minutes. Should I postpone this eating together, does it just create negative feeling? Eating is especially important thing to Teppo who is working so hard with this change… His growling status is improving on daily basis, they are already exchanging kisses and butt sniffs, and able to lay down 4 ft apart as long as Pyry is not talking…
Sorry this ended up quite long… I don’t want this headbutting, kissing little fool turning into a little tyrant with my three mushy boys. He’s a great little kitty and I want him to realize he does not need scare anybody to get more for himself when there is plenty for everyone.
We are just going through the Introductions Phase, and even though I think everything is going pretty well, I have couple of questions for youse there who have more experience. Mainly the questions I am wondering about are a) how much should I intervene at this point and b) should I still limit him to foster better relationships with his brothers.
Of course I would prefer the boys to sort it out on their own – but I also do not wish the new boy taking the house over. Especially, when I have one particularly nerdy boy who has blossomed under our care and come to be more confident and happy cat. He is the one who ends up being chased around the house at the moment – though most of it seems to be half-fun/half-freaky kind of play-chase.
I had observed Pyry at the rescue on two visits, and he surprised me a little with his twang towards dominance. He was quite scared of all the new space when he first came, safe room seemed big and he was very scared to explore into the house. Now that he has gotten used to the house, he thinks he is ready to take over.
One of the things he is now doing is being very territorial of his room and it’s spreading a bit to all upstairs. He will charge (like a dog) when someone approaches his room and chase his brothers from there. (His room is right on top of stairs too, so his brothers sit on the stairs confused/fearful about passing). This same behavior started spreading for sitting on couch with me or kitty beds. If he is first in, he will order that nobody else will come and share.
Now I do not like this, so right or wrong I have intervened. I am supporting the healthy hierarchy of the resident cats but I am open to suggestions how to do this more smart. It is fairly easy for me on the couch as I am right there. I will intentionally lift the other brothers to snuggle with me, pet them and ignore Pyry (or even lift him down if he is rude). I am more so trying to pet everyone to show Pyry that there is enough to go for everyone and he does not need to be so possessive, and only giving him the cold shoulder if he is making his brothers nervous and leave.
I am not so sure what to do with his room issue. At this point Pyry is not yet out when I am not in, and he spends nights in his room. I work from home, so he is out most of the day. I don’t like spray bottles what is what my vet suggested (they scare my other cats, they had been sprayed too much in their previous home). Yesterday, I intentionally took one of his brothers into the room when Pyry was there too (you know, usually intro visits have been exchanges), to “show him” that he does not own the room. I felt a bit ambivalent about that but obviously he already feels very safe in the house. His brother was very uncomfortable but I warded off Pyry’s approaches and showed all the affection for Ossi, kept him high up, and even let him eat treats there. Is this screwing up with poor Pyry’s mind? He still tried to charge a bit when we left but he was way more subdued.
Another question about ‘pushing it’ I have is relating to eating together. We just started doing it two days ago. Everyone will come together and take their cup (I set them about foot apart from each other). Two of the brothers have pretty much accepted Pyry, one (Teppo) still growls at him most of the time when he passes. I put Pyry and Teppo in the opposite ends. Pyry will eat with no concern and try to go to everyone’s cups which ruins other’s appetite - so they will leave after couple of minutes. Should I postpone this eating together, does it just create negative feeling? Eating is especially important thing to Teppo who is working so hard with this change… His growling status is improving on daily basis, they are already exchanging kisses and butt sniffs, and able to lay down 4 ft apart as long as Pyry is not talking…
Sorry this ended up quite long… I don’t want this headbutting, kissing little fool turning into a little tyrant with my three mushy boys. He’s a great little kitty and I want him to realize he does not need scare anybody to get more for himself when there is plenty for everyone.