Izzy(female) and Sebastian(male) have grown up together and for the most part (excluding Izzy's false heat bouts)had always loved each other. They are both indoor kitties & both fixed.
Recently I was married and when my husband & I returned from the honeymoon we found our kitties had gotten a divorce. Actually Izzy wants Sebastian out of her house. We've had Sebastian longer and he is the affectionate one that acts like he loves us while Izzy, if she demands it, will allow us to pet her on occassion.
It seems she wants to be in a one kitty household but we've always been a two kitty household and in fact we got Izzy when Sebastians best kitty friend passed on and he seemed lonely. It's been almost a month of Sebastian being the innocent, sweet, little victim and it's breaking our heart almost as much as the thought of giving Izzy up.
We've tried all of the herbal remedies and tried separating them, not separating them and allowing them to "work it out" on their own, bringing Sebastian to bed and locking Izzy out and vise versa.
Does it make us horrible kitty parents if we find Izzy a home where she can be the queen? Also, is it possible for kitties to grow apart as they grow up?
Recently I was married and when my husband & I returned from the honeymoon we found our kitties had gotten a divorce. Actually Izzy wants Sebastian out of her house. We've had Sebastian longer and he is the affectionate one that acts like he loves us while Izzy, if she demands it, will allow us to pet her on occassion.
It seems she wants to be in a one kitty household but we've always been a two kitty household and in fact we got Izzy when Sebastians best kitty friend passed on and he seemed lonely. It's been almost a month of Sebastian being the innocent, sweet, little victim and it's breaking our heart almost as much as the thought of giving Izzy up.
We've tried all of the herbal remedies and tried separating them, not separating them and allowing them to "work it out" on their own, bringing Sebastian to bed and locking Izzy out and vise versa.
Does it make us horrible kitty parents if we find Izzy a home where she can be the queen? Also, is it possible for kitties to grow apart as they grow up?