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post #1 of 30
Thread Starter 
I had a long thread all ready to send with color and smilies and real cute to thank everyone for being so special while I was gone and I went to send it and I must have done something ignorant and I lost the whole f---ing thing!!! It took me an hour to type it and set it up and now it is gone. . . I am so upset I have been crying until I can't catch my breath. . . I will have to come back and try later when my blood pressure is not thru the roof. I love you all and it meant so much to me to present a cute thread and then I went and screwed it up and I don't know how to retrieve it!

post #2 of 30
Welcome back Darlene!

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post #3 of 30
Welcome Back Darlene. You were truly missed!
post #4 of 30
All of us missed you so much, and hey, don't sweat the small stuff okay- a missing thread is really no big deal considering what you just endured. I am just glad it allowed you to release all that anguish you have been trying to supress!

Welcome back sweetie!
post #5 of 30
Welcome back!! I am sure the thread was lovley. Just knowing you are back and okay is better though!!
post #6 of 30
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so glad that you are back!!!!
post #7 of 30

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post #8 of 30
Oh Darlene....I know EXACTLY how you feel! I have spent time making what I considered to be witty and profound posts... and dang it if I didn't go and lose it all. Pisses me off!!!!!! LOL

The main thing is that you are back...and we have missed you terribly...and we are so GLAD to have our threeleggedkat back home!!!!
post #9 of 30
I can't think of a better thread to post my 600th on than to welcome you home, 3LK!!!

You have been sorely missed. I sincerely hope you are feeling better.

Don't feel bad about the special post, the most special part is that you are back. Stay healthy!

By the way, please thank your sister for keeping us updated.

Love ya!

post #10 of 30
Yipee! You're home! Hooray!

I can really relate to losing a Post of the Century; but, as others have already stated, having you back is all that matters!


post #11 of 30
just had to say one more time that I'm glad that you are back!!!!!

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and just for old times here are a few more of these guys

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post #12 of 30
You have been missed! I hope that you are feeling better and that you'll be all the way back on your feet soon! I'm here when your ready and feel well enough to talk.
post #13 of 30
Weclome back!!!! Glad to see you posting, even if the cyber gremlins are in force...:martian: :martian: :martian: :martian:
Hope your health is much better too!!
post #14 of 30

did I mention that I'm glad you're back?!?!!?!?!?!?!

post #15 of 30
Darlene! Where did you go???? We MISS you!!!!!! I hope you are not still upset. We love you so much here, and we want to hear from you again, soon!
post #16 of 30
Yeay! TLK is back!

Never mind the darn thread! You're back!!!


How are you feeling?
post #17 of 30
Thread Starter 
ANNE, and Everyone;

Your concern is very appreciated. I am doing fine (for a crippled old woman who is too stubborn for her own good)

I will be okay, but I am having trouble accepting some of the "changes" my family wants me to make; "for my own good".

I have always taken care of myself and I always will!!!!!

I did not always make the RIGHT choices, but they were MY choices and I never asked anyone to pay the consequences for my mistakes. . . .

This is the way I feel about their new ideas and I'm gonna have to pray long and hard to find some workable compromises. :angel2:
post #18 of 30
Darlene, what is all this about? Whay changes are you going to make?
post #19 of 30
Thread Starter 
Okay, here goes, I will try not to get too upset. . . .

My sister wants to sell the house. It is in her name but I helped with the down payment 23yrs. ago and I have always paid her $200 a month rent and helped with groceries, paid my own phone and paid for anything that my cats needed. (Not to mention that my sister got free daycare for both of her daughters and I took care of our Mom for the last 5yrs. of her life, and I still worked part time; evenings and holidays and free-lance from home) Okay, I am through venting, I promise, and I will go back to the facts. . . .

The house is too-o-o-o-o big and old (built in 1904) and it is in need of too many major repairs that a couple of ageing women can't perform. . . .
Dorothy has her own apt. and Sandra will go away to school in the next 2 yrs. Diane wants a smaller house all on one level and out of the city (where the neighborhoods are constantly changing: mostly not for the good). She wants to take her time and find the "right" place and Sandra will still be in high school (private Christian Academy less than a mile from home) so she has 2 yrs. to look.

My doctor says I CANNOT continue to climb stairs without serious reprecussions! So my family has decided that I should move into a government subsidised apt. for disabled seniors. I would not mind except: I would not be allowed to have any pets It would be quite a ways from Diane and the girls.
I would be alone. (other people in building, but no one I know and most a lot older than me and from different racial, social, and economical background. ( do not mean to sound prejudiced but I feel that they would exclude me; not the other way around. . . . . .) Also the building is in a "rougher" section of the inner city.

Diane says that once she has the new house we can move back together, but I know it will just be easier to leave me where I have been put and that will never happen. . . .
Dorothy and Sandra promise me that the cats will be taken care of, but they will be so unhappy and scared without me. (not to mention that I will die of a broken heart. . . and just fall apart.

So, basically, that is what I am facing. I welcome all suggestions for solutions. . . . . I have to go now before I get upset again.
post #20 of 30

i know you PM'ed me about this awhile ago, and since then i have worried.

i dont understand why you think your sister would just leave you there?

this is a sad situation. you should be spending your life the way that makes you happiest.
and with the things that make you happiest, and most comfortable.

why cant you make your home downstairs so as to avoid walking the stairs?

is there room? can you make room?

dont allow yourself to be moved from your own home if there are other options, please!!

i can hardly bare the thought of you in a seniors home without your family or your cats.

there must be another option.

do you and your sister not get along? is she looking for an excuse for you to leave?

i'm so sorry this is happening.

tell me, will that work? can you make a living area for yourself downstairs?

love you, angel. i'm here for you 100%

post #21 of 30
Oh my! That is tough. I can't really see how you can live without your cats. Is there no such place that does allow pets?
post #22 of 30
I'm very sorry to learn of these awful developments! How can your "family" just up and decide what's to become of you? Are they, whomever they are, going to go to court in an attempt to have you declared incompetent? How can your "family," for even a moment, think of excluding your beloved cats from your life? That is cruelty, madness and selfishness all rolled into one!

You've always seemed such a strong person. I can't accept that you've no alternatives apart from those dictated by your "family." Please don't roll over and give up on their account! Surely you've friends who can advise and help you at this time, so that you can continue to enjoy a lifestyle which includes your dear cats.

In the event, something must be done to stop this rush to put you away in a "home." You are quite correct in that once there you'll be left there, no matter who buys what kind of house. It's a tried and true tactic which I've seen happen time and again; and all of this has its basis in greed: Somebody in your "family" stands to make money from your absence — and, for them, it's full speed ahead so you'll not have the time necessary to determine humane alternatives.

Were I you, I'd make every attempt to counsel with an attorney-at-law who has experience in this phenomenon of rushing people off to "homes" so as to get them out of the way. Once your "family" goes to court in order to take control of your life, it's all over but the breathing.

post #23 of 30
Thread Starter 
Anne, Katie, Joe; Trust me, "I will not go gracefully into that great goodnite. . . . . " and they know it. So far I have not been able to find a subsidised apt. that allows pets; let alone more than one!!! And my $200 a month plus having to pay utilities would not cover much toward any apt. in anything else but gov't. subsidy housing.

My family would never succeed in declaring me "incompetent" (I don't think). I am smarter and fiestier than all of them put together!!!

I am checking into rather or not they can legally deny a pet to residents of Public Housing. There may be a fee involved but I know they will never allow multiple pets. . .

The reason I cannot live on the first level of my sister's house is because there is no longer running water or a functioning bathroom on that level. The plumbing was so old and in bad repair, that in order for her to service the second floor flat; she had to by-pass service to the first floor flat. I have a bedroom down there with limited electricity (no air-conditioning) and I use a portable commode if I need to pee overnite.(sorry about that, but that is the truth) I carry drinking water and ice cubes back and forth in a cooler from the second floor kitchen.

When I get up most mornings it takes me about 30 to 45 minutes to climb the stairs to the second floor to feed the cats, etc. because the pain is so bad I have to stop on the landing and sit down to rest or my blood pressure would soar. Now with the added edema (swelling) the task is sometimes worse. Once I get upstairs, I try not to come down again until bedtime so going down to answer the front door or, worse yet, to go down to basement(three flights of stairs)for landry is out of the question. . . . .
(I don't get many visitors
unless they call ahead first or have their own key) Sandra is very good about helping with the laundry and going down to the back yard to feed the dogs and change their water.

So, that, kids, is my life, and why there have to be some changes made. Joe, I know that you are not trying to scare me; Believe me I know that if they "ship me off" I will not return to be a part of the "New House"

Well, it hasn't happened yet; but maybe now you know why I was so upset to have to spend more time than anticipated in the hospital!

Suggestions still welcomed . . . TLK
post #24 of 30
How I wish there was something I could do to help you! This isn't fair, that you should ever be kept apart from your wonderful cats. Of course, I'm sorry to know (as I hadn't before) the extent to which you've mobility problems.

Something must be done to help you! If only I knew what. I shall continue to keep you (and your cats) in my prayers. Please let us know what transpires from day to day.

post #25 of 30
Oh Darlene... This is so sad. You cannot go live somewhere among strangers and without your cats. Move to Oregon and you can live with me and my kitty

Correct me if I read this wrong, but do you have two years until the house will be sold? How much longer do you think you will be in the home? This is quite a dilema. It doesn't sound fair for any of you. I am going to think of some ideas, as I am sure everyone else will also.

You and your kitties are in my thoughts. Let me know if you need

post #26 of 30
Oh my Goodness!!!!!

I'm sorry, I haven't been on myself that much due to personal illness...Darlene, when I read of this shoddy deal that's happening to you I'm freaking out!!! What can I do!???? What time frame are you looking at right now? My prayers are with you.
I have something in mind, but I don't know when or if this will happen for me, so I'd rather not say, but...I pray that I move...let's just say that for now...Pray for me that I move and I'll have you down here in a heartbeat! With your cats!!!! This is horrible!
You're so loved Darlene,
We can't allow this to happen to you!

Love Always,
post #27 of 30
Darlene...I wish there was SOME way that I could help you!!!! This is really upsetting me...your family doesn't seem to know you as well as we do, and it is horrible that they could even ask you to give up your cats, for another place to live....Oh honey....my heart goes out to you....I wish like crazy you lived closer, I would take care of you, and your cats. I feel like you are kinda the mom I never really had. I love you, as do all of us, please let us know if there is ANYTHING we can do to help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
post #28 of 30
Darlene! It's so nice to see you back!

I am sorry to hear of your situation. I hope everything turns out OK for you. I don't understand why you couldn't have pets in gov't subsidised housing. How many pets do you have? COuld you share a place with your sister?
post #29 of 30
Oooooh! What a rotten thing to happen! I'm all steamed up for you. I hope it doesn't come down to you going into subsidized housing, but if it does, you might still be able to keep your cats. Under the Americans with Disabilities Act service animals can't be barred. That includes emotional support service animals. I'm not certain of the procedure, but you might not need anything more than a note from your doctor saying that you require your cats to maintain your emotional well being. I'll see if I can find out more about this and let you know.
post #30 of 30
I found the government website about the ADA, but couldn't find anything specific to this situation. They do have a phone number to call if you have questions. The website address is http://www.usdoj.gov/crt/ada/adahom1.htm . I'm not sure if your service animal has to correspond with your primary disability or not. The lady who told me about the emotional support animal exemption she got for her dog had mental illness as her disability.
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