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First of all im glad you had a change of heart about your cat. Don't think your cat hates you..he's a cat..cats don't hate..they sometimes have antisocial moment but.. Now you have some sort of problem yourself that you need to get checked out. It may just be stress or it could be something more..you took time for your cat to go to the doctor it's time for you to go as well


Now you say all your friends have forgotten you..well forget them they wern't friends at all if their not there for you in your time of need! You may need to look for some new friends in a new place! And Besides i'm sure the people on here are there to listen to you to help you deal.


Now go have a sleep,eat some chocolate and have a good evening playing a non-violent game on xbox! (there is some out there I promise lol)
 

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yes im sorry for attacking you in my previous post, the more i thought about it i really do think you need to see a doctor, your 1st few posts were very irrational. You also seem super depressed. You need to get to a doctor right away and explain exactly how you been feeling.

For the past 5years at least 3 days a week i would feel so empty, nothing but darkness. I would have to drag myself out of bed to go to work and sometimes it was so bad i would call off and stay under the covers. I also started thinking very irrational thoughts about my relationship and speaking very irrational to the closest people in my life. Mentally i was suffering terribly, and the worst part was i honestly had no reason to feel like that, my life is pretty decent. I just couldnt help those horrible feelings.

So i finally went to one of those doctors, and she did diagnose me bipolar, i cant remember if it was 1 or 2. I really didnt believe the bipolar diagnosis, but i just went with the flow and stuck with everything she prescribed, and i feel so much better its unbeleivable, so im going to stick with it.
 

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I just want to interject that several weeks ago you said your kitty cat was not neutered, leaving him that way could be making him very very very edgy.

I am sorry you are going through a difficult time right now, I really am and do hope you can at least help the stress of your kitty by getting him neutered.
 

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Yep, non-neutered cats can act out like that for no reason at all. And sometimes they'll be a little edgy and "not themselves" even for a few days after their neutered. So it's nothing personal on you!

I'm glad you didn't toss your kitty out or do anything you might regret. I'm sure Mr. Jinx feels your "vibes" and you feel his too and probably aren't sure how to react to each other!

Send you lots of to both of you that you get the peace and comfort you need.
 

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In my experience, whenever anyone -- feline, human, or other -- behaves badly toward me, the most helpful first reaction is to think back on my own behavior. Sometimes they're only reacting to something I've done.

Of course, it often turns out that I'm perfectly innocent and they're just obnoxious... but those are mostly the humans, not the cats.
 
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Well, I am in therapy already. Second, I have made an appointment for him to get neutered. Third, I cannot recall anything that I did to make Mr Jinx want to kill me like this. I have always cleaned his litter, made sure he had food, and water, played with him, let him sit on my lap when he wanted, and he always slept in my bed. I am not saying I was 100% perfect, but I am not a person who abuses animals. In the five years I have had him, he not once done this. He would give me these atention getting bites on the arm( VERY gently) to get me to pet him. He would even lick my chin in the mornings to wake me up. I really hope he gets through this because I really want him to be the sweet, loving little guy he used to be. I miss how he follows me around the house, now everytime we see each other in the kitchen, he does this lip smacking thing, his eyes get fearful and his ears go back and he hisses and howls and growls at me. The whole day before this happened, he was being really sweet, he slept on my bed, when I came back from my mom and dads, he climbed onto my lap purring the whole time. I come back from getting groceries and it is like a completely different cat.
 

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Are there any animal behaviourists in your area? If he's had a checkup and the vet's found nothing physical, then it could be psychological. It's said when un-neutered they are more aggressive, but the sudden change is worrying.
 

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Originally Posted by ScottF

Well, I am in therapy already. Second, I have made an appointment for him to get neutered.
that's good - full toms can be very aggressive, often for no apparent reason [at least, not one that's apparent to us humans!] but don't expect an overnight change. it takes a while for the hormones to dissapate from the system.
like some other said - basically, just ignore him. keep his physical needs [box, food, water] met, but otherwise, pretend you don't have a cat. i think it's partly the unneutered status, & partly your own depression that's causing him to act in this way.
talking softly to him, while not looking at him [perhaps reading aloud?] can help, too.
 

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Wow, it sound like (as I said) either you were exposed to another cat while you were out, or Jack saw another cat outside. This is called "redirected aggression," and it is especially bad in unneutered males. I see you have him set up for neutering; that is almost certainly part of the problem. This is why most of us recommend getting it done before 6 months, so the problems such as you're describing never develop.
 

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Originally Posted by mrblanche

Wow, it sound like (as I said) either you were exposed to another cat while you were out, or Jack saw another cat outside. This is called "redirected aggression," and it is especially bad in unneutered males. I see you have him set up for neutering; that is almost certainly part of the problem. This is why most of us recommend getting it done before 6 months, so the problems such as you're describing never develop.
When you said he was fine before you went out, and was completely different when you got back home, redirected aggression was my first thought too. I had a cat that was like that a few years ago....she was the sweetest thing but if she saw something outside and couldn't get to it, look out! Since she couldn't "attack" whatever it was outside, she would attack what she could inside. Have there been any changes in the neighborhood that he can see from the window or any new animals roaming around? There may also be a female cat in heat nearby and he's picking up her scent and that could be making him act aggressive.

Getting him neutered is definitely going to help, but as stated before it's not going to happen overnight. Spaying/neutering isn't just to help control the population, it also makes the cat much more relaxed because they don't have those "urges".

Mr Jinx still loves you, just give him is space and he'll come around.
 

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Originally Posted by mrblanche

Wow, it sound like (as I said) either you were exposed to another cat while you were out, or Jack saw another cat outside. This is called "redirected aggression," and it is especially bad in unneutered males. I see you have him set up for neutering; that is almost certainly part of the problem. This is why most of us recommend getting it done before 6 months, so the problems such as you're describing never develop.
That is EXACTLY what I was just thinking. You must've walked through another tom cat's scent. Naturally you and I can't smell it, but they can. It's like how cats react when one of the other cats in the household have been to the vet - like they're a totally new and different cat because they smell "wrong".
 

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Originally Posted by Poppy0109

Since he's all stressed out from the vet visits and his infection, maybe you should stay away from him for awhile. Don't try to pet him, don't go near him. Act like he's not even there. Obviously still feed him and take care of his litter box...but besides that, just pretend he's not there. Then after awhile, he'll realize that you aren't going at him to try to get him in the cat carrier to take him to that evil place where they poke him with sharp things. Then he'll start to relax.
Aside from getting help for yourself, the above is the best advice I've seen on this thread. It's not anything YOU have done that is making Mr. Jinx angry. He probably did get vibes from something outside while you were out. I had a NEUTERED kitty that would attack his sister if he saw a cat outside.

Getting him neutered will help - at any age. When I was a kid (in the 1960's) neutering was not widely recommended yet - but we had a tomcat that got into so many fights it was killing him. He was 8 when the vet fixed him - he was a totally changed cat. He PLAYED with us; and was lovey, and no more fighting. I realize most on this site tend to push for EARLIEST POSSIBLE neutering, and I wholly agree, but sometimes it just doesn't work that way. No guilt, just get him fixed, and he - and YOU - will be happier for it.

Also, follow Poppy's advice above. Be cool, be cool, be cool - let Mr. Jinx come to you.
 

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Originally Posted by ScottF

at this point I dont really care, I just know I am sick of being treated like crap....humans animals and to a lesser degree than animals or humans...cops
It sounds to me like you have issues that you need to deal with. You are taking your rage and anger out on a poor defenseless animal. Have you ever given consideration that it's your anger that is making your cat hiss at you? Animals are very intuitive and if you are mean to them, they'll be mean and aloof with you too.

To be honest I don't know you and given what you have posted and in the manner that you have posted it, I wouldn't want to be around you either.

I strongly suggest you make an appointment with your doctor to get some antidepressant medications and that you get yourself into some psychological counselling.
 

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Why are people diagnosing this man and recommending medication? You guys have never met him in person and I think it's rude to make these judgments. How many of you work in mental health? He said he is in therapy so clearly he is taking care of himself. Everyone has bad days and his animal is not neutered, so there is something to consider.
 

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Male cats get very aggressive when they aren't neutered. They have an innate need to fight. Please don't take it personally. His aggression isn't against you. It is a biological drive. Getting him fixed will bring back the kitty you loved for 5 years but it will take some time for the testosterone to clear his system. Please don't give up on Jinx. He needs your love and understanding.
 

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some of us are just urging him to go see his doctor to get checked out..
 

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I did not see an actual diagnosis.. just a suggestion that he may have personal issues of his own. Many here have had problems with mental illness and depression, and may be seeing similarities in his posts. There's nothing wrong with suggesting that someone seek help. I dont think anyone is being judgemental, just trying to offer helpful advice.
 

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I'm sorry, Scott -- I didn't meant to imply that you were mistreating your cat! I only meant that, as Natalie_ca said, animals sense our moods and attitudes very strongly, and you are so clearly a person in turmoil that it's no wonder the kitty is upset. That, combined with not having been neutered yet, is plenty to explain Mr. Jinx's behavior.

I do want to add this, though: when our Dylan was little, he was an only cat, and even though he had been neutered, he became very aggressive in some of the ways you describe. It turned out that he was a very strong alpha male who needed someone to dominate -- and in the absence of other cats, he chose to dominate us. We adopted Sassy, and all was soon well. So if neutering doesn't resolve the issue, please consider a companion kitty for Jinx.

And I hope you find peace of mind in your personal life soon, as well... all good wishes to you.
 

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Before I had Geronimo neutered, he was a very aggressive cat and would "bully" the others. He never attacked me personally, but at one point I thought he might when I tried to break up one of his attacks on Gabriel. I don't know what spooked him so badly that specific time, but he was on the warpath and I just left him alone till he got over it. I think he may have noticed one of the strays' scents on the porch, and that's what set him off. Some cats are very territorial, and will guard what they think is theirs. Geronimo is still territorial, but he's calmed down considerably since being neutered.

I think Mr. Jinx probably did pick up on another cat's scent, and the combination of that and him being sick probably set him off. And if you've been on edge lately, too, he's probably picking up on that. Cats are very intuitive and notice when their peeps aren't feeling well.

I hope that you get Mr. Jinx neutered soon, and I hope your therapy goes well, too.
 

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Here's 2 more thoughts about Mr. Jinx's behavior:

It's February. Cats in our climate zones go into heat about now (April babies conceived in February). If Mr. Jinx isn't neutered and he is sensing females in heat outside, he can and will act how you are describing. He's frustrated by the need to reproduce and you aren't letting him do anything about it.

I have a cat with chronic bladder problems that are not easily diagnosed by a vet. When his condition flares up, my sweet little Muddy (the cat that will leap into my arms for love), hisses, scratches and bites me.

When he is under for his neuter, I would ask the vet to do a full urinalysis and ultrasound of his bladder. You want to look for a bacterial infection, crystals, and an inflamed bladder. He may still be ill. Bladder problems are not always easily diagnosed. And they are painful.

He's telling you something is wrong. He's not telling you he hates you. It's a shame that they can't speak English and we have to interpret their behavior.
 
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