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father at age 13

post #1 of 24
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Wow-just wow is all I can say...and he only looks 7 or 8...

The baby is adorable though

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage...cle2233878.ece
post #2 of 24
OMG! I am speechless.
post #3 of 24
While I can respect the fact that they didn't want to get an abortion because of their age, I really don't think they have a clue what they got themselves into. You can actually tell by the look on his face...he's not sure WHAT this thing is. I can commend him for wanting to be a good father, and it seems like they have so much family support that is great.

But, I can't help but think the baby would probably do better with a more stable, mature family. I'm not saying they don't love the baby, but it sounds like the girl's mother is probably going to end up raising the baby, and she is already strapped as it is with other kids to support and look after. I'm hoping the girl decides to go back to school and graduate high school at least. But, that leaves her mother stuck. It's just not fair to her, to the baby or to the new parents.

I personally can't imagine having sex at 12 yrs old! Back when I was that age, boys still thought girls were "icky" and girls were more interested in their rollerskates and cabbage patch dolls.
post #4 of 24
My 11 year old son looks older than the father. I hope for that baby's sake the Grandparents will step in, and care for this little one.
post #5 of 24
It makes me sick looking at that boy and imagining he had sex at that age..I honestly think that the grandparents should be legally responsible for their grandchild. They were the ones who had to make sure it doesn't happen, talk to their son about being responsible, etc. I can't put a blame on a 13 year old ....
post #6 of 24
That is messed up.
post #7 of 24
I'm looking at the girl thinking, how could she have been physically attracted to a boy that looks sooo immature...She looks a lot more mature than him.
post #8 of 24
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Originally Posted by ut0pia View Post
I'm looking at the girl thinking, how could she have been physically attracted to a boy that looks sooo immature...She looks a lot more mature than him.
I honestly wondered that myself. Why be attacted to a boy that is so much younger than you if you aren't attracted to "something else". Hmmm....something to think about.
post #9 of 24
Ugh. Part of me doesn't believe it, because it is the Sun after all!

My son, at the age of 8 looks older than him!
post #10 of 24
What a terrible, sad story. And yeah, it's unnerving to look at that boy and realize he fathered a child - is he really 13?

While I feel bad for the two kids, I feel worse for that innocent baby. Imagine having parents who are children themselves. The day will soon come when the "novelty" of caring for a baby wears off and they just want to be kids again.

The grandparents don't sound like they're in any position to care for a newborn. One side is divorced with 9 kids, the other, jobless, with 5. They couldn't even keep tabs on the kids they already have, let alone an infant who will require 24 hour attention.

The best thing that could happen for all concerned, especially the baby, is for the families to put the infant up for adoption.
post #11 of 24
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Originally Posted by ut0pia View Post
It makes me sick looking at that boy and imagining he had sex at that age..I honestly think that the grandparents should be legally responsible for their grandchild. They were the ones who had to make sure it doesn't happen, talk to their son about being responsible, etc. I can't put a blame on a 13 year old ....
Actually, the Mom and baby are living with her parents who are on "benefits" (welfare?). So it seems that the public are the ones responsible for the child.

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Chantelle and Maisie were released from hospital yesterday. They are living with Penny, Chantelle’s jobless dad Steve, 43, and her five brothers in a rented council house in Eastbourne. The family live on benefits. Alfie, who lives on an estate across town with mum Nicola, 43, spends most of his time at the Steadmans’ house.
post #12 of 24
Wow.

That is just downright scary.

I'm curious, does the UK has sex education in school? About safe sex and the like? I know some places don't believe in teaching it in school.

I think it might have been an experimentation phase, that obviously backfired. With all the hype of sex in the media, our kids are exposed to it on a daily basis and its up to us parents to make sure our children are educated.

My 12yr old daughter, has known about sex for a year or two now. She is open and upfront, and I know that if she chose to have sex (which I hope doesn't happen for a few years yet) that she would use protection.

I feel sorry for the baby, as well as the parents themselves. Children raising children is just not right.

It's sad, the amount of 12yr olds having babies now.
post #13 of 24
I would assume they have sex ed in the UK. They are far more secular than the US, where we have abstinence type sex ed- they say the answer to preventing pregnancy is not birth control but abstinence.
post #14 of 24
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Originally Posted by Kiwideus View Post
Ugh. Part of me doesn't believe it, because it is the Sun after all!
Sadly Kelley it's true.

They asked him what he would do to look after it financially, and he replied with "What does financially mean?!".

The parents obviously have a lot to answer for, because they sound like their a can short of a six pack themselves. And doing interviews to newspapers like they are is making it sound like it's ok to have sex at such a young age
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Originally Posted by Snake_Lady View Post
I'm curious, does the UK has sex education in school? About safe sex and the like? I know some places don't believe in teaching it in school.
They did when i was at school, but i think they phased it out, but then recently brought it back.

The latest now is that other boys have come forward saying the baby may be theirs, so what does that say about the girl

http://www.bild.de/BILD/news/bild-en...by-maisie.html

http://news.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/hi/he...00/7892867.stm

Her mother was quite happy to let boys sleep over at her house as well
post #15 of 24
What's absolutely reprehensible about the whole thing is that the family is going to make a mint selling their story - which tells other 12, 13 year old kids - "Do this and you'll make more money than you ever would at any part time job flipping burgers! Yeah!"
post #16 of 24
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Originally Posted by Sparkie View Post
What's absolutely reprehensible about the whole thing is that the family is going to make a mint selling their story - which tells other 12, 13 year old kids - "Do this and you'll make more money than you ever would at any part time job flipping burgers! Yeah!"
Exactly, and the newspapers are playing a big part in it all
post #17 of 24
Storys like that should never be published, its like telling children its okay for this to happen, you will make the front headlines.
post #18 of 24
IMO THIS kind of situation is a VERY good reason why any child - and they both are children, under the age of 18 should have their baby taken from them immediately and adopted out to a mature couple that can be responsible for the care and raising of this child.

NO way can those two raise and teach a child at age 13 and 15. And neither of them are capable of supporting the baby either - cause they don't have jobs. It should NOT be the grandparents or the state/country that pays for that child!
post #19 of 24
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Originally Posted by ut0pia View Post
I'm looking at the girl thinking, how could she have been physically attracted to a boy that looks sooo immature...She looks a lot more mature than him.
That`s what I thought when I saw the front cover That`s messed up that she slept with him, he must have looked even younger 9 months ago!
post #20 of 24
Reading more about the story that he would spend the night and sleep in bed with her, and now there's more boys who say they may be the father? Almost sounds to me like the parents were whoring out their daughter to get her pregnant. What kind of parents let boys of sexually maturing age sleep in the same bed as their sexually mature daughter???? This was a pregnancy waiting to happen...and they're probably just glad it's the little guy who may be the father so they can get their 15 minutes of ill-gotten fame. Nevermind the 18 years to raise the baby.
post #21 of 24
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Originally Posted by valanhb View Post
What kind of parents let boys of sexually maturing age sleep in the same bed as their sexually mature daughter????
The ones that havent got a brain cell between them.

Sadly their not the first and they won't be the last either
post #22 of 24
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Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45 View Post
IMO THIS kind of situation is a VERY good reason why any child - and they both are children, under the age of 18 should have their baby taken from them immediately and adopted out to a mature couple that can be responsible for the care and raising of this child.
Wow, so my son should have been taken away when he was born since I was just shy of 17 at the time? Nevermind that he is now getting ready to turn 21, is in college, works and has NEVER been in any kind of trouble, personal or legal, works very hard to help around the house, babysits his nieces and nephews when asked, takes care of the animals and is one of the most responsible people I know of any age? Let me also add that there was never any welfare or government assistance involved either.

That is quite an extreme and ridiculous view.
post #23 of 24
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Originally Posted by AlleyGirl View Post
Wow, so my son should have been taken away when he was born since I was just shy of 17 at the time? Nevermind that he is now getting ready to turn 21, is in college, works and has NEVER been in any kind of trouble, personal or legal, works very hard to help around the house, babysits his nieces and nephews when asked, takes care of the animals and is one of the most responsible people I know of any age? Let me also add that there was never any welfare or government assistance involved either.

That is quite an extreme and ridiculous view.
I'm afraid it's a case of painting everything with that big old brush. I have a friend who was married at 16 and raised 3 beautiful sons who are pillars of the community and were never in trouble. She and her husband separated when the children were young and she basically raised them on her own. She was a great mom and is now a wonderful grandmother. She never asked for assistance from anyone.

Unfortunately there will be folks who have mental issues having babies (as I believe these folks have mental issues), but it is truly wrong to assume everyone under 18 is incapable of making informed and wise decisions so I agree that this is an unfair and short-sighted statement.
post #24 of 24
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Originally Posted by Yosemite View Post
but it is truly wrong to assume everyone under 18 is incapable of making informed and wise decisions so I agree that this is an unfair and short-sighted statement.
I agree as well.

You just have to read up on the parents to see how these kids and the baby will turn out.

So Paula, don't worry, your not in the same category as them
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