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post #31 of 35
2/9/09 at 10:55pm
IVF is a privilege. You have made the decision to seek medical treatment to conceive rather than the other available options, and therefore medical personnel should decide who qualifies and who doesn't.

I had an aortic aneurysm, and I wanted to get it fixed which required open heart surgery, but my doctor decided against it until it was deemed necessary. I think the same should go for IVF. I think the doctor should be able to decide whether the person "requires" that medical treatment.

Someone who has already had 6 children, no job, and is struggling financially as it is, and is wanting children for the wrong reasons (anyone catch the interview with her this morning on Today?), should NOT be allowed this medical treatment.
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post #32 of 35
2/10/09 at 1:02am
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Originally Posted by sarahp View Post
Someone who has already had 6 children, no job, and is struggling financially as it is, and is wanting children for the wrong reasons (anyone catch the interview with her this morning on Today?), should NOT be allowed this medical treatment.
I noticed she had some of her nails done... how could she afford that if it was a struggle to take care of her children?
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post #33 of 35
2/10/09 at 2:51am
I think when we talk about a right we are really asking if insurance should pay for it. Medicine and medical insurance in this country is a business even if we don't like to think of it that way. Medical costs have been outpacing inflation for years and there is a crisis in this country as far as getting basic medical care delivered to everyone. Fertility treatments are expensive and there is a heightened risk of super multiples which greatly increases the costs. I know it may sound cold but I can't see adding these expenses to a system that is stretched to the breaking point. I have never really understood why insurance companies are reluctant to cover birth control. It's not a huge expense and in a strict dollars and cents way of looking at it an unintended pregnancy is certainly more expensive than the birth control. The only thing I can think of is that it is a holdover from the first part of the last century that birth control is somehow immoral and that only a certain type of woman uses it. I know it sounds crazy but sometimes things continue to be done when people don't even remember the original reason for it.
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post #34 of 35
2/10/09 at 3:05am
Quote:
The Adoption Creed

Not flesh of my flesh
nor bone of my bone
but still miraculously my own
Never forget
for a single minute
that you didn't grown under my heart
but in it!
My mom gave me a plaque with that on it several years ago. She and my father we unable to produce a chlld of heir own. They tried everything short of IVF and in the end adopted 2 children. My brother and myself. That said, I think that IVF is a personal choice BUT I do think that the Dr. should be called into question for placing 6 embryos in a woman who he knew could carry to term. I don't think he should have implanted 6 the first time either knowing that she would not make a selective decision if they all "took".

Of course, I know of couples who were infertile until they met other people. Could be a case of the universe telling you something... like you aren't meant to reproduce or maybe your just not meant to reproduce with a particular person.

Either way I feel a little sorry for this woman's children and parents. Her parents are now helping her raise these 14 kids while she finishes school. (I'm doing the same thing with one on the way and can't imagine dividing my time between 14 and other responsibilities). Meanwhile these 14 kids have one parent who may love them but will still have to divide her time, love and attention 14 ways. A difficult task for two parents let alone one. Oh, and from what I understand, she wants more still!
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post #35 of 35
2/10/09 at 3:52am
I think this woman has some emotional problems that she needs to deal with. She and her children would be better served if she spent money on therapy instead of more fertility treatments. I read, don't know if it's true, that she said she wanted a lot of children because she was lonly being raised as a only child. One of the really bad reasons to have a child is to fix a problem within yourself. It doesn't work and more importantly it is very unfair to the child or in this case the many children.
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