This happens almost every tme I drive my Mom on her errands (and I've been doing that since my Dad passed away in 1993). She's shopped at the same store for over 25 years, yet she can never find anything. As soon as we get inside the front door she loses half her IQ for some reason. (now I know why my Dad usually waited for her in the car
) She asks the same questions over & over, then walks off while I'm answering her. It's almost as if she wants me to lead her around by the hand, and I just don't understand it. She's in great shape for a woman her age, and still mentally sharp, so I just don't know what's going on.
I'm afraid I got feed up with it today. She asked where an item was and I told her it was exactly where it had been for the last 5 years. She got ticked and told me she'd know where it was if she'd ever bought it before. When I reminded her she bought the item every time it was on sale she got really ticked and walked away. Then she asked where she would find the frozen oj. When I told her 'if it's frozen oj it's in the freezer' she got so mad at me she sputtered! Then she comes off with, "I hope this happens to you someday!" Well, by then I'm totally clueless. I finally said, "Mom, you are not so old or so decrepit that you can't figure out that frozen juice is in a freezer." She didn't speak to me all the way back to her house, where I apologized for upsetting her.
I honestly don't know what to do. I can talk my DD into doing the errands once in a while (she did them last week, came home and said, "Your Mother is a pain in the *ss.") I couldn't say anything about it, because I agree. Mom and I have never been close, and I have to admit I do resent being the go-fer all the time. On the other hand, I spent most of my life working with the elderly (as a nurses' aide and home health aide) and I was always patient & understanding.
I know I'll have to keep doing the chauffering and hopefully I can suck it up for awhile again---altho' I still don't really undersstand what I did wrong this morning. I guess I just needed to get it off my chest.
I'm afraid I got feed up with it today. She asked where an item was and I told her it was exactly where it had been for the last 5 years. She got ticked and told me she'd know where it was if she'd ever bought it before. When I reminded her she bought the item every time it was on sale she got really ticked and walked away. Then she asked where she would find the frozen oj. When I told her 'if it's frozen oj it's in the freezer' she got so mad at me she sputtered! Then she comes off with, "I hope this happens to you someday!" Well, by then I'm totally clueless. I finally said, "Mom, you are not so old or so decrepit that you can't figure out that frozen juice is in a freezer." She didn't speak to me all the way back to her house, where I apologized for upsetting her.
I honestly don't know what to do. I can talk my DD into doing the errands once in a while (she did them last week, came home and said, "Your Mother is a pain in the *ss.") I couldn't say anything about it, because I agree. Mom and I have never been close, and I have to admit I do resent being the go-fer all the time. On the other hand, I spent most of my life working with the elderly (as a nurses' aide and home health aide) and I was always patient & understanding.
I know I'll have to keep doing the chauffering and hopefully I can suck it up for awhile again---altho' I still don't really undersstand what I did wrong this morning. I guess I just needed to get it off my chest.