Interesting lesson learned last night

gailc

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I had my Women's Hort Assoc meeting last night.
Our speaker is a well know (in Wisconsin for sure!) garden writer and TV personality.
She spoke about her observation and learnings from working 3 decades in a male dominated field.

As many of you might know us women (and some guys as well) do not handle when we receive a thank you from anyone for any variety of things done.

Usually when someone thank me for anything my usual response is "No problem" or "No big deal" vs saying "Your Welcome". I think this comes on my part from working 20 years in a field where I did not receive alot of praise or "good job" type of feedback. So when I receive thanks now its hard for me to accept!

She advised to look at the other person's point of view when they say thank you. If you reply as I do it may seem to the person giving you the thanks that you are treating what you did for them as not meaningful of your respect.

So instead of my usual response she suggested to say instead "glad I could help"/"glad to be of service" or any other positive spin acknowledging them.

To many this my seem trivial and a simple concept but I found it quite profound.

That's my my insight for the day!
 

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It's a big problem I have, too. Because someone else may think I did a good job, but I can think of at least a dozen mistakes or things I could have done better.
 

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I've never really thought about it, but you're right. I think it's along the same lines as not being able to take a compliment. I'm terrible at it when a simple "thank-you" would have been fine.
 
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