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post #31 of 54
DH and I don't really fight, we argue a little and it's just about sex or money. But we get over it.
post #32 of 54
My husband and I don't have fights; we've had about four short arguments in 17 years together and each time it was a misunderstanding that we quickly talked about and straightened out.

Honestly, if we had fights I wouldn't be able to handle it.
post #33 of 54
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My DH doesn't recognize dirt until there is enough to support major agricultural life. We argue about "is it clean enough?".
Are you sure your DH isn't related to mine? We finally got a cleaning lady to help out, though, so that cut out a whole lot of our arguments. Oddly, when we argue now it's usually because one of us is trying to give help or advice that the other doesn't really want.
post #34 of 54
Money - I'm very frugal (my aversion to spending money is almost a phobia) and he has a tendency to make (IMO) non-necessary purchases which irks me because I never spend anything on myself and he's always complaining that he's skint and in debt!

I have no doubt that if we were doing better financially we wouldn't have much to argue about and would have to make stuff up to disagree about, we're both quite fiery and confrontational personalities!

We 'bicker' in a well-meaning manner quite a lot, but it's more like a comedy double act than serious disagreement, each of us trying to come back with something funnier or more outrageous than the other

Oh he is also incredibly untidy and has a tendency to lose things then ask me where they are as if I should know where he left them!
post #35 of 54
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we don't fight about much except him drinking water...he won't touch it, but thrives on soda. He's ended up in the hospital once with a kidney infection from not drinking water, but it didn't seem to phase him at all.


Only in the case of my s/o, it's over his abuse of taking too many pain killers which have landed him in the hospital more than once b/c they gave him a bleeding ulcer. It also really irks me that he eats waaaaay too much salt, when he know it's bad for his high blood pressure. He doesn't seem to care about his health issues at all!

Other than that, we rarely argue.

ETA: We also get into it over him eating way too many sweets, and not enough healthy, nutritious foods, I'll make a really good healthy dinner for him to eat, and he'll eat only half of it. Then half an hour later, he's pigging out on sandwiches, cookies, ice cream, etc. It really tics me off. And he wonders why he's sick most of the time..
post #36 of 54
We don't fight, never have. We have an occasional disagreement, but never anything that results in raised voices or saying things we regret later.
post #37 of 54
We argue all the time. There have been times when we argue more than others. We very rarely have serious fights. I can think of three or four times when we had a really serious fight. Right now we are spending a lot of time together because neither of us is working and we are going to school full time and taking many of the same courses. When you don't have any time to yourself, it seems to be easier to snap and squabble over little things.

Our whole relationship has existed through a series of hard times, job losses and terrible treatment of us by others, or serious illness and injury. We seem to be in a constant run of bad luck (or bad decisions) and it is sometimes hard to look on the bright side, that all of our hard work (for a long time I was working TWO jobs and going to school full time...) will make a difference, and one day we will have good jobs with benefits and we can buy a nice house and get more kitties.

So, since times are tough, we find little things to squabble about. We agree on most of the big things, and are pretty supportive of each other. But both of us are stressed! So we fight over things like who took a snappy tone about the breakfast, and forgetting to feed the cats at exactly the right time, or rules from video games and board games. These fights last approximately 60 seconds (for the stupider ones) to ten or twenty minutes. A few hours later, one or both of us generally realizes that we were being very stupid and goes laughing to apologize.

post #38 of 54
Not a lot except the fact I'm an indoors person and would rather be inside on TCS, reading books or playing with the kitties and he's an outdoors person.

OH and that he clicks his knuckles!! It drives me nuts!
post #39 of 54
I happened to think of another annoying habit that my s/o has while I was doing my nails today. I always listen to music when I do my nails, and couldn't find the CDs I was looking for b/c he didn't put them back in their proper cases - again! He does that all the time: it really tics me off! He never puts anything back where it's supposed to go, and then he asks ME where something is. How the heck am I supposed to know, when you had it last!
post #40 of 54
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Originally Posted by KiTTYL0VE4 View Post
Me and my BF of 6 years fight about EVERYTHING. Our relationship is very complicated and we have severe trust issues too. So basically, if there is something to be fighting about, we are fighting.
Me and my b/f of 3 years also fight about everything, but more so the past year due to huge trust issues (something he caused)...the only thing we don't fight about well, I'm not sure there is something we haven't fought about. I know it takes 2 to tango so I take responsibility for my half of the fighting but the bottom line is that I love him like I've never loved anyone & I guess we'll continue to fight until I can't take it anymore...
post #41 of 54
We fight about Josh not having alot of extra time. He is in school and graduating this year...also we do not live together so its hard sometimes not to see him as much as I'd like.
post #42 of 54
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I always listen to music when I do my nails, and couldn't find the CDs I was looking for b/c he didn't put them back in their proper cases - again!
I burn copies of the cds DH likes for him to listen to, he's not allowed to touch my cds and he knows it. But then I don't even play the originals because I don't want to scratch them.
post #43 of 54
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Originally Posted by strange_wings View Post
I burn copies of the cds DH likes for him to listen to, he's not allowed to touch my cds and he knows it. But then I don't even play the originals because I don't want to scratch them.
As soon as the s/o gets home from work, I'm gonna have him locate those CDs, and load them onto the computer. Then if he ever loses them again, I'll have a copy!
post #44 of 54
Well there's disagreements, bickering, nagging etc, but certainly no fighting. There have been no raised hands, no cruel name calling, no accusations and certainly no yelling in the last 3 and a bit years. I was surprised for a while as i thought all couples argued, but i mean when the disagreements and bad moods kick in i suppose it all adds up lol. They're over various things but nothing too serious.
post #45 of 54
Arguments but not much fighting--fighting only happens in relation to his parents--they hate me and like to blame me for taking their son away. I really do feel bad that he sort of gets stuck in the middle of it.

Leslie
post #46 of 54
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OH and that he clicks his knuckles!! It drives me nuts!
That would (in all seriousness!) be a relationship breaker for me, it freaks me out completely and has on occasion , when I've been around people who do it, made me be physically ill.
post #47 of 54
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That would (in all seriousness!) be a relationship breaker for me, it freaks me out completely and has on occasion , when I've been around people who do it, made me be physically ill.
I often snap and pop when I move. I'd probably really bother you just trying to stand up from a chair. There's nothing I can do about this, though - it hurts so if I could prevent it I would.

Another thing that drives me up a wall, and can lead to some arguments. My DH exaggerates.
post #48 of 54
We always fight over him losing stuff. I know for a fact he's the one that loses it but he says it's impossible because the last time he touched it was days ago, and I'm like exactly, the last time I saw it you had it! This happens with books, remote controls, batteries, trash bags, lol, anything that can get lost, at least 2x a week! lol
post #49 of 54
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Originally Posted by Epona View Post
That would (in all seriousness!) be a relationship breaker for me, it freaks me out completely and has on occasion , when I've been around people who do it, made me be physically ill.
I don't mind when it happens by accident but it's the clicking on purpose that makes me wild and yes, like you I feel absolutely sick every time.

Give me nails on a black board any day!
post #50 of 54
For us... it's mostly money.. small things are that he can't ever seem to put a roll of toilet paper back up, it tends to sit ON TOP of the thing instead of hanging where it should! And squeezing the toothpaste from the front and not the bottom! Other than that, it's rather easy going!
post #51 of 54
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My DH doesn't recognize dirt until there is enough to support major agricultural life. We argue about "is it clean enough?".
Hmm.....that sounds familiar! I'm always saying that there'd have to be a major ecosystem growing in here before it got noticed.

Other than that, we don't really "fight" really....It's all stupid petty things, like him "forgetting" to take down the garbage (even when I've asked him several times), or doing the dishes when I ask him to (which is very infrequently). He is very good about feeding Harley when he comes home in the morning, though, so I can sleep a little longer, and he actually used the vacuum cleaner a few nights ago.
post #52 of 54
We dont "fight"....we have our occasional arguments, but nothing real serious.
post #53 of 54
There are things we each do that annoy one another but we overlook them.

It took me awhile but I finally found something we actually fight about. Building things. I was just taking a bench apart and it started. Thankfully we aren't putting the baby furniture together.
post #54 of 54
We bicker over stupid stuff every now and then. We have had maybe 3 or 4 BIG arguements in the 6 years of our relationship. We have gone to couple's counseling to see how to compromise and that REALLY cut down on many arguements. We never go to bed angry anymore and I ALWAYS say I love you before bed. You never know when it will be the last time
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