Hi everyone, This is a long post and I apologize for that, but I just want to make sure you have the complete picture...
So, I decided that Bodhi, the 8 yo kitty I adopted 3 months ago, might be happier with a friend to keep him company during the day while I'm at work. I went to the shelter last weekend and found what I thought was the perfect kitty. He is 8 months old and is very loving and sweet (much like Bodhi). I didn't plan on getting a kitten since Bodhi is 8 years old, but I really felt drawn to this little guy. I brought him home and tried the proper introduction techniques I read about on this site. The only issues I had were that the new kitten is SOOO sociable and curious. He meowed for hours when I kept him in the spare bedroom. I would go in and play with him and sit with him and he'd purr and be fine, but as soon as I left the room, he would cry and cry. On Monday, he escaped the room when I went in to check on him. He and Bodhi met and sniffed each other. The kitten hissed at Bodhi and went about exploring the house. Bodhi just went about his own business. I let Siddha (new kitten) explore for a few more minutes then I put him back in the bedroom for the night. Bodhi and I went about our usual routine... snuggling on the couch and him sleeping in my bed.
Tuesday and Wednesday evening, I let the kitten out for a little bit longer each time. They sniffed and Siddha hissed a bit more and then started trying to play with Bodhi by pouncing on his tail. Bodhi did NOT appear happy or amused by this. He swatted at Siddha and moved to another part of the apartment. Siddha is relentless though... he kept going to Bodhi and chasing him. Last night, I fed both of them some canned food that I knew Bodhi loves. Siddha ate a good amount and even tried to get at Bodhi's plate... Bodhi didn't do anything but keep eating. It seemed like things were progressing with them...
The problem I'm having is that Siddha seems to be adjusting just great, but Bodhi is NOT himself at all. He isn't eating his dry food and he has refused to sleep on my bed with me the past two nights. I know it's silly, but I LOVE that he sleeps on the bed with me. Now, he sits in the living room or under the kitchen table and won't even come to me when I call him. I feel like he hates me. Gosh, even typing this brings tears to my eyes. This breaks my heart. I know he's just a cat, but we were so bonded and he was always so affectionate towards me in just the right way that I needed and I really tried to be what he needed (or so I hope), but now everything has changed and I'm not sure I'm okay with that.
Maybe things will go back to the way they were, but like last night, the kitten wanted to lay in my lap and Bodhi just sat in the floor staring at me. He ALWAYS wants to sit in my lap in the evenings while I watch TV or whatever. I dunno, I guess I sound ridiculous, but I was just thinking that if I take the kitten back, he will get adopted soon, he's adorable and very loving. I'm afraid that maybe Bodhi does NOT want a little kitten that runs and plays all the time... I think the kitten might just need a home with another young rambunctious kitten to play back with him. I wonder if Bodhi would be just as happy with a bird feeder outside my bedroom window so he could see the birds during the day.
Am I a bad cat mom?? Neurotic, yes... but bad?
Thank you for any input...
Candace
So, I decided that Bodhi, the 8 yo kitty I adopted 3 months ago, might be happier with a friend to keep him company during the day while I'm at work. I went to the shelter last weekend and found what I thought was the perfect kitty. He is 8 months old and is very loving and sweet (much like Bodhi). I didn't plan on getting a kitten since Bodhi is 8 years old, but I really felt drawn to this little guy. I brought him home and tried the proper introduction techniques I read about on this site. The only issues I had were that the new kitten is SOOO sociable and curious. He meowed for hours when I kept him in the spare bedroom. I would go in and play with him and sit with him and he'd purr and be fine, but as soon as I left the room, he would cry and cry. On Monday, he escaped the room when I went in to check on him. He and Bodhi met and sniffed each other. The kitten hissed at Bodhi and went about exploring the house. Bodhi just went about his own business. I let Siddha (new kitten) explore for a few more minutes then I put him back in the bedroom for the night. Bodhi and I went about our usual routine... snuggling on the couch and him sleeping in my bed.
Tuesday and Wednesday evening, I let the kitten out for a little bit longer each time. They sniffed and Siddha hissed a bit more and then started trying to play with Bodhi by pouncing on his tail. Bodhi did NOT appear happy or amused by this. He swatted at Siddha and moved to another part of the apartment. Siddha is relentless though... he kept going to Bodhi and chasing him. Last night, I fed both of them some canned food that I knew Bodhi loves. Siddha ate a good amount and even tried to get at Bodhi's plate... Bodhi didn't do anything but keep eating. It seemed like things were progressing with them...
The problem I'm having is that Siddha seems to be adjusting just great, but Bodhi is NOT himself at all. He isn't eating his dry food and he has refused to sleep on my bed with me the past two nights. I know it's silly, but I LOVE that he sleeps on the bed with me. Now, he sits in the living room or under the kitchen table and won't even come to me when I call him. I feel like he hates me. Gosh, even typing this brings tears to my eyes. This breaks my heart. I know he's just a cat, but we were so bonded and he was always so affectionate towards me in just the right way that I needed and I really tried to be what he needed (or so I hope), but now everything has changed and I'm not sure I'm okay with that.
Maybe things will go back to the way they were, but like last night, the kitten wanted to lay in my lap and Bodhi just sat in the floor staring at me. He ALWAYS wants to sit in my lap in the evenings while I watch TV or whatever. I dunno, I guess I sound ridiculous, but I was just thinking that if I take the kitten back, he will get adopted soon, he's adorable and very loving. I'm afraid that maybe Bodhi does NOT want a little kitten that runs and plays all the time... I think the kitten might just need a home with another young rambunctious kitten to play back with him. I wonder if Bodhi would be just as happy with a bird feeder outside my bedroom window so he could see the birds during the day.
Am I a bad cat mom?? Neurotic, yes... but bad?
Thank you for any input...
Candace