Sometimes I just want to smack my sister. She just can't make a purely generous offer. It is not in her nature.
I am the primary caregiver to our elderly mother. My sister teaches at a local university. She has her winter break the last week in February. She said, I will come in and look after Mom so you and Doug (BF) can go away for a few days. But now... now... the strings are starting. I said which days can you give me, she says.. what days do you want. So I tell her... well, can't you go in the middle of the week? Uh, you want a decent ticket price or not burn through huge frequent flier points, yeah,, you need a Saturday night in there somewhere.
My other option was to go with a girlfriend who can only go that third weekend b/c of HER boss' schedule.
Well, now.. she has to talk to her ex about taking the kids.. and talk to her boyfriend about it... And can't you go THESE days instead of THESE OTHER days....yada, yada, yada.
You know, MY boyfriend has given up a lot since I decided to move in here with Mom. We have no privacy on the weekends, but he is doing this b/c I asked him and he knows its the right thing to do. He also lives about 35 miles away.. so it's not like we can just pop over to his place for some personal time.
So am I going to go with my girlfriend ... my boyfriend, but ONLY on the days that Leslie designates? I knew this would happen.
I feel like I am at her mercy. It is very expensive to hire someone to come in at night... I would need 12 hour shifts. 8 pm to 8 am. So she says she wants to help, but not really and ONLY on her terms and ONLY if she doesn't have to really sacrifice anything, like an evening alone with her BF.
She does this "fly-fishing" routine all of the time... casting out an offer and then reeling it in bit by bit until it isn't much of an offer or not very appealing to me. I think she wants me to say, forget it, Leslie. Then she can say I'm the impossible one. Sigh......
I am the primary caregiver to our elderly mother. My sister teaches at a local university. She has her winter break the last week in February. She said, I will come in and look after Mom so you and Doug (BF) can go away for a few days. But now... now... the strings are starting. I said which days can you give me, she says.. what days do you want. So I tell her... well, can't you go in the middle of the week? Uh, you want a decent ticket price or not burn through huge frequent flier points, yeah,, you need a Saturday night in there somewhere.
My other option was to go with a girlfriend who can only go that third weekend b/c of HER boss' schedule.
Well, now.. she has to talk to her ex about taking the kids.. and talk to her boyfriend about it... And can't you go THESE days instead of THESE OTHER days....yada, yada, yada.
You know, MY boyfriend has given up a lot since I decided to move in here with Mom. We have no privacy on the weekends, but he is doing this b/c I asked him and he knows its the right thing to do. He also lives about 35 miles away.. so it's not like we can just pop over to his place for some personal time.
So am I going to go with my girlfriend ... my boyfriend, but ONLY on the days that Leslie designates? I knew this would happen.
I feel like I am at her mercy. It is very expensive to hire someone to come in at night... I would need 12 hour shifts. 8 pm to 8 am. So she says she wants to help, but not really and ONLY on her terms and ONLY if she doesn't have to really sacrifice anything, like an evening alone with her BF.
She does this "fly-fishing" routine all of the time... casting out an offer and then reeling it in bit by bit until it isn't much of an offer or not very appealing to me. I think she wants me to say, forget it, Leslie. Then she can say I'm the impossible one. Sigh......
