where to meet girls??

I met my husband online, as have many of my friends. This was back in the olden days of the early 2000s when it wasn't that common, but now adays, it's almost considered normal If you find someone on a forum, you'll at least know that you share a specific interest.

How about at the grocery store?? Or attend more female orientated events like craft and garden shows!

Originally Posted by GailC

How about at the grocery store??

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I had to giggle at this one...DH's ex-wife met her third husband in the produce section of Whole Foods. He and I have a running joke about how I'm not allowed to shop there.

I met DH at work, and it was 17 years ago, so I don't have much recent experience at these things. It seems like some of the suggestions here are good, though, especially the volunteer work. It seems like it would be better to get into situations where you can get to know people a little bit.

If you make it to Chicago, I'd love to introduce you to my best friend. She's a Chicago south side Irish girl...you don't get much more down to earth than that, and you sound like just her type. (That would be quite a long-distance relationship, though. )

I first met my husband on a telephone dating service ummmm, 13yrs ago.

Facebook apps such as Owned or F4S have helped me meet some people.... just a nice comment on a pic can be a good starter for introductions leading to friend requests which can lead to more

I think that "Stop looking and it will come" is a bunch of hooey!! But, I guess it doesn't help that I look like a cross between Chris Farley and Phillip Seymour Hoffmann.

Since I wasn't having much luck in the states, I'm now in Prague and hoping to meet someone here. Noooo, it's not the reason I moved here, but, it might make it easier...

some good comments there, thanks guys, i dont want you all to think im desperately seeking a girl, as i really arnt, i was just raising a subject.

but when i come over there i'll have to see if i can hook up with a few of you, and you can introduce me to some of your friends etc, and show me around?

as for the "you have to love yourself first" kinda thing, as i say im really confident about myself, i make a few jokes at my own expense, but i accept who i am, if you knwo what i mean?

thanks again!

Originally Posted by clixpix

Don't worry, when you tour the US, you'll have plenty of girls interested I would think. We're suckers for British and Australian accents!

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With my parents, it was the other way around! My American Dad met my British Mother in England. (But she detested the Australian & American men, as they were always so brash and tried to pick her up, and spout false flattery--not false in her case, as she was a typical English rose beauty--blonde, blue eyes, peaches & cream complexion--but she didn't like the obvious pushiness).

You may want to try online dating; be aware that you may need to belong to various ones at one time, and it may take you ages to click with someone. I met my husband after about a year of dates, most of which were just o.k.. I acutally had given up, and cancelled my subs to them, when a friend suggested that I go back online. Within 2 weeks, I met my hubby! There are a lot of nice, normal people on online dating services nowadays--we both said how hard it was to find nice people through normal channels. If caution & common sense are used, I think online really can be better. You get a chance to read up on someone before meeting them, which gives you time to think things over.

Another tip: don't be too eager to get serious too soon. I have always found that, when you look/try TOO hard for something, you don't attain it; when you're not looking, is when it comes to you (at least in relationships!). Just aim for being good friends first, then let if go from there.

Like others said, you can become a volunteer for a cause you truly believe in, or join a pasttime. Just don't do it just to meet ladies! Do it because you love it. If there's a lady out there for you, she'll be there. Also, don't just base your liking on a shared hobby--that's a big part of a relationship, but you need to have basic core values in common (religion, political views, morals, etc.). Hobbies can change over the years, but a truly good person won't.

Know what's really important to you in a relationship. I always looked for the core values, a love of animals, and humour. (I can't even imagine being attracted to a man without a keen sense of humour!).

Also, don't appear too eager. Though I am sure your motives are honest, it can be scary to the ladies (and vice versa). Just be your own self!

I hope you find your partner soon!

as i said earlier, im not desperately seekin anyone it was just a topic i thought of.

i am always myself, if you dont like it, its bad luck!

the last 3 dates i have been on (over the last 2 months) went as follows

1. plenty chatting and finding out the basics before hand (it was from an online dating thing) she seemed like a nice girl, she was reasonably attractive, and had a VERY good sense of humour. we went out for a drink, and i was just loooking forward to having a nice night out. she drank a few too many (she wasnt drunk though) at the end of the night she practiacally kicked off as i said i wouldnt take her back to mine for you know what! now years ago i would have been aiming for that, but i wanted a nice date, not a bunk up! anyway over the next few weeks she text me ALL the time saying how depressed she was and all kinds of stuff. telling me some pretty deep stuff, i only met her once!

2. this was a friend of a friend and much the same as above really but without the copious amount of drink! started off nicely, the uaul chat etc, a quiet drink, then she started trying it on in the car on the way home, i have to admit i gave in this time, but only met her a few times after as i lost any respect for her acting like that.

3.nice girl, pretty, brunette, dressed cool, she was keen too, but not too keen, but she just didnt have the conversation skills, plus i didnt realise her age, turned out she was only 18, im sure she lied to me previously and said she was 22/23 as i just wouldnt have met her otherwise, i got some right odd looks in the bar, i think people thought she may have been my daughter

and thats about it really, girls around here have no class at all, or self respect by the look of things!

Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

Some ideas:

Take a class or two, something that a girl would be interested in. Maybe something to do with Art or Literature, acting class

Poetry readings

Join a local community club's co-ed sports team IE: tennis, badminton. soccer, baseball

Volunteer

Get a part time job and an IHOP or other such place that people hang out.

Spend time at the library.

Don't be shy about asking someone if you can join their table.

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These are all great ideas! I met my boyfriend in a physics class. We automatically had something to talk about. When he asked me for my phone number, I thought he just wanted the homework... I didnt even remember his name.

He got extra points for approaching me when I was with a group of my friends. I thought, "Here's a confident man." And confidence is sexy.

Originally Posted by jezmondo69

2. this was a friend of a friend and much the same as above really but without the copious amount of drink! started off nicely, the uaul chat etc, a quiet drink, then she started trying it on in the car on the way home, i have to admit i gave in this time, but only met her a few times after as i lost any respect for her acting like that.

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Well, you should probably have lost some respect for yourself too. You did "give in" after all...

I met my husband when I subbed in an orchestra he was already a member of. We were playing a sort of pops concert with a dixieland jazz group. Me and my roommate (who was also subbing and played cello) were like, "did you SEE that drummer? Wow, is he ever cute." My roommate was much prettier than me, and so when he approached us, I figured it was for her. He introduced himself to ME, instead, and said he noticed how much I liked the music (I couldn't sit still, LOL). Then he said sometime I would have to meet his cat, and I knew he was a keeper!

One of the best places to meet women your own age (other than at a university) is at church.

I'm glad I don't have to find another good woman. I'm terrible at it. Oh, I do fine talking to them, but it would never progress. I had lots of dates in high school and college, but almost never a serious girlfriend. I had lots of friends who were girls. I knew more about them than most of the other guys in the class. In fact, the guys would ask me for information.

Clearly, I'm not sexy. Or dangerous.

And I learned very early on that the younger a woman is, the more likely she is to go for the "bad boys" in the group. Mothering instinct, I suspect.

jezmondo69, just because it violates your own sense of self respect to exchange physical affection on a first (or 5th) date does not mean that it violates another person's self respect. Morals and personal goals and expectations differ markedly between people. Having different morals and expectations from a prospective partner is a good reason not to take that person as a partner, but don't judge that person as morally weak (as not standing up to their own morals).

Some people I dated were horrified that I don't get deeply emotionally involved until after I've developed a physical connection. Other people didn't mind, and one (my spouse) deliberately used it to get me emotionally attached to him.

In online dating, you should be able to be pretty upfront, in your profile, about the fact that you're a take-it-slow type who develops physical connection after emotional connection. Despite the stereotypes, there are actually a lot of guys out there who refuse to put out, and you all should give fair warning of that in dating profiles. I forget where it was, but some dating site had a "looking for ..." category that included answers like "friendship that may develop into romance" and "hook-up" and a bunch in between. When I was doing online dating, I had a set of personal rules (First date is in public, involves separate transportation, and does not go anywhere. Second date has public element, but is up to negotiation, ect) and I clearly communicated both my personal rules and my goals to prospective dates.

Also, you say you didn't like girl #2 because of what she and you did on the first date, but you went out on subsequent dates: be more sure of yourself, and don't schedule a second date with someone who you know you're not a good fit with. You could have had pleasant first dates with other people, instead of continuing to go with someone who you didn't share your values. It will feel less like everyone out there is not for you if you spend less time with people you've already figured out are not for you!

you want to have a night out in a different town.

or

one of the social networking sites thats how i met my better half

haha come up to newcastle theres some lovely lasses up here

How about the pet food aisle?

Just a quick question… whatâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s up the the “69†in your name if your all about love and not sex LOL.

Chat rooms, facebook....chatting someone up at the grocery store

I have actually had great success meeting guys online (cautiously of course).
That some of the relationships didn't work out had nothing to do with where we first met.
I met my current (hopefully last!) boyfriend in a chat room 15 years ago.

And of course I dated a guy I met at work, he used a question that any polite girl cannot say no to.
He didn't ask me out right away, he asked my permission to ask me out sometime.

You can't really politely refuse that

see...its such a hard thing to answer...what are your hobbies besides cars?
do you like bowling? maybe join a bowling league, or look for new fun things to try, if your outgoing it seems to me like maybe you are just meeting the wrong ones. if you go to car shows maybe you can meet one there?

i went thru the same thing as you, for years and years i just couldnt find the right one, i always had alot of guys like me, but usually didnt like them back. im also very outgoing and never had a problem walking up to a cute guy to strike up a convo- im a huge clubber, i love music, i love going to clubs and i love dancing, so of corse since thats where i always was, well thats where id meet most of my guys. everyone kept telling me i would never meet anyone nice in that scene. it kinda depressed me cause i always had the hopes of finding someone that enjoyed the music and dancing like me, but i started to believe everyone. i tried some online dating, i was almost ready to go on one of those damn singles cruises that they have, and the finally it happened, i met my guy at a dance party and it turns out hes the one...here we are 4 yrs later.

i would just say keep your options open, try different and new things, and dont be afraid to hit up some places by yourself, its less intimidating if the guy looks like hes kinda chillin by himself

im sorry i realy dont have any great suggestions, cause i just kinda wandered aimlessly til i found mine

cats4sky i go to tons of car shows, but its not really a girls thing over here, if there are any they are being dragged round by thier fellas, so thats a no go really, although that would be the perfect thing to meet a girl into minis like me.

i think your right though about trying new things, i dont think its a case of hoping to spy a good girl at the shops or whatever i think i may have to look into a night course or something like that, my friend and i had both spoke about doing a cooking course at out local tech. would be usefull and there may even be some girls there too?

Arlyn i like that idae of asking if its ok to ask you out someitme, thats pretty slick, thats definately going in the mental note book. i'll tell my mate that one too and pass it off as my own idea

"silvionc Just a quick question… whatâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s up the the “69†in your name if your all about love and not sex LOL. "

1, its just a number, i use that as my user name on most forums and on one there was another jezmondo (honestly) so i just put that on the end to make mine different. i apreciate it does have a rude meaning but its the first number i thought of? (which possibly says something in itself )

2, i never said i was all about love, if i was after a one night stand or just to get in bed with a girl, i can do that any night of the week, but after doing that for the last few years i decided i would try to better myself and not do it anymore. i try to be good and the girls dont want to be good, if they want sex who am i to refuse them. if they initiate it i havnt led them on.

its just ironic that as soon as i decide to turn over a new leaf i get met with such temptations. sleeping around is all very well, but its nice to have cuddle up to someone you actually care about in the afterglow, rather than make your excuses and leave or boot them out.

that all sounds pretty harsh, but im just telling it how i see it