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post #31 of 55
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I'd rather be right where I am now, married and in love
Same here! I don't know where I would be without my husband! I can barely remember what it was like being single and we have only been married 3 years!! I never want to go back!
post #32 of 55
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And if i need a cuddle i have plenty male friends who would give me one
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i nearly spat my coffee all over my monitor at that!

I'm glad I didn't have any coffee in my mouth when I read that!

Who needs anyone for huggin', when we all have such cuddly, wonderful kitties for that?!
post #33 of 55
I am a very independent, opinionated person, and I do very well on my own. I enjoy my own company. But I am happy where I am now, and I will be giving up my single-dom forever come October! And I don't mind one bit.

If it comes down to being single or being in a crummy relationship, I'll always pick single. Believe me... there are some crazy broads out there I got lucky with mine, haha
post #34 of 55
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I picked "doesn't matter" because it really doesn't.

I've been happy in a relationship and I've been miserable in them too. However, as a "single", I've mostly been happy and certainly never lonely because I actually enjoy solitude, my own company and not having to worry about "compromise".

If the right guy comes along I'm open to a relationship, but I'm certainly not going to pine away wishing for one because I don't need a man in my life in order to be happy and fulfilled.

Couldn't have said it any better myself!

If my s/o was hovering all over me all the time, and didn't allow me the space that I need, it would not work out between us. I can't say that I'm madly in love with him, but we have the same values & goals in life and that's what makes it work. Besides, we're both too old for all that fairy-tale romance stuff. I've done the whole "madly in love" thing before, and the only time that ever really works out is when both peeps feel the same way.
post #35 of 55
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If it comes down to being single or being in a crummy relationship, I'll always pick single. Believe me... there are some crazy broads out there
The same thing can be said about the male species -- yes??
post #36 of 55
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The same thing can be said about the male species -- yes??
I imagine so Though I have no personal experience there, I've certainly seen my friends go through their fair share of men straight from a horror novel!
post #37 of 55
i put in a relationship, because no matter how much we fight he is there for me. that and he bought my kitties to so that ive always got company
post #38 of 55
I know I am not looking for a fairy tale romance... I also gave up that notion a long time ago... I'm no spring chicken either. Relationships are not easy - a lot, a lot a lot of work and compromise. I just wish my BF would listen to me more about important and, frankly, intimate things.

He also defers to me too much... always pushing decisions off onto me ... this makes me crazy!

I have told him sometimes it would be nice if HE planned a night out or something. So sometimes I think it's just laziness on his part. Why should he when I step in. He told me, "well, you're so good at it!"Sometimes I feel like i'm the freakin' cruise director. That doesn't mean I want to do it all the time and make all of the decisions and do all of the planning!!!!!! Men can be sooooo clueless!

I know if I want to do anything for Valentines Day, I will have to do all of the leg work. Makes me wonder how the frick he did anything BEFORE we started dating!

I remember saying to him one time, half-jokingly, so are you getting me anything for Valentines Day? His response: I just got you something for Christmas!! Aaarrrgggghhhhh!!!! Keep in mind, I take VERY good care of him! Another time when he did ask me what I might like and I said flowers, he said why, they just die! ???? True... but that's not the point! This summer when i bought a bunch of peonies at the farmers market and was so thrilled with them, he said to me, I didn't know you liked cut flowers?

To me, it really is small wonder that surveys have shown the happiest and healthiest people are single women and married men. Duh!

-End of Rant -
post #39 of 55
Seven years ago I would have single forever, but then I met the 1 and can't imagine my life without him.
post #40 of 55
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He also defers to me too much... always pushing decisions off onto me ... this makes me crazy!

I have told him sometimes it would be nice if HE planned a night out or something. So sometimes I think it's just laziness on his part. Why should he when I step in. He told me, "well, you're so good at it!"Sometimes I feel like i'm the freakin' cruise director. That doesn't mean I want to do it all the time and make all of the decisions and do all of the planning!!!!!! Men can be sooooo clueless!
My s/o is like that, too. Drives me nuts! The last time we went out to eat, I asked him where he'd like to go. As usual, he said, "You choose." I told him no - YOU choose this time! I'm always the one who does the choosing! He'll do that when we make plans to go somewhere, too.

It's no wonder his ex/wife walked all over him..



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I remember saying to him one time, half-jokingly, so are you getting me anything for Valentines Day? His response: I just got you something for Christmas!! Aaarrrgggghhhhh!!!! Keep in mind, I take VERY good care of him! Another time when he did ask me what I might like and I said flowers, he said why, they just die! ???? True... but that's not the point! This summer when i bought a bunch of peonies at the farmers market and was so thrilled with them, he said to me, I didn't know you liked cut flowers?
I can't say that my s/o is that bad. He usually can make that decision on his own. He actually has chosen some pretty good gifts for me more than once - if you can believe that!

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To me, it really is small wonder that surveys have shown the happiest and healthiest people are single women and married men. Duh!
post #41 of 55
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My s/o is like that, too. Drives me nuts! The last time we went out to eat, I asked him where he'd like to go. As usual, he said, "You choose." I told him no - YOU choose this time! I'm always the one who does the choosing! He'll do that when we make plans to go somewhere, too.

It's no wonder his ex/wife walked all over him..





I can't say that my s/o is that bad. He usually can make that decision on his own. He actually has chosen some pretty good gifts for me more than once - if you can believe that!



I may be grousing and venting here, but hey, we have been together for five years (almost). That's a world record for me. I do love him and care about him. We have a lot in common and have a really good time together. I just don't think we should be married. Frankly, I don't think I'M marriage material.
post #42 of 55
I love having a best friend and significant other go thru everything in life together and growing older and wiser together! Life is just richer sharing it with another person that you very much love and care about. It is a great experience and creates a deep meaningful relationship that I love to share with such a wonderful person
I wouldn't be married to just anyone though just to be with someone, that isn't worth the trouble to me personally. Has to be the right person.
post #43 of 55
Single, with cats and a Harley.
post #44 of 55
well im single at the minute and have been for about 6-7 months, but the last time i was in a serious relationship was over a year ago.

im not just saying it, i am happy being single, i like being able to do my own thing and not worry about entertaining someone all the time, worrying if they are bored, hungry, upset with me, wants to go out, wants to go home etc etc

its just easiest doing what i want at the minute, as someone else said i do wonder if i am marriage material myself??

BUT, when im with someone and everthing is great, i do enjoy it, and suddenly its not a burden making sure someone is happy and so on....

but if there are any nice single girls out there, say hi!!!!

mind you when you look like me its nio wonder im single!
post #45 of 55
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I am fine being single, but I prefer to share my life with someone I care deeply about
altho, to date, that hasn't happened... still, hope springs eternal!
post #46 of 55
SINGLE! Lordy, I make terrible, stupid choices when it comes to men. I have been single for over 10 years (never married) and it just gets easier every year I haven't dated in almost 10 years either. I started dating at 15 and quit around 34. That's a lot of dating - ya just get tired.

Case in point: the love of my life, the only man I ever actually "lived with". I was shattered after we broke up. Well, looked up his mom last summer and him later. He is still with the woman he left me for .... BUT he is also interested in well, men. And he is a cross-dresser. We have had conversations about how difficult it is to find a good size 13 spike heel. You would have never met a more macho, intolerant jerk of a man. Guess he was overcompensating back then, eh?

I do like men and if I came across a guy who was compatible, who I could put up with and who could put up with me, I might give it a go Not looking, though!
post #47 of 55
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Originally Posted by AddieBee View Post

To me, it really is small wonder that surveys have shown the happiest and healthiest people are single women and married men. Duh!

-End of Rant -
I remember that study! Too true!
post #48 of 55
In a relationship, but not necessarily married.
post #49 of 55
I say in a relationship but only if it's the right one & apparently I'm always going to wonder! I'm in a relationship of 3 yrs but I think I'm too selfish to be in a relationship because I don't compromise well...definitely could use some improvement in that area! Plus I hold grudges (also not a good thing) but he hasn't left so he must love something about me...
post #50 of 55
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Originally Posted by AddieBee View Post
I have told him sometimes it would be nice if HE planned a night out or something. He told me, "well, you're so good at it!"
Reading that was like i was reading something i would have posted about my late husband

He was exactly the same, in other words we were in the married routine where he thought he didn't have to try anymore Don't get me wrong i had everything i wanted, but i resented the fact that all days/night out were arranged by me because he thought "I was good at that sort of thing", and sadly, it was because of this that i left and it was too late for him to change by then
post #51 of 55
omg...im so much happy being taken. ive had a hard time with relationships my whole life, ive always had alot of guys like me but either i wouldnt like them or i would fall madly in love with them and dumped like a ton of bricks. i hated it. i never liked being single for more than a month, after that playing the field gets stupid and boring. i love having companionship, im a hopeless romantic. im so happy i met mark, we been together for 4 yrs and its been wonderful.....i finally found my soulmate
post #52 of 55
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Originally Posted by Rosiemac View Post
Yes but that's all i want from them
Yeah, I hear ya!


I would much rather be single.
post #53 of 55
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Originally Posted by Rosiemac View Post
Yes but that's all i want from them
Even if that gets to much I will give you a cuddle Susan
post #54 of 55
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Even if that gets to much I will give you a cuddle Susan
Awwww and your only 10 minutes away as well How's that for friendship eh?
post #55 of 55
Married,married, MARRIED!

I have been in and out of so many relationships that weren't right. Loved and lost. Been loved, but didn't love back, etc...

Finding my soulmate, my best friend, my lover, my love and being married to him is wonderful.

Sure marriage (and other permanent relationships) is give and take, but in a good marriage, the more you give, the more you receive.
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