I'm married for 1.5yrs now, and we've lived together for 5.5yrs now, been in a steady relationship for 8yrs.
Prior to 5yrs ago, I had been away from my parents since I was 13, living in my own place at 17 - 26. (on and off relationships, my first daughters father lived with me from ages 18-19)
Moving in with my now husband was the HARDEST thing I have ever done. It felt like I was giving up my independance, as well as it was extremely difficult to get over the single parent mentality and let someone else help parent my kids. To this day, I still have a hard time when my hubby 'parents' my kids. (and I can't get rid of saying 'my kids' even though one of them is my hubbys).
Do I love where I am, heck yah. We have an awesome, unique relationship
which allows me to have a "single" life and married life.
I was/am quite content on my own. (my hubby spends alot of time away during the week). I look forward to him going away sometimes.... other times I'd rather he be here because I have alot of physical limitations now. (back injury at work in 06, hand/forearm/elbow work injury in end of 06 beginning of 07)
The one thing that made it slightly easier for me to adapt...
when we moved in together, it was into our home that we built. So it wasn't him moving into my place, or me moving into his place (he lived with his parents). It was moving into OUR home.
I am very independant, and still very much used to being a single mom. I think it will continue to be an adjustment, as we still get into arguements about me not letting him help
wow...sorry this has turned into a book.
short version: I'm happy with either, but both require some adjustment.