First of all
. It's hard breaking up anyway, but especially this time of year.
I agree, when you stop looking that's when you find him. Actually, DH and I were best friends and dated on and off casually for 10 years before the stars fell into alignment, we opened our eyes and realized we were meant to be together. So, who knows...Mr Right might be right there with you, you're just not ready to see it.
I DO know, the one time I really was looking, I fell ga-ga, head over heels with someone and started a 3 year long drama of on again, off again, friends "with benefits" relationship that almost sent me into therapy. Well, maybe not that bad, but it definately changed my view of myself to a much worse one. From what I've learned from personal experience and from what I've heard from other women, if you're looking you find the worst men.
This time of year, people want to be with someone because that is what all the commercials and songs and everything say. I would take time out, concentrate on yourself, get some good chocolate and a comfy blanket, chill out with your favorite movie, snuggle down with your cats and come Jan you'll feel better. Concentrate on YOU! You deserve it.