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to say I'm still hurting is a understatement. I just got to the point where everything doesn't make me break down. But I have two people offer to give me kittens. I turned them down for a couple of reasons, I always felt its good to find your own cat, and well, its to soon.

That said, in about a week I will be getting out for the term and have about a month of free time before the next term. Do you think its to soon for a new cat? or should I use this time to help a new one settle in, I wont have the chance of such freedom for a good 5 months....

Most ppl will probably say it's too soon, but if it were me I would have to get another kitten asap. I know it's only a couple of days, but your not replacing Mai Sai, but giving a loving home to kittens in need. They would also help you through this difficult time.
You'll know in your heart of hearts if you can do this.

Noone can tell you its too soon. You know in your heart when your ready for another little one.

If you feel it, then go for it.

I think it's different for everyone. We waited 8 months after Raven went to the Bridge. A little black kitten showed up at our back patio in August. I know other people who got another after a week or 2, and that was right for them. It's just different for everyone. When it's time and the right kitty, you'll know.

As everyone has said, look into your heart and when the right kitten comes, you will know.

I can't say what is too soon because I feel that that there is a lot of energy that comes from loving our cats. And when they are gone, that energy is not. It can be redirected to another one. It doesn't diminish your love for Mai Sai but enhances it by allowing it to expand to include another special one.

You can meet the new kittens, just listen to yourself.

Only you can say whether it's too soon or not. No kitty can replace Mai Sai, but another kitty would be more than happy for the love you have to give. When it's the right time, and you find the right kitty, you'll know.

I got Harley a week after I had to put Snickers to sleep after his run-in with a car. I didn't think I'd want to get another cat so soon afterwards, but all the cards just fell into place with her, and after more than a month of being here, she fits right in.

Originally Posted by Trouts mom

Noone can tell you its too soon. You know in your heart when your ready for another little one.

If you feel it, then go for it.

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That's it in a nutshell.

I am sorry for your loss, I know how much it can hurt.
I lost my two sister cats 8 months apart. I was never going to get another because of the hole in my heart. My reslove did not last long, a couple of fur balls came into my life within 3 weeks, I had too much love to give and no furbaby to give it to. As stated before, go with your heart, you will know. One thing that I had a problem with was allowing myself to grieve after I got the new babies, I felt guilty and it slowed down the bonding process and the grieving process, which you need to get through. Loving a new one does not diminish your love for Mai Sai, nor the memories.
Our Cocker died 2 mos after the last cat, I again made a vow no more, we now have 2 more Cockers I have finally realized that I have enough love to give them all, the ones we share our lives with now and in the past.

Good luck, listen to your heart.

I do not think its to soon.
I had to die close together in the last 12 months.
One was Dec 5th and the other Jan 11.
I did not get anoth cat that time because I got Oreo 2 weeks before Stormy was pts.
I got a new kitten after Patches died then we found alot of ferals and we kept 2.
You will know when it is the right time to get another.
Meeko was so depressed after Stormy died.
Having Oreo helped her so much.

I don't think it's ever too soon if it feels right to you. We picked out Gus a day or two after we lost Andy. I didn't think I wanted another kitten yet, but my FDH convinced me to just go "look". He had an instant connection with this tiny black furball when we walked in the door. Two days later we brought Gus home. He gave us something good to focus on, and he made instant friends with our older cat. I'm still not "over" Andy a year later, but I think having right away Gus was what was right for us.

thank you everyone, I've decided to go looking when I go home, I'm just so lonely.....I'm not sure if I'll get one or two, young or old, bit I will do everything in my power to keep the indoor