Ok, to make a long story short, I got divorced last year. My ex fought me in the divorce to keep our cat, Bettis. A few days ago he emailed me to ask me if I wanted him now (almost a year after the divorce was finalized). Now, over the last year, I had moved into my own place and I adopted one cat named Chance, who is now a little over a year old, and I took in an abandon kitten when it was 2 weeks old, his name is Lucky, and he is now 4 months old.
Without much thought, I told my ex that yes, my boyfriend and I would take in Bettis as well. I picked him up today, and to say the very least, this is not the same cat behavior wise as I left last year. I feel absolutely horrible for not fighting harder to get to keep him, but am happy to have him back.
I expected for him to be scared, and to not like the other two cats, and am keeping them separated, but Bettis is acting completely strange. He will rub against me, but while doing it he growls almost constantly. When I reach down and attempt to pet him, he will start to hiss. I am trying to take it slow, and do this on his terms, but at one point he jumped on the couch with me, laid down on me, and turned around and bit me, when I wasn't even touching him.
My ex told me he was never home with the cat, and that the cat recently had been going to the bathroom on things in his house. After repeated attempts to pet him today, I have found that he is ok with his head being pet, and around his front legs, but when you get near his back legs he starts growling a lot, and then the hissing begins. After that starts if you lift your hand and try to reach back for his head, he then cowers away from your hand. I'm afraid that my ex may have hit him for going to the bathroom in the house.
What I am hoping is for any suggestions from those of you out there on how to possibly help Bettis adjust to us, and to our home. As well as how to, once he has adjusted to us, if he ever does, how we should do the introduction to the other two. I feel horrible locking them away, but, considering the two of them combined weigh around 12 lbs, and Bettis is over 14lbs of all muscle, I'm very afraid to leave them all together for awhile...
Any and all suggestions are appreciated!! I'm typically really good with cats, and am at a loss as to what to do, let alone crushed by the thought of what my ex may have done to him. Please help!
Thanks!
Without much thought, I told my ex that yes, my boyfriend and I would take in Bettis as well. I picked him up today, and to say the very least, this is not the same cat behavior wise as I left last year. I feel absolutely horrible for not fighting harder to get to keep him, but am happy to have him back.
I expected for him to be scared, and to not like the other two cats, and am keeping them separated, but Bettis is acting completely strange. He will rub against me, but while doing it he growls almost constantly. When I reach down and attempt to pet him, he will start to hiss. I am trying to take it slow, and do this on his terms, but at one point he jumped on the couch with me, laid down on me, and turned around and bit me, when I wasn't even touching him.
My ex told me he was never home with the cat, and that the cat recently had been going to the bathroom on things in his house. After repeated attempts to pet him today, I have found that he is ok with his head being pet, and around his front legs, but when you get near his back legs he starts growling a lot, and then the hissing begins. After that starts if you lift your hand and try to reach back for his head, he then cowers away from your hand. I'm afraid that my ex may have hit him for going to the bathroom in the house.
What I am hoping is for any suggestions from those of you out there on how to possibly help Bettis adjust to us, and to our home. As well as how to, once he has adjusted to us, if he ever does, how we should do the introduction to the other two. I feel horrible locking them away, but, considering the two of them combined weigh around 12 lbs, and Bettis is over 14lbs of all muscle, I'm very afraid to leave them all together for awhile...
Any and all suggestions are appreciated!! I'm typically really good with cats, and am at a loss as to what to do, let alone crushed by the thought of what my ex may have done to him. Please help!
Thanks!