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I ended our three year relationship.

post #1 of 16
Thread Starter 
Well, I finally did it--I ended my three year long relationship with my boyfriend.

I'm nervous now, though; together, my rent was only about 500 a month, but now that's going to double since I've asked him to leave. x.x I'm nervous!
post #2 of 16
If the relationship wasn't working, you did the right thing.

Advertise at the local university for a room mate, or move to a cheaper apartment so that you aren't having to pay as much in rent.
post #3 of 16
Don't worry, everything will work out somehow. (I know, easy for me to say huh? I'm not you.) Are you stuck in a lease, do you have extra bedrooms, and can you afford the rent until your lease runs out if you are in one?
post #4 of 16
If you feel it is the right decision then everything else will fall into place.
post #5 of 16
If getting a roommate is an option, you should also try advertising on Craiglist!

I hope things work out for you!
post #6 of 16
i just dumped my gf like 2 weeks ago and moved into a one bedroom apartment. its cheaper for me but still finances went up especially with the type of car I drive. good luck! its rough i know how you feel.
post #7 of 16
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If the relationship wasn't working, you did the right thing.


It's always rough in the beginning, but things always work out.

Life is too short to be in a miserable relationship, or one that you're not happy with. You'll be okay.
post #8 of 16
That is hard to do during this time of year, but there is someone better out there! Good vibes to you
post #9 of 16
Sorry to hear you have split up with your boyfriend

I found it hard when I had to end my two year relationship with my ex. We were living together at my parents which didn't help us really as we constantly had pressure put on us. Anyway, in the end we decide to come to a mutual agreement and he moved out a couple of weeks afterwards.

Everything will work out for you in the end, we promise you that!
post #10 of 16
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If the relationship wasn't working, you did the right thing.
Definitely!. Theres too many people stay with their partners for the security. Just sit down and work out how you can cut some corners to help, and like the others have said, look into getting a lodger.

It's going to be different for you, but you can do it
post #11 of 16
Thread Starter 
Thank you all so much for your words of encouragement; I needed them this morning. And you're right--too many people stay in a relationship for the security. I'm the type of person who is so dependent, she feels she needs to be in a relationship to be happy.

So I'm trying to break that, but this morning was really, really lonely!

It's a one bedroom, but I might definitely start looking for a roommate and upgrade to a larger apartment! If I don't, I'll still be able to afford it; because my GPA is so high, my dad helps me with my rent, so.. Yay for that, I suppose.

Sigh. I still feel I made the right decision, but it's so weird not having constant snuggles!
post #12 of 16
Cats are for snuggling, too.
post #13 of 16
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And you're right--too many people stay in a relationship for the security. I'm the type of person who is so dependent, she feels she needs to be in a relationship to be happy.
It's been my experience that being alone is sometimes better, and you're much happier than being in a relationship that's no good for you.

You'll be okay. When you get lonely, just pick up one of your kitties and give them a big hug. Kitty hugs are the best!
post #14 of 16
I remember when I made the decision to leave the guy I lived with. When I realized I was more lonely with him than without him.

It is hard, but it does get easier. Congratulations on watching out for your happiness
post #15 of 16
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So I'm trying to break that, but this morning was really, really lonely!
Have you got any friends and family around you?. Because as long as you have those you'll never be alone. Plus, you have us here as well to talk to!
post #16 of 16
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Sigh. I still feel I made the right decision, but it's so weird not having constant snuggles!
Lady, you have cats! I totally admire you for knowing what's good and breaking off the relationship. I was in a bad relationship for several years. I was very unhappy, and I still didn't have the guts to leave!
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