IMO its sad when a person caves in to pressure and won't stand up for what they believe in. While the site may not be advertised as "Christian" - the fact is the founder of eHarmony was/is a very active Christian. If he really believed in what the Bible teaches and would stand on truth, he should have fought the lawsuit.
I'm Christian, I base my beliefs on God's word and the truth. No one will force me to accept the homosexual lifestyle as being right or ok. I still love the person, I just don't approve or accept the lifestyle they choose - and I would not compromise my beliefs just because someone is trying to say "discrimination".
If you don't approve of same-sex relationships, don't have one. That way you go on about your business same as usual, and so does everyone else. The fact that society as a whole is becoming accepting of its members does not in any way infringe upon the rights of those who hate them. It might make you uncomfortable, but hey, it makes me uncomfortable that some people want to impose a theocracy, so I guess fair is fair.
I do agree that eHarmony shouldn't have been forced to provide services to a demographic they didn't want to, so long as it wasn't openly discriminatory, but they did not call themselves a Christian organization or advertise themselves in that manner. Is the store I work at a 'Jewish store' just because the owner is Jewish?
Also, I can't stand this conflagration of Christianity with whatever-you-want-to-call-the-animosity-you-have-towards-gay-people. It isn't a tenet of Christianity, and a very very large percentage of Christians don't agree with it. I know your criteria for whether a church is True Christian is where they stand on the "issue" of gay people, but that's not what the world at large uses.