Nora! Your father wants you to be safe! That's more important than pride. If Dad will accept it, pay it back. If not, remember this story, please. My mother was on Social Security. Daddy had died when I was only 30 because he was much older and he had been self employed most of his life. The rest of the time he was in the British Navy, so no military pension, only a small Social Security Check, and my mother had been a stay at home mother.
One day she asked my teen-aged daughter to take her somewhere if I allowed her to drive my car. When they came back, she had a beautiful bronze fireplace set for me. I didn't have one for our stone fireplace, but just had to buy too many other things for the "new" house. I told her she shouldn't have done that, because I knew she couldn't afford even a second hand set. I went for my checkbook and insisted that I would have bought it anyway and thanked her for finding such a bargain. Her face dropped. "Jeanie, would you deprive me one of the few joys I have left in my life?" Well, I immediately changed my tune. Giving IS one of life's greatest joys. My mother would rather have gone hungry than not to find and buy a bargain for her family now and then. She loved a bargain, and loved to give. I had insulted her beyond belief! I will never forget the look on her face, and never insulted her again.
What we did was buy tickets for Stars on Ice or make reservations at an especially nice restaurant, or buy tickets for the symphony--and surprise her. She had spent her whole life doing for others, and had never been to places like that. Sometimes it was a bit of a hardship for us, but oh, what joy it brought us all. We had learned one of life's most important lessons!