mother and daughter problems

fill0000

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Ok, our mother cat had kittens 2 years ago, and we kept one, so they are mother and daughter, we thought it would be nice.

We love both cats, although the thing is, even 2 years later the daughter cat is still fighting with her mother, she always starts it, she will often wait behind doors, jump on the mother while shes sleeping or just run at her while shes eating.

The mother used to be a lovely cat before all this, she is now very nervious and doesn't like to be around the daughter cat, if we show her any love the daughter will most likely pounce on her and attack her, its like shes very spoilt.

I've tried seperating them to some degree after they fight, but this doesn't solve anything really, she'll only go and attack her next time.

I'm just confused, i mean, the fights look farely brutal but last very quick and often end in the mother growling and hissing then its over, the mother is also twice the size of the daughter and has much bigger legs and paws but she doesnt seem to defend herself, she has like a really low self asteem.

on the other hand, the daughter is a very settled cat, perfectly fine with sleeping infront of the fireplace all night.. or on your lap... the other one tends to sleep in the cold kitchen all night... her own choice though.

has anyone any tips? i just want them too get on with each other abit more.
 

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Originally Posted by fill0000

2 years later the daughter cat is still fighting with her mother, she always starts it, she will often wait behind doors, jump on the mother while shes sleeping or just run at her while shes eating.
... the fights look farely brutal but last very quick and often end in the mother growling and hissing then its over
Because the mom is the one ending the confrontation, it sounds like the daughter is just rough playing and the mom does not like it. How old is the mom cat?
Remember too that a 2 year old cat is an adult with a mind of a playful kitten.
 

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Originally Posted by fill0000

Ok, our mother cat had kittens 2 years ago, and we kept one, so they are mother and daughter, we thought it would be nice.

We love both cats, although the thing is, even 2 years later the daughter cat is still fighting with her mother, she always starts it, she will often wait behind doors, jump on the mother while shes sleeping or just run at her while shes eating.

The mother used to be a lovely cat before all this, she is now very nervious and doesn't like to be around the daughter cat, if we show her any love the daughter will most likely pounce on her and attack her, its like shes very spoilt.

I've tried seperating them to some degree after they fight, but this doesn't solve anything really, she'll only go and attack her next time.

I'm just confused, i mean, the fights look farely brutal but last very quick and often end in the mother growling and hissing then its over, the mother is also twice the size of the daughter and has much bigger legs and paws but she doesnt seem to defend herself, she has like a really low self asteem.

on the other hand, the daughter is a very settled cat, perfectly fine with sleeping infront of the fireplace all night.. or on your lap... the other one tends to sleep in the cold kitchen all night... her own choice though.

has anyone any tips? i just want them too get on with each other abit more.
It's just the mature cat reacting to the juvenile angst.
 

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You've gotten advice to essentially not worry about, but I'm not sure that's the best idea. It really depends on whether the momma cat just doesn't want to play and simply stops the play or is actually being bothered by her daughter. I'd suggest a vet visit for the momma cat to make sure she's okay. Chronic health problems can make cats appear to be grumpy.

I have two sister cats, and at about 3 years of age they started to dislike each other. They didn't curl up and sleep together any more, Artemis would hiss at Athena sometimes, and play sessions always ended with Artemis hissing to stop them. It turned out that Artemis was suffering from feline asthma, and I guess she just didn't have the breath to play. She's doing much better now, the cats sleep curled up with each other, play fight a lot, and I no longer hear hissing at all.

Just from reading comments on an internet board it's really hard to tell what's going on, which is one many reasons why we tell people to go to a vet for medical problems. It can be easy to imagine problematic human emotions in what is happy play fighting, and it can also be easy to miss behavioral signals of illness. Have you mentioned this to your vet?
 
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