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Author is Unknown:

I know what you're thinking. You think I'm dead. Because you cannot
see me with your human eye, cannot feel me, with your hands or hold
me in your arms. You think I am gone forever.
You recall how I looked when I left this place and you cannot
remotely imagine that I could possibly be alive in another place.
You are racked and torn by the pain of our separation and it blinds
you to that which is right in front of you ... me.
How many times since I left your immediate sight have you been told
that I'm dead and you should "get over it"... How many times have you
cried yourself to sleep because you feel like an outcast, believing
you're supposed to get over me because that's what people say is
normal... but somehow you can't and no one seems to understand?
How many times have you put yourself through such excruciating pain
because you aren't willing to consider that I am not, by any means,

I want you to do me a favour and go back in time with me. Remember
the glorious day I came into your home- was I not the most intriguing
creature you'd ever met? Did I not make you laugh and giggle?
Did I not look at you with such adoration that you wanted nothing
more than to spend the rest of your life with me? I wanted this too.

Remember the days when I was in my prime and we did many things
together. You were so proud of me! I was a good friend and I took
care of you when you cried, were angry or felt down and unhappy.
When you didn't have a lot of time for me because of your
obligations, I waited patiently for you. I was always there when you
needed me. Did I not look at you with such acceptance and patience
that at times you felt perhaps a bit unworthy? You were never
unworthy in my eyes.

Remember when age crept up on me, my bones became stiff and my
movements slower. Still I met you at the door when you came home and
followed you around the house. We'd been together for so long, I was
your very best friend regardless of what you were doing, saying,
thinking. Did I not look at you with such kindness and understanding
that you felt overwhelmed? I couldn't get enough of you.

Remember the last time we saw each other with earthly eyes? You tried
to be brave but I knew you were crying ... I know you so well. Better
than anyone else in the whole world. Did I not look at you with such
pure trust and love that you yearned only to hold me close and keep
me with you always? Did you not promise that you would love me
forever? I believed you. If this is so then why have you let me go by
thinking I no longer exist?

Remember the depth in my eyes all those times I looked at you with
adoration, acceptance, patience, trust and love. Who created this
depth and love? Would the Creator diminish the song of our laughter
which was created in the name of love? I am no longer an earthly
figure, this is true. My body was only part of who I really am. My
body would have been but a mere shell on earth if it were not filled
to overflowing with my soul, my spirit, my loving light.

When we met you thought I was cute, sweet, pretty and adorable. But
what kind of relationship would we have had if this is all that I'd
been? How could you have loved me if I'd had no spiritual substance?
We are all made up of energy which resides far deep down inside of
us, it is our core, our soul, spirit and loving light. It is the
energy that is all of life ... it has no beginning, it has no end. It
simply is and always will be and without it there is no life. You
can't see it with the naked eye nor can you hold it in your hand, it
is simply a certain knowing that this energy does exist. It's a
knowing just as you know that our love existed on earth -
you couldn't see our love in a solid sense, you couldn't gather it
all up and confine it to one place. But you *knew* it existed. There
was no doubt in your mind.They demand you get over me, insisting that
I'm dead and you'll never see me again because animals don't go to
Heaven. Oh really? I'm here to tell you different. You were worthy of
my love and undying devotion on earth as I was of yours. Do you
really believe this love would be snatched from us *forever* by a
loving Creator simply because I wasn't human? Was I not a
living, breathing creation with personality? How could I have been so
if I didn't possess the energy of soul, spirit and loving light? And
if this energy is and always will be, then how can it be that I am
dead? If my core is not of the energy that is all of life then I was
never alive to begin with.

But you know better.You cry because you miss me, this I understand. I
miss you too - I miss the belly rubs, hugs and kisses that we shared.
But life does go on beyond these wonderful, fulfilling physical
connections. I came to this place to live a whole new life, not
because I didn't love you anymore or because I wanted something
better. I came here because it was time for me to go to the next
phase of my existence, something all living creatures must do
eventually. It is the normal progression of life. I was not taken
away from you because you cannot take away that which was never
owned. My presence in your life was and is a gift to be cherished and
honoured just as I cherish and honour you.

Life is not simply about being born into a body, living a certain
number of years and then dying. Energy cannot die. We are blessed
with time in a body so that we can learn, share and grow. It prepares
us for the next phase of our eternal life. The body holds within it
the true life force of our existence ...our soul, spirit and loving
light. Without these our bodies would be empty, blank, void of
feeling and expression. Without our energy we would indeed be dead
and could never have experienced our love for each other.

You say that all you have left are memories. Not so. You see, when I
took leave of my earthly body I left a little something behind for
you. You can't touch it, hold it or examine it. For what I left
behind is far too uninhibited for confinement. I left behind a piece
of my soul. I placed it right next to your own which is quite fitting
as we were always side by side in our earthly life together. I love
you too much to have left you with nothing but memories which tend to
fade and grow cloudy as the years go by. I love you too much to have
vanished without a trace. How selfish it would be of me to remove
love and light from your life.I understand your tears, each one you
shed is testament to your love for me and I am honoured and humbled.
But don't forget the good things we shared -

remember and smile. This is an honour for me as well. And when you
need me I will be here. Close your eyes, relax, take slow, deep
breaths and picture me in your mind. Shut off the world and your
notions of what death is and give me a chance. Look for the subtle
signs I send you. Don't stop being proud of me, I am a friend to be
proud of, I am still your friend and soul mate. Don't memorialise the
death of my body but instead honour and celebrate my never-ending
life for it is eternal and forever as is my love for you.

Until we meet again...
post #2 of 45
that is so beautiful
post #3 of 45
Everything that I read was so true, and it was just what I needed to hear, thanks Valerie
post #4 of 45
Wow, that had me crying. I'm glad I came across this. Thank you for sharing this.
post #5 of 45
That's so inspirational...*sight*
post #6 of 45
thank you
post #7 of 45
Mary Anne - did you write that? It's very moving and beautiful. I have not lost any of my kitties yet, but nevertheless there is great comfort in the words.

I brought me to tears - my colleagues are now looking at me and thinking . . . 'hormones'!!!!!!
post #8 of 45
Thread Starter 
No Yola-

The author is Unknown- a friend sent this to me after Shredder died, and although it was so long to read, it was also so right-on in what it said, I kept it and will pass it along in the hopes it speaks to others as deeply as it did to me.
post #9 of 45

That was very touching.
post #10 of 45
Originally posted by hissy
No Yola-

The author is Unknown- a friend sent this to me after Shredder died, and although it was so long to read, it was also so right-on in what it said, I kept it and will pass it along in the hopes it speaks to others as deeply as it did to me.
Awesome! I have a major mop-up job to do after reading that -- you're right, though, it's absolutely bang-on.

[Thanks so much -- from Chinook, Percy, Shasta, Gryphon, Nibs and Samantha -- and untold other critters over the years -- for sharing this where our human could see it. OOPS, there she goes again!]

post #11 of 45
The tears just poured over my keyboard when I read this.
post #12 of 45
Hissy this made me cry and think,thank you Sherral
post #13 of 45
that was so moving. it made me think back to the good times i had with my pets. i miss them terribly but i know i'll see them again someday. i truly believe that i have felt their presence with me and watching over me countless times. thank you so much for sharing this.
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Thank you so much. I am writing this through my sobs. I needed to read that my midnight will be gone 2 years on Nov. 1, 2003. I miss him terribly. He was only in my life for a short time but he meant the world to me. It validates my feelings.
post #15 of 45
That was beautiful - thanks for posting this
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Despite the fact that I put my sweet Savannah to rest this very evening, this story was bittersweet and healing for me. Thank you for sharing it, Hissy. I truly believe that our animal companions will be with us when we, too, "cross over."

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I was trying not to cry, and it's been over 2 years since the cat I was thinking about passed away. Thanks for sharing. It is oh so true that the memories may become cloudy, but the love will not. I bet it will be 5 years, and I'll still have that affection for Tiger... forever.
post #18 of 45
Oh, what a good cry! Thank you for sharing this..I feel a wonderful closure for which I've been searching over a baby I lost years ago. We all snuggle a little closer to our babies today!
post #19 of 45
Man, that really hits home-and all my cats are alive and well.
post #20 of 45
Hissy, Thank you for sharing this. My cat just passed away for a week. I have been crying so much. I really miss her. I do feel better after reading this... and I hope I can see her again someday.
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I was on this site to help to get some info on adjusting a new cat to a home, as our house is adopting our first cat in 3 years as a friend needs to find their cat a home.. a while ago our home lost our dog to aggression. We had her put to sleep despite how much we loved her.. and afterwords I kept asking my fiancee where did she go? Where is her soul now?.. this helped alot.. as well as the many different websites about grief and guilt.. all I can say is that I feel honoured that I had my dog in my life and that I learned more about love from her than from anyone else..


post #22 of 45
This just moves me,and holds me. Thanx for sharing, I will never forget this.
post #23 of 45
Thank you so much for that, Hissy. It does hit the spot, doesn't it? Hope you feel back to your self again very soon!
post #24 of 45
hissy that was lovely thanx for sharing that
post #25 of 45
I just recently had to take my beloved Taffey Two to have him put down. It was one of the worst things I have ever had to do. But I saw the poem "Crossing The Bridge" before he actually was not physically there. I was holding him and telling him everything was alright and how much I loved him. He knew what was coming, and he looked into my eyes and told me it was ok. I still have not stopped crying... I miss him so much... But the life he was living was not him... He was paralyzed... I could not see him live that way, he was not Taffey.

My love goes out to him and his two predecessors, Dunno and Spuds... It never gets easy..

All of my love to the ones who have preceded us... I will never forget any of you.............
post #26 of 45
This is absolutely beautiful. I am crying.
post #27 of 45
That was so beautiful. I lost my Sweety while I was in the hospital in 2000 with a broken hip. I was so devistated, I never had the chance to say goodbye. Somehow she got out of the house when my parents were over, looking after things. It was dead of whinter, January & she was a 19yr old house cat. Someone found her 15 blocks away from my house & took her to the pound. She was very sick by this time, as you can imagin, & they put her to sleep. I know she was old, but I still can't help wondering if my vet couldn't have saved her. It wouldn't have mattered how much the cost, she was worth it. We had been through so much together & as you said she was there, right by my side through it all. My parents were so worried about telling me, they waited 3 day's. My mother finally spoke to my doctor, who ordered me some valium. I think the nurse thought I was nuts. I cried all day, wouldn't eat or go to physical therapy. I just stayed in my bed & cried. It's been 4 yrs & I'm crying now as I wright this.
I made the mistake of trying to replacer, not once, but twice. Both died. The first passed away just a few weeks shy of her 1st b-day--cancer. The second, I even named sweetie, died 4months shy of her 3rd b-day. I have stopped trying to replace her. I have other cats, she was my 1st & oldest.
My oldest now is a 14yr old tabby named Romeo & he lives up to his name. He even mad a cat lover out of my grandpa who used to hat cat's. He now has 2 of his own. Romeo has problems with his bladder. Not stones or crystals, or even infection, it gets irritated & starts to bleed. The vet has cultured his urine 3 times & has never found bacteria. She treats him with steroids, & antibiotics. She says the antibiotics are to prevent infection while he is on steroids. He is on special food (Nutro Maxcat), we have been through 3 different kinds of food & this is the only one he will eat. I still have trouble keeping weight on him. The other cats like that I feed him so frequently, wet or dry, whatever he will eat. If I'm not watching the others run in & eat what he leaves. They are all a little overweight! If anyone has any advise I'ed be greatful. I've spent close to 1000$ in vet bills on him in the last year & will spend whatever it takes. My dad thinks I'm nut's--"he's just a cat!" I say "dad I wouldn't have you put to sleep if you had bladder problems." He get's so madd at me, I don't care. It's my money, not his!!!!!
Thank you again & God bless you,
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I want to thank you for the lovely post and let you know that my Chocholate Point Siamese named Casper went to kitty heaven at 3pm CST yesterday(3/22/05). I feel I made the best decision and now can reflect on the 6 years of "good times" I shared with him.
I have 3 other cats that are healthy and loved to be petted so the healing time will be much easier with them around.
He had a malignant melanoma in 2 different spots located in his mouth. He'd stopped eating and had about 24-48 hours left so I did what I thought was the best choice.He wouldn't have wanted to suffer. Thanks again so very much and it has helped a bunch. I needed to read your post today. Connie
post #29 of 45
That is in my book of memories of my beloved furbaby, Sheba.
post #30 of 45
that is absolutely lovely. I have been unfortunate enough to 'lose' 4 cats plus a foster in the last 3 years, the first two were 8 months apart, then a 20 month break, and the last two went 4 months apart. None of them knew each other, but the fact of losing cats so close together was hard. I normally take on oldies, so 3 of the 4 were 14, the foster was old, we didnt know how old. The second one that went though was only 5 years old, and she made me realise that if i had to keep going through this pain, i wanted to do it for oldies, and make sure they had a good end to life. All of them have made such a difference to my life though, and although the pain was hard, i wouldnt have been without any of them. My normal way of coping though is to take on another needy cat
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