Hi! It has been quite a while I posted here! I moved from Maryland to Utah in May for a new job and have been very busy since then.
I am currently house hunting and am facing a situation that I need advice about.
One issue is that I have some debts that I need to pay off then I can qualify for a higher loan (I have GREAT credit). If I buy a home NOW with the loan I qualify for, most likely I'd have to settle for a 2 bedroom condo/townhouse. I really want a 2-3 bedroom condo/townhouse/home WITH unique features, a small patio/backyard and almost NO fixing up needed. If I want this, then I need to reduce my debts then qualify for a higher loan.
My dad just emailed me and my brother today and suggested the following - "Maybe the answer to our housing problem would be to have Pam move into our basement for a year, she can pay off her bills and save some money for her down payments. We would need to put a door on the stairs and may be put an outside entrance to the basement also. We would need boxing gloves for Kathy and Pam but it would give her a chance to get caught up. I could check with Jerry to see how much it would cost to put the walk-in for the basement while they are doing the other work."
Here's my concerns about this-
basement is pretty dark with only 3-4 windows. I know my cats LOVES to be near windows, bask in the sun, etc. with the basement, they won't be able to see out much..But on the other hand, most cats do like being in the dark. Right?? Would they be happy in a basement with little light and can't look out the windows at birds, etc?
My mom's allegric to cats/dogs and they already have 2 dogs and 2 cats of their own. She's okay if they don't get in her face. I'm afraid if move in with my 6 cats that it might make her allegries worse EVEN if I keep all cats in the basement ONLY...
I don't want my cats and their pets to mingle for two main reasons-
I KNOW their cats and my cats will fight.
They let their pets out ALL the time. My cats are indoor ONLY. I am TERRIFIED of my cats being accidently let out and I never find them again.
I don't trust my family with my cats unfortunately because they don't share the same views I have regarding cats (I consider my cats my BABIES).
I'd have to put most of my stuff in storage.
I'm afraid that my nephew who lives down the street will come downstairs and let cats out or mess around with my stuff. (He has down syndrome and have diabetes- I LOVE him dearly but he doesn't understand boundaries- he comes over and would take things without permission, find junk food hidden and pig out on them then my family would have to give him insulin shots to help, etc!!).
I KNOW if I add a lock on the door to downstairs, it WILL offend some family members but if I can't control who enters the basement, then I won't have peace of mind. I am extremely paranoid about my cats.
My dad's talking about adding an outside entrance to the house (they're adding a laundry room on main floor so mom won't have to go downstairs since she has BAD ankles) and wall off the stairway so that way my pets and their pets can stay separate (he knows how I feel about my cats)- my concern- is it really worth it for them to go through all the hassle and pay extra to do this just so I can move in for a couple months to save money??
I LOVE my parents dearly but my mom (kathy- that's why dad said get boxing gloves for Kathy and I because he KNOWS) and I will start fighting after a couple hours together guaranteed. Also, I don't have great communication with my family (long story) because they rarely talk directly to me. Most of the time, mom or sister would interpret the conversation for me but I rarely have an opportunity to be PART of the conversation. I have explained a zillion times how I feel about this but my family doesn't get it and they will never understand fully what I mean because they don't experience what I experience on a daily basis.
I have more concerns but I don't want to bore you guys with all!!
I just need a sounding board and would LOVE to hear from you your thoughts/suggestions regarding this!!
I told dad I really appreciated the offer and will think about it. I'm hoping that I can get some ideas/advice from you. If you feel I am making a mountain out of a molehill- tell me!!
I am currently house hunting and am facing a situation that I need advice about.
One issue is that I have some debts that I need to pay off then I can qualify for a higher loan (I have GREAT credit). If I buy a home NOW with the loan I qualify for, most likely I'd have to settle for a 2 bedroom condo/townhouse. I really want a 2-3 bedroom condo/townhouse/home WITH unique features, a small patio/backyard and almost NO fixing up needed. If I want this, then I need to reduce my debts then qualify for a higher loan.
My dad just emailed me and my brother today and suggested the following - "Maybe the answer to our housing problem would be to have Pam move into our basement for a year, she can pay off her bills and save some money for her down payments. We would need to put a door on the stairs and may be put an outside entrance to the basement also. We would need boxing gloves for Kathy and Pam but it would give her a chance to get caught up. I could check with Jerry to see how much it would cost to put the walk-in for the basement while they are doing the other work."
Here's my concerns about this-
basement is pretty dark with only 3-4 windows. I know my cats LOVES to be near windows, bask in the sun, etc. with the basement, they won't be able to see out much..But on the other hand, most cats do like being in the dark. Right?? Would they be happy in a basement with little light and can't look out the windows at birds, etc?
My mom's allegric to cats/dogs and they already have 2 dogs and 2 cats of their own. She's okay if they don't get in her face. I'm afraid if move in with my 6 cats that it might make her allegries worse EVEN if I keep all cats in the basement ONLY...
I don't want my cats and their pets to mingle for two main reasons-
I KNOW their cats and my cats will fight.
They let their pets out ALL the time. My cats are indoor ONLY. I am TERRIFIED of my cats being accidently let out and I never find them again.
I don't trust my family with my cats unfortunately because they don't share the same views I have regarding cats (I consider my cats my BABIES).
I'd have to put most of my stuff in storage.
I'm afraid that my nephew who lives down the street will come downstairs and let cats out or mess around with my stuff. (He has down syndrome and have diabetes- I LOVE him dearly but he doesn't understand boundaries- he comes over and would take things without permission, find junk food hidden and pig out on them then my family would have to give him insulin shots to help, etc!!).
I KNOW if I add a lock on the door to downstairs, it WILL offend some family members but if I can't control who enters the basement, then I won't have peace of mind. I am extremely paranoid about my cats.
My dad's talking about adding an outside entrance to the house (they're adding a laundry room on main floor so mom won't have to go downstairs since she has BAD ankles) and wall off the stairway so that way my pets and their pets can stay separate (he knows how I feel about my cats)- my concern- is it really worth it for them to go through all the hassle and pay extra to do this just so I can move in for a couple months to save money??
I LOVE my parents dearly but my mom (kathy- that's why dad said get boxing gloves for Kathy and I because he KNOWS) and I will start fighting after a couple hours together guaranteed. Also, I don't have great communication with my family (long story) because they rarely talk directly to me. Most of the time, mom or sister would interpret the conversation for me but I rarely have an opportunity to be PART of the conversation. I have explained a zillion times how I feel about this but my family doesn't get it and they will never understand fully what I mean because they don't experience what I experience on a daily basis.
I have more concerns but I don't want to bore you guys with all!!
I just need a sounding board and would LOVE to hear from you your thoughts/suggestions regarding this!!
I told dad I really appreciated the offer and will think about it. I'm hoping that I can get some ideas/advice from you. If you feel I am making a mountain out of a molehill- tell me!!