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post #31 of 47
he's such a cutie!! I'm sorry you and your family are going through some really tough times and here is a lot of vibes that everything turns out alright

post #32 of 47
Sending good vibes your way.

I can only imagine how tough this must be, but it's obvious how much you love your son, and that will give you strength as well.
post #33 of 47
Thread Starter 
DH and I went to a session for just us at Ben's psychiatrist this morning. Ben came with us because he is on a second school suspension for his violent behavior.

The psychiatrist gave us the long story about how hard it is to diagnose kids especially when they are young and he wanted to prepare us for what he was going to say.

He said the Ben has Schizo-Affective disorder. Some of his symptoms may be bipolar, others are schizophrenic, anxiety disorders and Aspberger's symptoms. He was telling about gradually changing Ben's meds until he heard about the recent violent behavior towards his teachers at school. He is getting big enough to hurt them.

Immediately after hearing those stories, the psychiatrist immediately prescribed Lithium. Ben has to get a baseline blood profile before because Lithium can cause problems with the kidneys and will have to have his blood drawn 2x per week for a month. Ben is not liking this. We all told him that the times for the blood to be drawn will decrease to 1x every 6 months but is still hard.

From things that the psychiatrist has said and his psychologist has said (absolutely the best in the area, lucky for him to take us) Ben is a difficult case. He acts out but he seems to be nice. I could go into all of the things that both have said, but I am too stressed to write everything down.

Well, DH and I are going to our local wine store's Fri. evening tasting about now for the special Halloween night. It goes from 5 - 8 but we will leave so that we can take Ben trick or treating.

I made his costume. He is Draco Malfory from the Harry Potter books.

I am not sure that today was a good day or not given all that we have heard.
post #34 of 47
Lot's more vibes coming your way. Let's hope that the new meds are the turning point for Ben and things begin to improve from here on in..

post #35 of 47
Thanks for posting his picture, he is a doll. I am sending you guys all the best vibes!
What a hard thing for your whole family.
post #36 of 47
Hoping all went well tonight... would love to see Ben in his costume!
post #37 of 47
My older brother is Schizophrenic and Bipolar. He first showed symptoms at the age of 9. It was very rough growing up in a house with him when we were kids and my poor mother had such a rough time dealing with him. He is now almost thirty and things have got much better once he was out of his teens. he now lives a few blocks from my parents in his own apartment, works for my dads construction company, and is does quite well on his meds. He still has his cycles where every few months he goes off his meds, totally loses control and goes back to the hospital for a few weeks to get back on track. At this point he actually really likes the hospital and feels at home there. We do all his banking for him, take him shopping, and he eats at our houses a few times a week, but he does pretty well on his own all things considered.

Once you make it through those rough teen years things often get better. I was diagnosed as Bipolar and Generalized Anxiety Disorder as well when I was 16 but it is so much milder than your sons. It was rough in my teens but I am now in my 20's and I control it with a awesome herbal medication and other than a few hard times a year I pretty much live everyday just like your average person. I learned techniques to talk myself down out of panic attack, and was to prevent myself from falling into slumps!

I hope all turns out well for you and your son! I will be sending positive vibes your way!
post #38 of 47
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...He is now almost thirty and things have got much better once he was out of his teens...

That's so good to hear! I was hoping that might be the case.
post #39 of 47
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My older brother is Schizophrenic and Bipolar. He first showed symptoms at the age of 9. It was very rough growing up in a house with him when we were kids and my poor mother had such a rough time dealing with him. He is now almost thirty and things have got much better once he was out of his teens. he now lives a few blocks from my parents in his own apartment, works for my dads construction company, and is does quite well on his meds. He still has his cycles where every few months he goes off his meds, totally loses control and goes back to the hospital for a few weeks to get back on track. At this point he actually really likes the hospital and feels at home there. We do all his banking for him, take him shopping, and he eats at our houses a few times a week, but he does pretty well on his own all things considered.

Once you make it through those rough teen years things often get better. I was diagnosed as Bipolar and Generalized Anxiety Disorder as well when I was 16 but it is so much milder than your sons. It was rough in my teens but I am now in my 20's and I control it with a awesome herbal medication and other than a few hard times a year I pretty much live everyday just like your average person. I learned techniques to talk myself down out of panic attack, and was to prevent myself from falling into slumps!

I hope all turns out well for you and your son! I will be sending positive vibes your way!
Your comments meant so much to me and made me think in a different way. Thank you so much.
post #40 of 47
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Once you make it through those rough teen years things often get better.
that makes a lot of sense... i mean, even so-called 'normal' kids become a bit crazy with all of those rampaging hormones! having other bio-chemistry body issues would just exacerbate things!
sending on this thread for Ben, too!
post #41 of 47
Sending lots of vibes for Ben
post #42 of 47
Thread Starter 
We had a great day today! We went sight seeing to a town with interesting things to see that is a little over an hour from here. I was raining but that was okay - we need the rain.

On the drive home, Ben said that he had fun today. That means so much to DH and me. And for Ben to have had fun - priceless.
post #43 of 47
You know I have learned that if there is any upside in situations like these it's that you really learn to appreciate those tiny little things so often missed in everyday life! Like how simply "he had a good time" can mean so much and be priceless! I am glad I could help! It makes me happy when I can share a part of my life with someone and then have it help them in some way! It means its not all for nothing. Still sending those good vibes your way and hoping there are many more priceless moments to come!
post #44 of 47
Thread Starter 
Thank you so very much!
post #45 of 47
Im so glad you guys had a good day, you all really needed it
post #46 of 47
I really feel for you and your family. Mental illness can be very difficult and with such a stigma attached it can at times make it even harder. I can empathise with you, i understand the roller coaster of emotions, the ups and downs, unable to make real plans as you never know what that day will bring. You sound like you are doing the very best for your son and in time he will benefit from it. He is of course coming up to a difficult stage in any childs life when hormones start running wild and changes are quick and often. I was told by a proffesional that in times of high anxiety or irritability that suggesting an activity that needs hand and eye coordination has a good calming effect. Even a computer game could be good like that. Things like knitting (prob not something your boy would be in to but an example all the same), baseball, tennis, painting, drawing, musical instruments. The future is hard to see when your focus is demanded in the here and now. Your son though, could grow up to live a relatively independent life. He may always be on meds or have therapy or have emotinal issues, but he does have hope to be his own man. There are many positive results with 'learned behaviour', where you put in to practise what you have learnt from a therapist say and you have the knowledge to overide your own extreme behaviour. This of course would come in time. Your son is unique as are we all, he still has a future ahead of him and he has the chance to have a good one. You are certainly doing all you can to ensure that by the sound of it. As he gets older, with the help he needs, he still could do well. All the best to you and your family for now and in the future.
post #47 of 47
Thread Starter 
Well, as an update, Ben has had 2 really good days in school this week - 100 points each day (these are behavioral points). He was off school Mon and Tues so this is actually so welcome after the 2 suspensions.

I hope that things continue to get better. I am concerned about Thanksgiving week which he has off. Ben doesn't adjust to changes very well - things started to deteriorate after we returned from a vacation to see his sister at college. I hope that we can keep him focused during the break.
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