You're right about that. Years ago we had an aborted adoption (very long, very upsetting story). The boy we were thinking of adopting had been abandoned by hs biomom when he was a year old. Her parental rights weren't severed until he was 7! She was an alcoholic and a druggie, and still her rights were more important than his.
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Stupid drunk drivers...
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Oh how sad. Sorry about that... Must've been so hard!
Yes, some times... parents rights seem to take over when it should be what is best for the kids. I am all for parents raising their kids and their kids being raised by biological parents as best, but not when the biological parent is no good for the child and the child will later be just like their parent and well... You know the sad story. Our laws are so black and white, they allow no gray area's and thats why a lot of people suffer.
If they have warrants, a call to the police telling them where they are seem to be in order...
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Tried that. Because it took place in CA they wont do anything here in AZ unless she gets pulled over for something else. grr...
We almost got her caught yesterday. Our order says she cant drive so we called the cops and the cops have to follow the order too, They tried to catch her but she took a good turn and got away. It's a long story but it just ticks me off.
Chirlden have less rights then prison inmates. Are laws stand up too much for the right of the biological parent and not enough for the right of the child.
Supervised might not be possible, but you can try and have more control by droping your daughter off rather then letting her biomom pick her up. It wont stop her from driving anywhere, but it reduces the chance.
Supervised might not be possible, but you can try and have more control by droping your daughter off rather then letting her biomom pick her up. It wont stop her from driving anywhere, but it reduces the chance.
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Yeah, we actually do all drop off and pick up for daughter as far as getting her and taking her back to her biomoms, but because she moves so often and well, ALL THE TIME and never tells us when we have no idea where she is to get her and do all that, and it would conflict with BIOMOMS wishes of not having us know she has moved more than we already do know. Does that make sense? Plus my husband leaves for work at 4am and some times earlier... He cant take her to school. He can pick her up, though... but - BIOMOM works. She does not want him having her on HER time, she'd rather a friend babysat her then saying she "used his help" for anything....
Even if, BIOMOM drives regardless of picking her up and dropping her off. She drives all over, for no reason. Nothing helps really. Only thing that is going to help is to take her parenting time away and for her to follow the dang order.
It's so complicated. Thank you everyone for listening.
It's such a huge mess.
Even if, BIOMOM drives regardless of picking her up and dropping her off. She drives all over, for no reason. Nothing helps really. Only thing that is going to help is to take her parenting time away and for her to follow the dang order.
It's so complicated. Thank you everyone for listening.
It's such a huge mess.
I know a young lady who's been caring for her niece since the girl was born 4 years ago, her sister's baby. The biomom (and biodad) don't want to raise the little girl, but they refuse to relinquish her to the sister. It's all a big power trip for them.
Having said that, do you think biomom really wants to be apart of your daughter's life or is she just playing head games?
Having said that, do you think biomom really wants to be apart of your daughter's life or is she just playing head games?
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Control. Daughter has been her get out of jail FREE card. She uses her as a way of getting things " Poor single mom " etc
SHe throws her off to anyone, other than her father to care for. Room mates, People she just meets, friends, fake grandparents that she labels as her grandparents, anyone!
That would scare the cr*p out of me. There are so many nut-jobs in the world; you just can't do that with a child. I hope you and your husband can find a happy ending to this problem. Both of you deserve a (((big hug))) for taking this little girl into your hearts and your home.
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We're working hard on it.
Ok, so Daughter gets out of school around the same time my husband gets off work, right? She works, hardly ever home. Instead of having her take the bus to her dads, she rather have a baby sitter for her. My husband has asked several times that he care for her while she is busy, but to no avail, she says NO and comes up with millions of excuses as to why. She'll even say she does not work those hours, even though we know she does just to get out of letting him have her "more".
Thats what it's about too - She hardly cares for daughter. She knows it, we know it. She does not want to do what is best for daughter because if she does, my husband has more time than her and he could get more custody that way, too. She is unable to care for her, and hates to admit it!
The stupid thing about it all is that she cant afford the sitters. She went from using our family even with her UNRELATED CHILD, not paying them ever and "messing" them over. To friends of the family, never paying them and messing them around, too, then strangers and actually had some lady we did not know contact us asking us to get her money for her from biomom. The worst part about these sitters is that she does not give him( my husband, daughters dad ) THEIR contact info, in case of emergency. They have no idea who he is and he has no idea who they are. Totally messed up.
Ok, so Daughter gets out of school around the same time my husband gets off work, right? She works, hardly ever home. Instead of having her take the bus to her dads, she rather have a baby sitter for her. My husband has asked several times that he care for her while she is busy, but to no avail, she says NO and comes up with millions of excuses as to why. She'll even say she does not work those hours, even though we know she does just to get out of letting him have her "more".
Thats what it's about too - She hardly cares for daughter. She knows it, we know it. She does not want to do what is best for daughter because if she does, my husband has more time than her and he could get more custody that way, too. She is unable to care for her, and hates to admit it!
The stupid thing about it all is that she cant afford the sitters. She went from using our family even with her UNRELATED CHILD, not paying them ever and "messing" them over. To friends of the family, never paying them and messing them around, too, then strangers and actually had some lady we did not know contact us asking us to get her money for her from biomom. The worst part about these sitters is that she does not give him( my husband, daughters dad ) THEIR contact info, in case of emergency. They have no idea who he is and he has no idea who they are. Totally messed up.
